Atalandira mwayi wogwira ntchito, womwe unalonjeza kuti adzawonjezera malipiro ndikusamukira ku Los Angeles, wolemba wazaka 32 waku Liverpool adayankha oyang'anira ... Briton Amy Roberts ankakonda moyo wosakhazikika, koma waulere kuposa kupita patsogolo kwa ntchito yake. Kodi iyi ndi chisankho chanzeru? Nkhani ya munthu woyamba.
Nditakwanitsa zaka makumi atatu, ndinali wolumala kwenikweni ndi funso lomwe, monga momwe zinakhalira, amayi ambiri amafunsa: Kodi ndikuchita chiyani ndi moyo wanga? Kenako ndinapatulidwa pakati pa ntchito zingapo zaganyu, kuyesera kuchepetsa ngongole ku ngongole molephera. Chotero pamene, patatha chaka chimodzi, ndinapatsidwa ntchito yolipidwa bwino monga wolemba antchito poyambira zosangalatsa, ndinalumphira pamwaŵiwo, ndithudi.
Ndiye panali miyezi isanu ndi inayi yokhala ndi mlungu wa ntchito ya maola 60 ndi kutayika kwa moyo wofanana ndi wina aliyense. Kenako ndinakwezedwa pantchito, ndipo chiyembekezo chosamukira ku Los Angeles pomalizira pake chinandiyandikira. Yankho langa linali lotani? Mantha "zikomo, koma ayi." Panthawiyo, zimene ndinasankhazo zinandichititsa mantha, koma tsopano ndikudziwa kuti chinali chimodzi mwa zinthu zabwino kwambiri pa moyo wanga.
Papepala, udindo wolemba ndodo umene ndinali nawo unali nthano. Chilichonse chomwe, mwa lingaliro langa, mkazi wazaka makumi atatu akhoza kulota. Koma ndinayenera kulipira mtengo waukulu wamalo amenewa. Kugwira ntchito mosalekeza sikunangotanthauza kusiya moyo wanga waumwini ndi kusathera nthaŵi ndi okondedwa, koma kunawononganso thanzi langa lakuthupi ndi lamaganizo. Ntchito zantchito zidakhala zofunika kwambiri kwa ine: Ndidayamba kudumpha nthawi yopuma masana pafupipafupi, ndikudzuka pakati pausiku kuti ndiyankhe maimelo osawerengeka, komanso - chifukwa ndimagwira ntchito kutali - kusiya nyumba pafupipafupi.
Masiku ano, ambiri amasiya ntchito yotopetsa mwakufuna kwawo ndipo amakonda kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Sosaite yatsala pang'ono kutipangitsa kukhulupirira kuti ntchito yokhazikika ndiyo maziko a moyo wopambana. Koma sindinadzimve kukhala wopambana, ndinadzimva kukhala wothamangitsidwa ndi wosakhudzidwa ndi moyo. Ndipo, potsirizira pake, iye anakana osati kukwezedwa, koma udindo wonse. Kodi phindu la malipiro abwino ndi chiyani ngati limabwera ndi nthawi yowonjezereka yosalipidwa komanso osatha kukhala ndi banja lanu? Sindinasangalale, ndipo zinandithandiza kumvetsetsa zomwe ndikufuna m’moyo. Ndipo panalibe ntchito pamndandanda umenewo womwe unkakhudza kukhala pa laputopu maola 14 patsiku, masiku asanu ndi limodzi pa sabata.
Ndinaganiza zosintha kwambiri: Ndinayamba kugwira ntchito mu bar ya nthawi yochepa. Ndinadabwa kwambiri kuti kusankha ntchito yaganyu kunakhala njira yabwino kwambiri. Sikuti ndondomekoyi imandipatsa mwayi wocheza ndi anzanga ndikupeza ndalama zokhazikika, imandithandizanso kuti ndikwaniritse zolinga zanga zolembera ndekha. Ndili ndi nthawi yaulere, ndimawona okondedwa anga ndikudzimvera ndekha. Nditacheza ndi azimayi angapo, ndidazindikira kuti sindinali ndekha: ambiri masiku ano akusiya ntchito zotopetsa ndikusintha moyo wawo wonse.
Lisa wazaka XNUMX anandiuza kuti anali ndi vuto lamanjenje pamene anapeza ntchito imene ankalakalaka atatuluka ku koleji monga katswiri wa zamkati. “Ndinachita zimenezi kwa zaka zingapo, koma ndinayenera kusiya kuti ndidzipulumutse. Panopa ndimachepa kwambiri, koma ndimakhala wosangalala kwambiri ndipo ndimaona anthu amene ndimawakonda.”
Maria, wamsinkhu wake, nayenso akuvomereza kuti ntchito sizimamulola kusamalira mokwanira thanzi lake la maganizo. "Posachedwapa ndinaika amayi anga: anamwalira ndi khansa ali wamng'ono - ndipo ndinazindikira kuti maganizo anga amasiya kukhala ofunikira. Ndi kuti palibe amene adzandithandize koma ine ndekha. Ndipo ndinaganiza zosiya kugwira ntchito kwa kanthaŵi.”
Nditabwerera m’mbuyo pa ntchito yanga, ndinazindikira kuti ndatsala ndi nthawi yochuluka yochita zinthu zina zimene ndimakonda. Chikumbumtima changa sichinandilole kuwataya nthaŵi m’moyo wakale. Podcast yomwe ndakhala ndikufuna kuchita kwa nthawi yayitali? Zili kale mu chitukuko. Kodi zinthu zakhala zikuzungulira mutu wanga kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi? Pomaliza, zimatenga mawonekedwe papepala. Gulu lachikuto la Britney Spears lopusa lija lomwe ndidalota? Kulekeranji!
