Momwe mungalere mwana woyembekezera

Palibe phunziro ngati limeneli pamaphunziro asukulu. Monga, komabe, palibe amene amaphunzitsa za chiyembekezo kunyumba. Marina Melia, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso mphunzitsi, ananena kuti: “Nthawi zambiri ndimafunsa makolo makhalidwe amene amafuna kukulitsa mwa ana awo, ndipo sanatchulepo zoti angachite bwino. - Chifukwa chiyani? Mwinamwake, mawuwa amatanthauza kusadziwa, kusowa kuganiza mozama, chizolowezi choyang'ana dziko kudzera mu magalasi amtundu wa rozi. M'malo mwake, kukhala ndi moyo wotsimikizira moyo sikumathetsa malingaliro ozama pazochitika zenizeni, koma kumathandizira kulimba mtima ku zovuta komanso kufunitsitsa kukwaniritsa zolinga.

“Kulingalira kokhala ndi chiyembekezo kwazikidwa pa kudzidalira, kukhoza kupeza njira yothetsera vuto lirilonse, ndi kupirira,” akukumbutsa motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Oleg Sychev. Koma kodi makolo omwe ali ndi kaimidwe kosiyana ndi kosakaikira moyo angaphunzitse mwana ameneyu?

Kumbali ina, ana amaphunzira mwadala mmene timaonera dziko, kukhala ndi maganizo, zochita, maganizo. Koma kumbali ina, "wopanda chiyembekezo yemwe amadziwa bwino mfundo zamaganizo abwino amakhala "wophunzira bwino", munthu wokhazikika, wosagonjetsedwa ndi zovuta komanso wolimbikitsa," Oleg Sychev amakhulupirira. Chifukwa chake mwayi wopanga mwana kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kwa iwo eni komanso dziko lapansi mwa kholo lodziwa zamaganizo ndi wabwino.

1. Yankhani zofuna zake

Mwana wamng'ono amatulukira dziko. Molimba mtima amatuluka m’malo omwe amawazoloŵera, amayesa, kununkhiza, kukhudza, kutenga masitepe oyambirira. Kumulola kuyesa ndikofunikira, koma sikokwanira. "Kuti mwana azisangalala ndi zochita zodziimira payekha komanso kuti asataye chidwi ndi kufufuza, amafunikira thandizo la akuluakulu, kuyankha pa nthawi yake pa zosowa zake," Oleg Sychev akuti. "Kupanda kutero, amazolowera kuyembekezera zoyipa kwambiri, kuyambira kwa anthu apamtima, kenako padziko lonse lapansi."

Thandizani zoyesayesa zake, mvetserani, yankhani mafunso ndipo musaiwale kugawana zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala - mudziwitseni nyimbo, chilengedwe, kuwerenga, kumulola kuti achite zomwe zimamukonda. Mlekeni akule ndi chikhulupiriro chakuti moyo ukukonzekeretsa chimwemwe chochuluka. Izi ndi zokwanira kuyesetsa tsogolo.

2. Khalanibe ndi chikhulupiriro chakuti zinthu zikuyenda bwino

Mwana yemwe nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi mavuto osatha amadziunjikira kukhumudwa komanso kusowa thandizo, malingaliro opanda chiyembekezo amawonekera: "Sindingathebe kupambana", "Palibe chifukwa ngakhale kuyesa", "Sindingathe", ndi zina zotero. Makolo ayenera kuchita chiyani? ? Bwerezani mosalekeza “Mwatha, mungathe”? Oleg Sychev akufotokoza kuti: “N’zomveka kutamanda ndi kulimbikitsa mwana pamene ntchitoyo ili m’manja mwake, akakhala kuti ali pafupi ndi zotsatirapo zake ndipo akusowa chipiriro. "Koma ngati zovutazo zikugwirizana ndi kusowa kwa chidziwitso ndi luso kapena kusamvetsetsa zomwe angasinthe muzochita zawo, zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri kuti musagwedeze kumbuyo, koma kufotokozera mofatsa zomwe mungachite ndi momwe angachitire. athandizeni kudziŵa bwino luso/chidziwitso chimene alibe.”

Limbikitsani mwana wanu kuganiza kuti vuto lirilonse likhoza kuthetsedwa paokha (ngati muchita khama, kupeza zambiri, kuphunzira njira yabwino) kapena mothandizidwa ndi wina. Mukumbutseni kuti sichachilendo kufunafuna chithandizo, ntchito zambiri zitha kuthetsedwa pamodzi ndipo ena angasangalale kumuthandiza ndikuchita zinazake limodzi - ndizabwino kwambiri!

