Nthawi zina simuyeneranso kuganiza: mawonekedwe okopa kapena kukhudza pang'ono kumadzinenera. Koma nthawi zina timasokonezeka. Komanso, kumvetsetsa kumakhala kovuta kwa amuna kuposa kwa akazi.
Mpaka posachedwa, akatswiri a zamaganizo ankangoganizira za tsiku loyamba. Molondola bwanji amuna ndi akazi «kuwerenga» chikhumbo (kapena kusowa chilakolako) cha kuthekera okondedwa. Mapeto ake m’zochitika zonse anali akuti amuna kaŵirikaŵiri amalingalira mopambanitsa kukonzekera kwa mkazi kugonana.
Olemba maphunzirowo adatanthauzira izi kuchokera ku lingaliro la chisinthiko cha psychology. Ndi bwino kuti mwamuna asaphonye mwayi woti agonane ndi bwenzi lake loyenerera n’kusiya ana m’malo mongoganizira ngati akufuna kugonana. Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri kulakwitsa overestimating wokondedwa wawo chilakolako pa tsiku loyamba.
Katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Canada Amy Muse ndi anzake adayesa kuyesa ngati kubwerezaku kukupitiriza kukhala ndi maubwenzi olimba, a nthawi yaitali. Anachititsa maphunziro atatu okhudza mabanja 48 amisinkhu yosiyana (kuyambira zaka 23 mpaka 61) ndipo anapeza kuti amuna omwe ali mumkhalidwe umenewu nawonso amatha kulakwitsa - koma tsopano akupeputsa chikhumbo cha wokondedwa wawo.
Ndipo akazi, ambiri, molondola kwambiri analingalira chikhumbo cha amuna, ndiko kuti, iwo sanali tcheru kupeputsa kapena overestimate kukopa bwenzi.
Pamene mwamuna amaopa kukanidwa, m’pamenenso amapeputsa chilakolako cha kugonana cha mnzakoyo.
Malingana ndi Amy Muse, izi zikhoza kufotokozedwa ndi mfundo yakuti mu banja lomwe liripo, kunyalanyaza chikhumbo cha mkazi sikulola kuti mwamuna apumule komanso "kupumula pamtengo wake", koma kumamulimbikitsa kulimbikitsa ndi kuyesetsa kudzutsa chilakolako cha kugonana. chikhumbo chofanana mwa okondedwa. Amayesetsa kwambiri kuyatsa, kumunyengerera. Ndipo ndizabwino paubwenzi, akutero Amy Mewes.
Mkazi amadzimva kuti ndi wapadera, wofunidwa ndipo motero amamva kukhala wokhutira, ndipo kugwirizana kwake kwa wokondedwa kumalimbikitsidwa.
Amuna amapeputsa chikhumbo cha bwenzi chifukwa choopa kukanidwa kumbali yake. Pamene mwamuna amawopa kukanidwa m’chikhumbo chake, m’pamenenso amayamba kupeputsa chilakolako cha kugonana cha bwenzi lake.
Ichi ndi reinsurance yosadziwika bwino yomwe imakulolani kuti mupewe chiopsezo cha kukanidwa, chomwe chimakhala ndi zotsatira zowononga pa maubwenzi. Komabe, zolemba za Amy Muse, nthawi zina chilakolako cha wokondedwa ndi mkazi chimalakwitsa mofanana - monga lamulo, omwe ali ndi libido yapamwamba.
Zikuoneka kuti kupeputsa chikhumbo cha wokondedwa ndi kopindulitsa kwa okhazikika okwatirana. Pa nthawi yomweyo, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti pamene onse okwatirana molondola «kuwerenga» wina ndi mzake amphamvu kukopa, izi zimawabweretseranso chikhutiro ndi kumalimbitsa ubwenzi mu banja.