Kukhala ndi nthawi yaulere kumamasula mphamvu zambiri kuti mugwiritse ntchito zomwe mumakonda, ndipo uwu ndi mwayi waukulu.
Kupeza kofananako kunapangidwa ndi Lara wazaka 38. Iye amakumbukira kuti "anafuna kudziimira pa chilichonse: m'njira ya kuganiza, ntchito ndi kugawa nthawi." Lara anazindikira kuti adzakhala wosangalala kugwirizanitsa pakati pa freelancing ndi zilandiridwenso. Ndipo adasiya "ntchito yabwino" ngati munthu wa PR kuti azikhala motere. "Ndikhoza kulemba, ndikhoza kuchita ma podcasts, ndikhoza kulimbikitsa m'madera omwe ndimakondwera nawo. Pomaliza ndimanyadira ntchito yanga - izi sizinali choncho pamene ndinkagwira ntchito ngati PR mkazi mu makampani opanga mafashoni."
Kristina, wazaka 28, adakananso ntchito yotsatsa yanthawi zonse m'malo mwa ntchito zina. “M’miyezi 10 imene ndinachoka mu ofesiyo, ndinasindikiza buku lophikira, ndinayamba kugwira ntchito ndi Airbnb, ndipo tsopano ndimapanga ndalama zambiri ndikugwira ntchito maola angapo patsiku kuposa mmene ndimachitira nthaŵi zonse maola 55 pamlungu. Osanenanso kuti ndimacheza kwambiri ndi mwamuna wanga. Sindikunong'oneza bondo ngakhale pang'ono zomwe ndinasankha!"
Monga Christina, ndaphunzira kuti kukhala ndi nthawi yopuma kumamasula nyanja ya mphamvu kuti mugwiritse ntchito zinthu zomwe mumakonda - phindu lina lalikulu la kuchoka pa ntchito yanu yanthawi zonse. Ndimaona anzanga akamandifunadi, ndipo ndimacheza ndi makolo anga nthawi ina iliyonse, pang’onopang’ono. Zomwe ndimaganiza kuti ndibwerera m'mbuyo pantchito yanga zidandithandizadi kupita patsogolo.
Koma ndikudziwanso kuti si aliyense amene angakwanitse kugwira ntchito yaganyu. Sindimakhala mumzinda wodula kwambiri ndipo ndimabwereka nyumba yotsika mtengo (koma yosaoneka bwino) ndi mnzanga. Inde, mabwenzi m’mizinda ikuluikulu monga New York kapena London, kumene mtengo wa moyo ndi wokwera, sangasiye ntchito.
Kusiyapo pyenepi, ine ndisafunika kutsalakana ine na mphaka wanga. Ndikukayika kuti ndingalankhule za ufulu wosankha ndi chidaliro chomwecho ndi chiyembekezo ngati, mwachitsanzo, ndikanakhala ndi ana. Monga mkazi wa zosoŵa wodzichepetsa, ndalama zopezedwa maola angapo ntchito mu bala ndi freelancing zokwanira kwa ine, nthawi zina ine ngakhale kupeza kudzichitira ndekha chinachake. Koma sindidzasokoneza: nthawi zambiri inenso ndimakhala ndi mantha, ndikuwerengera ngati ndidzakhala ndi ndalama zokwanira zolipirira zonse zomwe mwezi wamawa.
Mwachidule, nkhaniyi ili ndi zovuta zake. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri ndimakhala wosangalala komanso ndimakonda kwambiri ntchito yanga kumowa, kachigawo kakang'ono ka ine kamamwalirabe nthawi iliyonse ndikamaliza ntchito yanga XNUMX:XNUMX m'mawa ndikupukuta kauntala yonyansa, kapena gulu la anyamata oledzera litalowa. bala asanatseke, akufuna zambiri. phwando. Mbali ina ya ine ikugwedezeka chifukwa ndinakumanapo kale ndi zovuta izi zogwira ntchito mu bar monga wophunzira ndipo tsopano, zaka zoposa khumi pambuyo pake, ndikuyenera kuthana nazo.
Ndikofunikira kulipira ngongole panthaŵi yake, koma n’kofunikanso kusunga maubwenzi, kutsatira zokhumba zanu, ndi kudzisamalira.
Komabe, tsopano ndili ndi lingaliro losiyana ponse paŵiri ku ntchito yeniyeniyo ndi kukwaniritsa ntchito zanga. Ndaona kuti ndiyenera kukhala wodzisunga ndiponso wochita zinthu mwadongosolo ngati ndikufuna kupitirizabe kusangalala ndi mapindu a moyo umenewu, ngakhale kuti kudziletsa sikuli vuto langa. Ndinakhala wadongosolo komanso wochita zinthu moganizira kwambiri, ndipo pomalizira pake ndinaphunzira kukana maphwando a usiku omwe ndinkachita nawo ku koleji.
Ndinazindikira kuti ntchito imakhala yopambana ngati imandisangalatsa ndikuwongolera moyo wanga wonse. Ntchito ikakhala yofunika kwambiri kuposa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso moyo wabwino, ndimasiya moyo, ndimangodzipereka kuti ndikweze kampaniyo. Inde, n’kofunika kulipira lendi ndi mabilu panthaŵi yake, koma n’kofunikanso kwambiri kwa ine kusunga maubwenzi, kutsatira zilakolako zanga, ndi kudzisamalira popanda kudziimba mlandu chifukwa chotaya nthaŵi ndikuchita zinthu zimene sindikulipirira.
Zaka ziwiri zadutsa kuchokera pomwe chipwirikitichi chikubwera madzulo a tsiku lobadwa la makumi atatu. Ndiye ndikuchita chiyani ndi moyo wanga lero? Ndimakhala moyo. Ndipo ndizokwanira.
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