Zamkatimu
Omenyera ufulu wa akazi nthawi zambiri amawaimba mlandu wolimbana ndi nkhani zooneka ngati zosafunika. Mwachitsanzo, amaletsa amuna kulipira bilu m’lesitilanti, kuwatsegulira zitseko ndi kuwathandiza kuvala malaya awo. Kuyika pambali zina zonse zomwe omenyera ufulu wachikazi amaganiziranso, ndipo ganizirani funso lomwe anthu ambiri ali nalo chidwi: chifukwa chiyani amayi ena amatsutsana ndi amuna omwe amawalipira?
Nthano yakuti omenyera ufulu wachikazi ndi olimbana ndi chivalry cha amuna ndi masewera okhazikika pakati pa amuna ndi akazi nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati mtsutso wakuti omenyera ufulu wachikazi ndi osakwanira komanso osagwirizana ndi zenizeni. N’chifukwa chake iwo amati amapatulira miyoyo yawo kunkhondo zomenyera mphepo, milandu ya amuna amene anawapatsa malaya, ndi kumeretsa tsitsi m’miyendo yawo. Ndipo ndondomeko yakuti "otsutsa akazi amaletsa" yakhala kale meme komanso yachikale ya zotsutsana ndi zachikazi.
Mtsutso uwu, chifukwa cha kuyambika kwake konse, umagwira ntchito. Kusamalira zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimasokoneza anthu, n'zosavuta kusokoneza chidwi kuchokera ku chinthu chachikulu. Kuchokera ku zomwe gulu lachikazi likulimbana nalo. Mwachitsanzo, kuchokera ku kusagwirizana, kusalungama, nkhanza za amuna ndi akazi, nkhanza za uchembere ndi mavuto ena omwe otsutsa zachikazi mwakhama safuna kuwazindikira.
Tiyeni, komabe, tibwerere ku bilu yathu yamakhoti ndi malo odyera kuti tiwone momwe zinthu zilili ndi chivalry, ziyembekezo za jenda ndi ukazi. Kodi tili ndi solitaire? Kodi omenyera ufulu wa akazi akuganiza chiyani pankhaniyi?
Akaunti yopumira
Mutu wa yemwe amalipidwa pa tsiku ndi imodzi mwa mitu yotentha kwambiri muzokambirana za amayi, zachikazi kapena ayi. Ndipo akazi ambiri, mosasamala kanthu za malingaliro awo, amavomereza pa chilinganizo chimodzi cha chilengedwe chonse: “Ndimakhala wokonzeka nthaŵi zonse kudzilipirira ndekha, koma ndingakonde mwamuna kuti achite zimenezo.” Izi chilinganizo zingasiyane "Ndikanakonda" kuti "Ine sindidzapita pa tsiku lachiwiri ngati iye salipira pa woyamba," koma kwenikweni amakhala yemweyo.
Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, amayi omwe ali ndi malingaliro apamwamba nthawi zambiri amalengeza udindo wawo monyadira komanso momasuka. Amakhulupirira kuti mwamuna ayenera kulipira, chifukwa chakuti ndi mwamuna komanso chifukwa ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la masewera ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, lamulo lina losagwedezeka la kuyanjana kwa anthu.
Azimayi omwe amakonda kutsata malingaliro achikazi nthawi zambiri amachita manyazi pang'ono ndi malingaliro awo, amamva ngati kutsutsana kwamkati ndipo amawopa mkwiyo wotsutsa - "Kodi mukufuna kudya chiyani ndi kuwedza, osalowa m'madzi?". Yang'anani momwe mercantile - ndikumupatsa ufulu wofanana, ndikulipira ngongole mu lesitilanti, adapeza ntchito yabwino.
Palibe zotsutsana pano, komabe, pa chifukwa chimodzi chophweka. Mosasamala kanthu za zomwe mkazi amawona, zenizeni zathu zankhanza ndizotalikirana ndi utopia wapatriarchal, kumene amuna ndi akazi ali ofanana kwathunthu, ali ndi mwayi wofanana ndi chuma ndikulowa muubwenzi wopingasa, osati wa hierarchical.
