Psychology

Kusowa tulo kumasokoneza moyo wabwino. Ndipo chimodzi mwazoyambitsa zake zambiri ndikulephera kumasuka, kusagwirizana ndi kutuluka kwa chidziwitso ndi mavuto osatha. Koma katswiri wodziwa zamaganizo a Jessamy Hibberd ali wotsimikiza kuti mukhoza kudzikakamiza kugona. Ndipo imapereka zida zingapo zothandiza.

Masana, sitikhala ndi nthawi yoganizira zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe, kwenikweni, moyo umakhala ndi: bili, kugula, kukonza zazing'ono, tchuthi kapena kupita kwa dokotala. Ntchito zonsezi zimangoikidwa kumbuyo, ndipo tikangogona, mutu wathu umagwidwa. Koma tiyenera kupendabe zimene zachitika lero ndi kuganizira zimene zidzachitike mawa. Malingaliro awa amasangalatsa, amayambitsa kusakhutira ndi nkhawa. Timayesa kuthetsa mavuto onse nthawi yomweyo, ndipo pakali pano, tulo timasiya kwathunthu.

Momwe mungapewere kupsinjika muchipinda chanu Jessami Hibberd ndi mtolankhani Jo Asmar m'buku lawo1 perekani njira zingapo zothandizira kuthetsa nkhawa ndikupita ku "tulo" mode.

Lumikizanani ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti

Samalani nthawi yomwe mumathera pa intaneti. Zidzakudabwitsani kuti nthawi zambiri timafikira mafoni athu osaganizira. Tikamaganizira zimene tikufuna kunena komanso mmene anthu angaonekere, zimakhudza maganizo ndi thupi lathu. Ola popanda kulankhulana m'mawa ndi maola angapo madzulo adzakupatsani mpumulo wofunikira. Bisani foni yanu pamalo omwe simungathe kuifikira ndi dzanja lanu, mwachitsanzo, ikani m'chipinda china ndikuyiwala kwa kanthawi.

Pezani nthawi yosinkhasinkha

Chikumbumtima chathu, monga thupi, chimazolowera dongosolo linalake. Ngati mumaganizira nthawi zonse za tsiku lanu ndikuliyamikira mutagona pabedi, ndiye kuti munayamba kuchita izi nthawi iliyonse yomwe munagona pansi. Kuti musinthe kalembedwe kameneka, patulani nthawi yosinkhasinkha madzulo musanagone. Poganizira zomwe zidachitika, momwe mukumvera komanso momwe mukumvera, ndiye kuti mukuchotsa mutu wanu, ndikudzipatsa mwayi wokonza zinthu ndikupitilira.

Konzani mphindi 15 muzolemba zanu kapena pafoni yanu ngati "nthawi ya alamu" kuti ikhale "yovomerezeka"

Khalani kwa mphindi 15 penapake pawekha, tcherani khutu, kuganizira zomwe mumakonda kuziganizira usiku. Lembani mndandanda wa ntchito zofunika kuchita mwamsanga, ndi kuzikonza mogwirizana ndi zofunika kwambiri. Dulani zinthu zamtundu uliwonse mukamaliza kuti muwonjezere chidwi. Konzani mphindi khumi ndi zisanu mu diary yanu kapena pafoni yanu kuti ikhale "yovomerezeka"; kotero mumazolowera mwachangu. Poyang'ana zolemba izi, mutha kubwerera m'mbuyo ndikudzilola kuti muzitha kuthana nazo mosanthula m'malo motengera malingaliro.

Pezani nthawi yodandaula

"Bwanji ngati" mafunso okhudzana ndi ntchito, ndalama, mabwenzi, banja, ndi thanzi amatha kudziluma usiku wonse ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhudzana ndi nkhani kapena zochitika zinazake. Kuti muthane ndi izi, patulani mphindi 15 kuti mukhale nokha ngati "nthawi yodetsa nkhawa" - nthawi ina masana pomwe mutha kukonza malingaliro anu (monga momwe mumayika "nthawi yoganiza"). Ngati mawu okayika amkati ayamba kunong'oneza: "Mphindi khumi ndi zisanu pa tsiku - kodi mwapenga?" - kunyalanyaza iye. Bwererani mmbuyo pazochitikazo kwa sekondi imodzi ndikuganiza za kupusa kotani kusiya chinthu chomwe chimakhudza moyo wanu chifukwa chakuti simungathe kudzipatula nokha. Mukamvetsetsa kuti ndizosamveka bwanji, pitilizani ntchitoyo.

