Unyamata ndi nthawi yomwe mahomoni amawotcha, pamene atsikana amapeza chikondi ndi kugonana. Mphindi yofunikira yoyesera, pansi pa kuyang'ana mwachidwi ndi mokoma mtima kwa makolo awo. Akhoza kukhala ndi nkhawa, choncho ndizosangalatsa kuti mutha kukambirana ndi kufotokoza mantha anu.

Malinga ndi Andréa Cauchoix, Mphunzitsi wa Chikondi, ndizosangalatsa kuti makolo afunse zifukwa zomwe chibwenzicho sichimakondwera nacho:

• Kodi ndi chifukwa chakuti ali ndi chisonkhezero choipa? Ndipo pamenepa, ndi mfundo ziti zomwe zimakayikiridwa pamakhalidwe atsopanowa;
• Kodi m'malo mwake ndi zomwe mtsikanayo angachite? Mwa izi tikutanthauza kugonana, usiku kwambiri, kusagona, kuyenda, ndi zina zotero.

Pakupatsidwa ziphaso, tikuwerenga pempholi ndipo anzanga angapo adatsagana ndi makolo ndi ana awo pazokambirana.

Ndikofunika kuti atsikana azitha kukhala ndi zibwenzi zachikondi. "Nthawi zambiri amadziponyera okha mu ubale wawo woyamba ndikuyika ndalama zambiri". Makolo akhoza kudabwa panthawiyi, yomwe idakhalapo kale limodzi, imakhala yosungidwa kwa munthu wina, kunja kwa "gulu lachikhulupiliro" monga Robert De Niro amachitcha mufilimuyi "Abambo anga ndi ine".

Mphunzitsi wachikondi ananena kuti “n’zachibadwa kuti panthaŵi ino, mtsikanayo sakonda kugawana nawo zimene akumana nazo. Ndi nkhani yachinsinsi chake. Koma m’pofunika kumulola kuti adziŵe zokumana nazo zake ndi kulemekeza zosankha zake. Bola ngati sayika moyo wake pachiwopsezo ”.

Ngati makolo akufuna kufotokoza nkhaniyo, mwina mtsikanayo ayenera kupatsidwa nthawi yocheza nawo. Mpatseni mpata woti anene maganizo ake, kuti alankhule za ubale umenewu.

“Mwina mnyamata ameneyu ali ndi makhalidwe abwino amene makolo saona. Ayenera kusonyeza chidwi ndi kumasuka kuti apeze mnyamata wamng'ono ameneyu. Mwina angafunse mtsikanayo zimene amakonda pa iye. Akhoza kudabwa ndi yankho lake ”.

Popanda kugwiritsa ntchito mawu otchuka "koma mukuganiza bwanji za iye? », Choncho analangiza kuika maganizo ake pambali kuti alowedi mu zokambirana ndikuyesera kuona chibwenzicho kudzera m'maso mwa mwana wake pomumvetsera, pomuyang'ana.

Nthawi zina nkhawa za makolo zimakhala zomveka ndipo ndi udindo wawo kulowererapo kuti athetse chibwenzi choopsa.

Motero Andréa Cauchoix amakumbukira kuti ngati mnyamata ameneyu asonyeza khalidwe lake:

• zoopsa;
• wankhanza;
• amalimbikitsa kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa;
• amasokoneza mtsikana kuti akwaniritse zolinga zake, kaya ndalama kapena kugonana;
• ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu mu msinkhu kapena kukhwima;
• zimamuchotsa kwa abwenzi ake, kwa banja lake, amamupatula pang'onopang'ono.

Pazochitika zosiyanasiyanazi, ndikofunikira kulowererapo. Kukambitsirana, nthawi zina kutalika kwa malo, kumatha kukhala yankho labwino. Khalani tcheru ndi limodzi ndi katswiri, mphunzitsi, zamaganizo, kupezeka dokotala ... Simuyenera kukhala nokha, chifukwa wachinyamata sadzamva mawu a makolo ake, koma anzake, katswiri akhoza. tuluka mu chinyengo chake.

Mtsikana akasintha khalidwe lake n’kuika pangozi thanzi lake, maphunziro ake, ndi mabwenzi ake, amakhala m’mavuto. Sathanso kutalikirana ndi zomwe akupereka. Chibwenzicho chimamupangitsa kuti asamukhulupirire.

Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti nkhani za achinyamata zimenezi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosakhalitsa. Mnyamata ameneyu si wa m’banjamo, ndipo ndi bwino kulemekeza mtunda umenewu, zomwe zingathandize mtsikanayo kuthetsa chibwenzicho pamene afuna. Chikwa cha banja chilipo kutsimikizira ufulu wosankha umenewu. Ngati makolowo agwirizana kwambiri ndi mnyamatayo, mtsikanayo amadziimba mlandu chifukwa chomuletsa.

Maubale ake amalozera makolo ku nkhani zawo zachikondi, zomwe akumana nazo, zowawa ndi mantha, monga chisangalalo ndi chikondi chotayika. Sayenera kufotokoza kapena kuyesa kubwereza kapena kukonzanso nkhani zawo mwamwayi kudzera mwa mwana wawo wamkazi.

Kupeza mtunda woyenera, malo omwe ali abwino komanso otchera khutu, sikophweka. Maganizo amathamanga kwambiri. Khalani omasuka, kukambirana, ndi kulola kuyesa kukula. Zowawa zapamtima nazonso, ndi gawo la moyo ndipo zimamanga wachinyamata.