Tonsefe, amuna ndi akazi, ndife opangidwa ndi dziko losiyana kotheratu. Chikhalidwe chimene tikukhalamo tsopano chingatchedwe chitaganya cha kusintha. Akazi, kumbali imodzi, apambana ufulu wokhala nzika zonse, kuvota, kugwira ntchito ndikukhala moyo wodziimira, ndipo kumbali ina, amanyamula katundu wowonjezera womwe umagwera pamapewa a mkazi. classical patriarchal society: ntchito zoberekera, kusamalira okalamba, ntchito zamaganizo ndi kukongola.
Mkazi wamakono nthawi zambiri amagwira ntchito ndikuthandizira kupereka banja.
Koma panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, ayenera kukhalabe mayi wabwino, mkazi waubwenzi ndi wopanda mavuto, wosamalira nyumba, ana, mwamuna ndi achibale okulirapo, kukhala wokongola, wokonzekeretsedwa bwino ndi kumwetulira. Kuzungulira koloko, popanda nkhomaliro ndi masiku opuma. Ndipo popanda malipiro, chifukwa iye «ayenera». Mwamuna, kumbali ina, akhoza kudzitsekera kuntchito ndikukhala pampando, ndipo pamaso pa anthu adzakhala kale munthu wabwino, tate wabwino, mwamuna wabwino komanso wopeza ndalama.
"Kodi masiku ndi mabilu akugwirizana ndi chiyani?" - mukufunsa. Ndipo ngakhale kuti muzochitika zamakono, mkazi aliyense, wachikazi kapena ayi, amadziwa motsimikiza kuti ubale ndi mwamuna ungafunike ndalama zambiri kuchokera kwa iye. Zambiri kuposa za mnzake. Ndipo kuti maubwenzi awa akhale opindulitsa pang'ono kwa mkazi, muyenera kupeza chitsimikizo kuti mwamuna ali wokonzeka kugawana zinthu, makamaka mu mawonekedwe ophiphiritsa.
Mfundo ina yofunika yochokera ku kupanda chilungamo komweko komwe kulipo. Mwamuna wamba ali ndi zinthu zambiri kuposa mkazi wamba. Amuna, malinga ndi ziwerengero, amalandira malipiro apamwamba, amapeza maudindo apamwamba ndipo, kawirikawiri, zimakhala zosavuta kuti akwere makwerero a ntchito ndikupeza ndalama. Amuna nthawi zambiri sagawana udindo wofanana wa ana pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndipo motero amakhalanso mwamwayi.
Kuonjezera apo, muzinthu zathu zomwe sizili za utopian, mwamuna yemwe sali wokonzeka kulipira mkazi yemwe amamukonda mu cafe sangathe kukhala wothandizira wofanana, chifukwa cha chilungamo amene akufuna kugawana nawo mwamtheradi. ntchito zonse ndi ndalama mofanana.
Unicorns mwachidziwitso alipo, koma zoona zake zankhanza, timakonda kuchita ndi mwamuna wamwamuna yemwe amangofuna kudya nsomba ndikukwera hatchi. Sungani maudindo anu onse ndikuchotsa otsiriza, ngakhale ntchito zophiphiritsa, panjira «kubwezera» pa omenyera ufulu wachikazi chifukwa amayerekeza kuyankhula za mtundu wina wa ufulu wofanana. Ndizothandiza kwambiri, pambuyo pake: Ndipotu, sitingasinthe kalikonse, koma kuyambira tsopano sindiri ndi ngongole kwa inu konse, inu nokha munafuna izi, chabwino?
