Ndinayiwala kuti ndine wachigololo. Kodi mungakumbukire bwanji?

Chikoka chogonana ndi chinthu chomwe amayi amatha kuyatsa kapena kuzimitsa. Izi sizichitika nthawi zonse malinga ndi chikhumbo chathu.

Mayi yemwe ali mukusaka mwachangu amakulitsa luso lofalitsa zachiwerewere. Sizokhudza kuchuluka kwa zodzoladzola, khosi lakuya ndi maonekedwe ena akunja omwe amapangidwa kuti akope amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Kuzama, kugonana kwenikweni ndi malingaliro obisika omwe tonsefe timawadziwa. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe pamene chidwi ndi chidaliro zimayaka mkati, maso anu amawala, ndipo mumamva mphamvu ya "matsenga" yomwe imakopa maso a amuna.

Pamene mkazi ali pachibwenzi, iye saona kuti cholinga kumasulira chigawo ichi kumanja ndi kumanzere. Pali mnzako, ndipo zonse zimafunda kwa iye yekha. Choncho, potuluka mumsewu, "timatseka" ntchito ya kugonana, kulankhulana ndi amuna popanda kugwedezeka m'maso mwathu, ndi "kutsegula" kukongola kwathu, kukumana ndi maso a wokondedwa.

Kodi chingachitike ndi chiyani pazaka zambiri muubwenzi? Pagulu, ntchito yogonana imatsekedwa, koma kunyumba sikofunikira nthawi zonse. Ngati tatopa pambuyo pa ntchito, timangofuna kudya chakudya chamadzulo ndikuwonera mndandanda pamodzi - bwanji kuyambitsa zilakolako? Ngati pali mwana, sipangakhale nthawi ya ntchitoyi nkomwe.

Zomwe sizimachitidwa zimazimiririka pakapita nthawi. Mkazi amaiwala momwe, liti komanso chifukwa chiyani "ayatse" chikhalidwe chokongola ichi, ndipo chimangochoka pamaso. Kodi ndingatani «yani» Mbali imeneyi kachiwiri? Nawa malangizo osavuta.

1. Gona mokwanira

Pamene sitigona mokwanira, palibe njira zokwanira zopezera kugonana. Kuwulutsa mphamvu zachikazi ndi kukopa, mphamvu iyi iyenera kukhalapo. Choncho, musananene mwamuna wanu za machimo aakulu, muyenera kupeza mphamvu, kudzaza gwero. Ngati palibe nthawi yatchuthi, muyenera kukonza osachepera «kutaya» kumapeto kwa sabata kuti achire bwino.

2. Chepetsani kupsinjika

Kutaya kwakukulu kwa mphamvu kumachitika motsutsana ndi maziko a zochitika. Kodi mungasiye bwanji kuchita mantha ndi zinthu zazing'ono? Kuyanjanitsa mkhalidwe wamalingaliro ndi ma hormonal «maswing» ndi kuzungulira kwa mwezi, komanso kugona, kudya bwino komanso kukonzekera bwino tsiku ndi tsiku kumathandizira izi.

Tikamamanga miyoyo yathu mokhazikika, timakhala odekha komanso mphamvu zambiri zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito pa chitukuko cha kugonana.

3. Gwiritsani ntchito chilinganizo "Chotsani chipewa, siyani cheki pakona"

Ambiri amagwira ntchito m'malo ovuta omwe muyenera kusonyeza khalidwe, kulimba mtima, kulankhula momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino. Tsoka ilo, ife akazi nthawi zambiri timayiwala "kuvula zomangira" tisanabwere kunyumba, kusiya udindo wa mtsogoleri ndikubwerera ku chikhalidwe cha mkazi wachikondi.

Dzikumbutseni tsiku lililonse kusiya ntchito kuntchito.

4. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti mubwezeretse malingaliro ogonana

Ngati kumverera kwa kudzikonda kukopa «kutembenukira pa» osati molimba mtima ndipo osati nthawi zonse ankafuna, kuchita yosavuta thupi kwa milungu iwiri. Konzani koloko ndi chizindikiro cha ola. Mukangomva chizindikirocho, dzifunseni funso: "Kodi ndili wachigololo komanso wokongola pompano?"

Zilibe kanthu kuti muli pati komanso momwe mulili. Kugonana si utoto wankhondo kapena zotchingira tsitsi: ndikumverera kwamkati, ndipo kumatipangitsa kukhala okongola mopanda malire. Mverani ola lililonse, ndipo pakatha milungu iwiri malingaliro anu a thupi ndi ubale wanu ndi mnzanu zidzasintha.

5. Chitani zolimbitsa thupi «Sikelo wa kugonana»

Pobwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, timaganizira chilichonse: kuphika chakudya chamadzulo, nthawi yoti mudzuke mawa, zomwe mungachite kuntchito ... Koma musanalowe m'nyumba, chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi. Payenera kukhala kalilole mu elevator. Yang'anani mmenemo ndikufunsa funso: "Kodi tsopano ndili wachigololo komanso wokongola?" Lolani kuti izipangitsa kuseka - mukamasangalala kwambiri, zimakhala bwino.

Mukatuluka mu elevator, yerekezani kuti pali sikelo yotambasulidwa kuchokera pakhomo la nyumba yanu, ndipo "mungoganiza" kuti ndi sitepe iliyonse yolowera pakhomo mudzakhala osangalatsa kwambiri ndi gawo limodzi. Kutenga sitepe iliyonse yatsopano, mudzasiya nkhawa za tsikulo ndikuyatsa kukongola kwanu kwapadera, malingaliro okopa ndi kugonana mozama kwambiri.

Simuyenera kuyembekezera kuti kuyesa koyambirira kungayambitse kutengeka maganizo mwa mnzanu: zimatenga nthawi kuti mubwezeretse zotayika. Mosasamala kanthu zomwe zingachitike, ndikofunikira kupitiliza masewerawa tsiku lililonse - ndipo pakatha sabata imodzi kapena ziwiri muwona zotsatira zake.