3. Ganizirani zomwe mukuchita

Kodi mumaona zimene mumanena kwa ana nthawi zambiri akalakwitsa zinazake? Marina Melia anati: “Maganizo awo amadalira kwambiri zochita zathu. Mwanayo anapunthwa n’kugwa. Adzamva chiyani? Njira yoyamba: "Ndiwe wopusa bwanji! Ana onse ali ngati ana, ndipo uyu ndithudi adzasonkhanitsa tokhala onse. Ndipo chachiwiri: "Chabwino, zimachitika! Msewu ndi woipa, samalani.

Kapena chitsanzo china: mwana wasukulu anabweretsa deuce. Kusintha koyamba kwa zomwe anachita: “Zimakhala chonchi ndi inu nthawi zonse. Ukuwoneka kuti sukudziwa nkomwe." Ndipo yachiwiri: “Mwina simunakonzekere bwino. Nthawi ina muyenera kusamala kwambiri kuthetsa zitsanzo.

"Poyamba, timayika chikhulupiliro chakuti zonse zimakhala zovuta kwa mwana" ndipo "chilichonse chimene mukuchita n'chachabechabe," akufotokoza motero katswiriyo. - Ndipo chachiwiri, timamudziwitsa kuti chokumana nacho choyipa chidzamuthandiza kuthana ndi zovuta m'tsogolomu. Uthenga wabwino wa makolo: "Tikudziwa momwe tingakonzere izi, sitibwerera m'mbuyo, tikuyang'ana zosankha ndipo tipeza zotsatira zabwino."

4. Khalani ndi Chizolowezi Chakupirira

Mlandu wamba: mwana, atakumana ndi zolephera, amasiya zomwe adayamba. Kodi mungamuphunzitse bwanji kuti asamasewere zolakwika? Oleg Sychev anati: “Mumufunse kuti, kodi m’maganizo mwake, n’chiyani chinayambitsa mavutowo. "Muthandizeni kuzindikira kuti sizimakhudza kwambiri luso, koma kuti ntchito yotereyi imafuna khama, chidziwitso ndi luso lomwe lingapezeke ngati simutaya mtima ndi kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa cholingacho."

Kutsindika udindo wa khama ndi khama n'kofunika kwambiri. “Chinthu chachikulu sikutaya mtima! Ngati sizikuyenda pano, zidzatheka pambuyo pake, mukazindikira / kuphunzira zomwe mukufuna / kupeza wina amene angakuthandizeni. " Sikuti kupindula kwa zotsatira zake kumayenera kuyamikiridwa, koma kuyesetsa: "Ndiwe wamkulu! Ndinagwira ntchito molimbika, ndinaphunzira zambiri pothetsa vutoli! Ndipo ndapeza zotsatira zoyenera! ” Kutamanda motere kumalimbitsa lingaliro lakuti kupirira kudzathetsa vuto lililonse.

“Pokambitsirana zoyambitsa mavuto, peŵani kuyerekezera koipa ndi anthu ena,” akukumbutsa motero katswiri wa zamaganizo. Mukamva kuchokera kwa mwana wanu wamkazi kuti “sakoka bwino ngati Masha,” nenani kuti tonsefe timasiyana luso ndi luso, choncho palibe chifukwa chodziyerekezera ndi ena. Kusiyana kofunikira kwenikweni komwe kumatsogolera ku zotsatira zake ndi kuchuluka kwa khama ndi kulimbikira komwe munthu amaika kuti akwaniritse zolinga.

5. Kuwongolera kulankhulana kwake pamalo otetezeka

Ana omwe alibe chiyembekezo atha kukhala ochezeka komanso ochezeka pa maubwenzi ndi anzawo chifukwa cha zomwe amayembekezera komanso kufunitsitsa kukanidwa. Nthawi zina zimaoneka ngati manyazi. Oleg Sychev anati: “Mwana wamanyazi amene amakumana ndi vuto la kulankhulana angapindule ndi zimene akumana nazo zimene zimalimbitsa ziyembekezo zake zabwino.

Choyamba, makolo ayenera kupeŵa malingaliro oipa ndipo nthawi zambiri amakumbukira ndi iye zomwe wachita bwino, ngakhale zochepa. Ndipo pambali, ndi zofunika kukonzekera kulankhulana zinthu mu malo otetezeka kumene mwana amavomerezedwa ndi kulemekezedwa, kumene amadziona kuti ali woyenerera. Izi zitha kukhala kulumikizana ndi ana ang'onoang'ono kapena makalasi omwe amawakonda, komwe amapambana kwambiri. M'malo omasuka chotere, mwanayo saopa kutsutsidwa ndi kutsutsidwa ndi ena, amalandira malingaliro abwino ndipo amazoloŵera kuyang'ana dziko ndi chidwi ndi chiyembekezo.