  1. Pezani malo opanda phokoso kumene palibe amene angakuvutitseni, ndi kulemba mndandanda wa nkhawa zanu zazikulu, monga "Bwanji ngati sindingathe kulipira ngongole zanga mwezi uno?" kapena “Bwanji ngati nditachotsedwa ntchito?”
  2. Dzifunseni kuti, “Kodi kuda nkhawa kumeneku n’koyenera?” Ngati yankho ndi ayi, chotsani chinthucho pamndandandawo. Chifukwa chiyani mukuwononga nthawi yamtengo wapatali pa chinthu chomwe sichingachitike? Komabe, ngati yankho lili inde, pitirirani ku sitepe yotsatira.
  3. Kodi mungatani? Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti simungathe kulipira ngongole zanu pamwezi, bwanji osapeza ngati mungachedwetse kulipira? Ndipo nthawi yomweyo konzekerani bajeti yanu m'njira yoti mudziwe ndendende kuchuluka kwa zomwe mumapeza komanso ndalama zomwe mumawononga? Kodi simungapemphe upangiri kapena / kapena kubwereka kwa achibale?
  4. Sankhani njira yomwe ikuwoneka yodalirika kwambiri, ndikuzigawa kukhala masitepe ang'onoang'ono, monga: "Imbani foni nthawi ya 9 am. Funsani njira zolipirira zomwe zachedwetsedwa. Kenako kambiranani ndi ndalama, ndalama ndi ndalama. Dziwani kuti ndatsala ndi ndalama zingati mu akaunti yanga mpaka kumapeto kwa mwezi. Ngati muli ndi zolemba zotere pamaso panu, sizingakhale zoopsa kwambiri kukumana ndi vuto lanu. Pokhazikitsa nthawi yochitira zimenezi, mukudzikakamiza kuchitapo kanthu, m’malo mozengereza kuthetsa vutolo mpaka tsiku lotsatira.
  5. Fotokozani mmene zinthu zinalili zomwe zingalepheretse ganizoli kukwaniritsidwa, mwachitsanzo: "Bwanji ngati kampaniyo sinandipatse malipiro ochedwetsedwa?" - dziwani momwe mungathetsere vutoli. Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe mungachite popanda mwezi uno kuti mulipire bilu yanu? Kodi mungaphatikizepo njira iyi ndi ena ndikuwonjezedwa pa deti lanu lolipira kapena kufunsa wina kuti akubwerekeni?
  6. Mu maminiti a 15 bwererani ku bizinesi yanu osaganiziranso za nkhawa. Tsopano muli ndi dongosolo ndipo mwakonzeka kuchitapo kanthu. Ndipo musapite mmbuyo ndikupita ku "bwanji ngati?" - sichidzatsogolera ku chilichonse. Mukayamba kuganiza za chinthu chomwe chimakudetsani nkhawa mukalowa pabedi, dzikumbutseni kuti mutha kuziganizira posachedwa "zodetsa nkhawa."
  7. Ngati masana mumabwera ndi malingaliro ofunikira pamutu wosangalatsa, musawachotse: lembani m'kope kuti muthe kuyang'ana pa nthawi yopuma yanu ya mphindi khumi ndi zisanu. Mukamaliza kulemba, bwereraninso ku zomwe muyenera kuchita. Kulemba malingaliro anu okhudza kuthetsa vutoli kumachepetsa kuuma kwake ndikukuthandizani kuti muone kuti zinthu zatha.

Tsatirani dongosolo lokhazikika

Khazikitsani lamulo lolimba: Nthawi ina mukakhala ndi maganizo oipa pa nthawi yogona, dziuzeni kuti: “Ino si nthawi yake.” Bedi ndi la kugona, osati maganizo opweteka. Nthawi zonse mukakhala kuti muli ndi nkhawa kapena muli ndi nkhawa, dziuzeni kuti mubwereranso ku nkhawa zanu panthawi yomwe yakhazikitsidwa ndipo nthawi yomweyo muzingoyang'ana ntchito zomwe muli nazo. Khalani okhwima kwa inu nokha, kuchedwetsa maganizo osokoneza mtsogolo; musalole chidziwitso kuyang'ana m'magawo anthawi yochepa awa. M'kupita kwa nthawi, ichi chidzakhala chizolowezi.

1 J. Hibberd ndi J. Asmar «Buku ili lidzakuthandizani kugona» (Eksmo, yokonzekera kumasulidwa mu September 2016).

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