Pali zopinga zambiri pakupanga kuzindikira. Kwa ambiri aife, choyipa kwambiri mwa izi ndi "wotsutsa wathu wamkati". Zomveka, zolimba, zosatopa komanso zokhutiritsa. Amabwera ndi zifukwa zambiri zomwe sitiyenera kulemba, kujambula, kujambula, kuyimba zida zoimbira, kuvina, komanso kuyesa kuzindikira luso lathu la kulenga. Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji cholembera ichi?
"Mwina kuli bwino kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi? Kapena kudya. Kapena kugona…zilibe zomveka, inu simukudziwa kuchita chirichonse. Mukufuna kupusitsa ndani, palibe amene amasamala zomwe mukufuna kunena ndi luso lanu! Izi ndi zomwe liwu la wotsutsa wamkati limamveka. malinga ndi kufotokoza kwa woimba, wopeka ndi wojambula Peter Himmelman. Malingana ndi iye, ndi mawu amkati awa omwe amamulepheretsa kwambiri panthawi yolenga. Peter anamupatsanso dzina — Marv (Marv — short for Majorly Afraid of Revealing Vulnerability — «Kuopa kwambiri kusonyeza kufooka»).
Mwinanso wotsutsa wanu wamkati akunong'onezanso chimodzimodzi. Mwina nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chifukwa chake ino si nthawi yoti apangire zinthu. Chifukwa chiyani kuli bwino kutsuka mbale ndikupachika zovala. N’chifukwa chiyani kuli bwino kusiya musanayambe n’komwe? Kupatula apo, lingaliro lanu silinali loyambirira. Ndipo inunso si katswiri. Koma sudziwa kalikonse!
Ngakhale wotsutsa wanu akulankhula mosiyana, nkosavuta kwambiri kugwa pansi pa chisonkhezero chake.
N’zosavuta kumulola kuti azilamulira zochita zathu. Limbikitsani zaluso, chisangalalo, chikhumbo chopanga, kufotokoza nokha ndikugawana malingaliro ndi malingaliro ndi dziko. Ndipo zonse chifukwa timakhulupirira kuti wotsutsa akunena zoona. Choonadi chenicheni.
Ngakhale ngati wotsutsa wanu wamkati anganene chowonadi, simuyenera kumvetsera kwa iye.
Koma ngakhale mawu a kaunjika ali ndi njere yachoonadi, simukuyenera kumvera! Simuyenera kusiya kulemba, kupanga, kuchita. Simuyenera kutenga wotsutsa wanu wamkati mozama. Mutha kumuchitira mwamasewera kapena modabwitsa (mawonekedwe awa ndiwothandizanso pakulenga).
Patapita nthawi, Peter Himmelman anazindikira munganene chiyani kwa wotsutsa wanu wamkati ngati "Marv, zikomo chifukwa cha upangiri. Koma tsopano ndikhala pansi ndikulemba kwa ola limodzi kapena awiri, kenako nkubwera kudzandikwiyitsa monga momwe mungafunire ”(Chabwino, chabwino? Kulankhula mwamphamvu ndikuthandizira kumasula. Likuwoneka ngati yankho losavuta, koma nthawi yomweyo nthawi sichoncho). Himmelman anazindikira kuti Marv sanali mdani kwenikweni. Ndipo “zozizwitsa” zathu zikuyesetsa kutisokoneza ndi zolinga zabwino.
Mantha athu amapanga censor yemwe amabwera ndi zifukwa zopanda malire kuti asapange.
"Ndidazindikira kuti Marv sakuyesera kusokoneza zomwe ndikuchitakuti uku ndikudzitchinjiriza komwe kumapangidwa ndi limbic dera lauXNUMXbuXNUMXbour ubongo. Ngati galu wachiwewe akutithamangitsa, akanakhala Marv yemwe angakhale "udindo" wotulutsa adrenaline, yomwe ndi yofunika kwambiri kwa ife mwadzidzidzi.
Tikachita chinthu chomwe chimatiwopseza ndi "kuvulazidwa" m'malingaliro (mwachitsanzo, kudzudzula komwe kumatipweteka), Marv amayesanso kutiteteza. Koma ngati muphunzira kusiyanitsa pakati pa kuopa ziwopsezo zenizeni (monga galu wachiwewe) ndi nkhawa zopanda pake za kunyozeka pang’ono kotheka, ndiye kuti liwu losokoneza lidzakhala chete. Ndipo titha kubwereranso kuntchito, "akutero Peter Himmelman.
Mantha athu amapanga censor kubwera ndi zifukwa zopanda malire kuti musapange. Kodi kuopa kudzudzulidwa ndi chiyani? Walephera? Kuopa kusasindikizidwa? Kodi wotsanzira wapakati ndi chiyani?
Mwina inu kulenga chabe chifukwa mumasangalala ndondomeko palokha. Amabweretsa chisangalalo. Chisangalalo chenicheni. Chifukwa chabwino kwambiri
Pamene wotsutsa wamkati ayamba kukwiya, vomerezani kukhalapo kwake. Zindikirani zolinga zake. Mwinanso kuthokoza Marv wanu monga Himmelman adachitira. Yesani kuchita nthabwala za izo. Chitani zomwe mukuwona kuti ndi zoyenera. Ndiyeno kubwerera ku zilandiridwenso. Chifukwa wotsutsa wamkati nthawi zambiri samamvetsetsa kuzama, kufunikira, ndi mphamvu ya chikhumbo chanu chopanga.
Mwinamwake mukulemba chinachake chimene wina adzakhala wofunika kwambiri kuchiŵerenga. Kapena pangani china chake chomwe chingathandize anthu kuti asavutike ndi kusungulumwa. Mwina mukuchita chinachake chomwe chingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa nokha kapena dziko lanu. Kapena mwinamwake mumapanga chifukwa chakuti mumakonda ndondomeko yokha. Amabweretsa chisangalalo. Chisangalalo chenicheni. Chifukwa chabwino kwambiri.
Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ziribe kanthu chifukwa chomwe mupangira, musasiye.Pitirizani mu mzimu womwewo!