Chovala cholakwika
Nanga bwanji mawonetseredwe ena a gallantry? Iwo, nawonso, okonda zachikazi, amavomereza, amavomereza? Koma apa chirichonse chiri chovuta pang'ono. Kumbali ina, chiwonetsero chilichonse cha chisamaliro cha mwamuna, monga ndalama yolipiridwa yomwe tafotokoza pamwambapa, ndi chitsimikizo china chaching'ono kuti mwamuna ali wokonzeka kuyika ndalama mu ubale, wokhoza kusamalira ndi chifundo, osati tchulani za kuwolowa manja kwauzimu. Ndipo izi, ndithudi, ndi zabwino ndi zokondweretsa - tonse ndife anthu ndipo timakonda pamene atichitira zabwino.
Kuonjezera apo, masewera onse ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndithudi, ndi miyambo ya chikhalidwe yomwe takhala tizolowera kuyambira ubwana. Zinawonetsedwa kwa ife m'mafilimu ndikufotokozedwa m'mabuku motengera "chikondi chachikulu ndi chilakolako." Zimasangalatsa misempha mosangalatsa, ndi gawo la kukopana ndi chibwenzi, kuyanjana kwapang'onopang'ono kwa alendo awiri. Ndipo osati gawo losasangalatsa, ndiyenera kunena.
Koma apa, komabe, pali misampha iwiri, yomwe, kwenikweni, nthano yakuti "feminists amaletsa malaya" inachokera. Mwala woyamba - zonsezi zokongola manja mwaulemu ali kwenikweni zotsalira kuyambira nthawi imene mkazi ankaonedwa ofooka ndi opusa cholengedwa, pafupifupi mwana amene ayenera patronized ndipo sayenera kumwedwa mozama. Ndipo mpaka pano, m'manja mwamphamvu, amawerengedwa kuti: "Ndine woyang'anira pano, ndikusamalirani kuchokera paphewa la mbuye, chidole changa chopanda nzeru."
subtext yotere imapha kwathunthu chisangalalo chilichonse panjira.
Phokoso lachiŵiri ndilo lakuti amuna kaŵirikaŵiri amayembekezera mtundu wina wa “malipiro” poyankha machiritso awo a chisamaliro, kaŵirikaŵiri osalingana kotheratu. Azimayi ambiri amadziwa izi - adakutengani ku khofi, anatsegula chitseko cha galimoto patsogolo panu, mosasamala anaponyera mapewa ake malaya ndipo pazifukwa zina amalimbikira kukhulupirira kuti mwa izi "adalipira" kale kuti avomereze kugonana. . Kuti mulibe ufulu wokana, "mwalandira" kale zonsezi, mungathe bwanji? Tsoka ilo, zinthu zotere sizikhala zopanda vuto nthawi zonse ndipo zimatha kubweretsa zotsatira zosasangalatsa.
Ndicho chifukwa chake kupewa gallantry si whim wa achiwewe akazi, koma kotheratu zomveka njira kucheza ndi kutali zofanana zenizeni. Ndikosavuta kuti mutsegule chitseko nokha ndikulipira khofi kusiyana ndi kufotokozera mlendo kwa maola awiri kuti simukufuna ndipo simungagone naye, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo mumamva ngati bitch mercantile. Ndikosavuta kuvala zovala zanu zakunja ndikukankhira mpando wanu kumbuyo nokha kusiyana ndi kumverera ndi khungu lanu kuti mukuchitidwa ngati kamsungwana kopanda nzeru.
Komabe, ambiri a ife feminists kupitiriza kusewera jenda masewera ndi zosangalatsa (ndi ena chenjezo) - mbali kusangalala nawo, mwa zina kuwaganizira kuti ndi njira yovomerezeka kwathunthu alipo mu chenicheni chimene chiri kutali kwambiri ndi maganizo pambuyo-makolo akale.
Nditha kutsimikizira kuti pamalo ano wina adzatsamwitsidwa ndi mkwiyo ndikufuula kuti: "Chabwino, omenyera ufulu wachikazi akufuna kumenyana ndi zigawo zaufulu zomwe zili zowalepheretsa?!" Ndipo izi, mwinamwake, zidzakhala tanthauzo lolondola kwambiri la chikazi.