Timaphika chifukwa tiyenera kutero, kutengera ana athu kusukulu chifukwa tiyenera kutero, timagwira ntchito zamalipiro chifukwa palibe amene angakwanitse kusamalira banja. Ndipo timachita mantha kwambiri kuchita zimene tikufuna. Ngakhale izi zingasangalatse ife ndi okondedwa athu. N’chifukwa chiyani n’kovuta kutsatira zilakolako zanu ndi kumvera mwana wanu wamkati?
"Vera Petrovna, mverani mawu anga. Pang'ono pang'ono, ndipo zotsatira zake sizingasinthe, "adatero dokotala kwa Vera.
Anachoka m’nyumba yochititsa mantha ya m’chipatalamo, n’kukakhala pabenchi, ndipo mwina kwa nthaŵi yakhumi, n’kuŵerenganso zomwe zinali m’kalata yachipatala. Pakati pa mndandanda wautali wa mankhwala, mankhwala amodzi adadziwika bwino kwambiri.
Mwachiwonekere, dokotalayo anali wolemba ndakatulo pamtima, malingaliro ake adamveka ngati achikondi: "Khalani nthano kwa inu nokha. Ganizirani ndi kukwaniritsa zofuna zanu. Pamawu awa, Vera adapumira kwambiri, sanawoneke ngati nthano kuposa njovu yozungulira yomwe imawoneka ngati Maya Plisetskaya.
Kuletsa zilakolako
Chodabwitsa n’chakuti, n’kovuta kwambiri kuti titsatire zofuna zathu. Kodi mukudziwa chifukwa chake? Timawaopa. Inde, inde, timaopa chinsinsi cha ife tokha chimene chimakhumba. "Ndinu chani? m'modzi mwamakasitomala anga nthawi ina adangodabwa kuti akufuna kuchita zomwe amakonda. — Nanga achibale? Adzavutika chifukwa cha kusalabadira kwanga!” "Lolani mwana wanga wamkati achite zomwe akufuna?! Wogula wina anakwiya. Ayi, sindingathe kutenga chiopsezo chimenecho. Nkaambo nzi ncotutiilange-lange mumutwe wakwe? Yang'anani ndi zotsatira zake pambuyo pake. "
Tiyeni tione zifukwa zimene anthu amakwiyira kwambiri ngakhale poganiza zosintha zokhumba zawo kukhala zenizeni. Poyamba, zikuoneka kwa ife kuti okondedwa athu adzavutika. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa sitidzasamala za iwo, osawasamala. M'malo mwake, timangotenga gawo la mkazi wachifundo, wosamala, watcheru komanso mayi. Ndipo pansi pamtima timadziona kuti ndife odzikuza omwe sitisamala za ena.
Ngati mupereka mwaufulu kwa "mwinieni" wanu, kumvetsera ndi kutsatira zilakolako zanu zakuya, chinyengo chidzawululidwa, choncho, kuyambira tsopano mpaka muyaya, chizindikiro chimapachikidwa kwa "zofuna": "Kulowa ndi koletsedwa." Kodi chikhulupiriro chimenechi chimachokera kuti?
Tsiku lina, Katya wazaka zisanu adatengeka kwambiri ndi masewerawo ndipo adayamba kupanga phokoso, kutsanzira kuukira kwa atsekwe akutchire pa Vanya osauka. Tsoka ilo, phokosolo lidafika nthawi yoti mchimwene wake Katya agone masana. Mayi wina wokwiya anawulukira m’chipindamo kuti: “Taonani, akusewera apa, koma sakunyoza mchimwene wake. Sikokwanira kuti mukufuna! Tifunika kuganizira ena osati za ife tokha. Wodzikonda!
Wodziwika bwino? Uwu ndiye muzu wa kusafuna kuchita zomwe mukufuna.
Ufulu kwa mwana wamkati
Chachiwiri, zinthu ndi zosiyana, koma mfundo yake ndi yofanana. N’chifukwa chiyani timaopa kuona kamsungwana mwa ife tokha ndipo nthawi zina timachita zimene akufuna? Chifukwa timadziwa kuti zilakolako zathu zenizeni zingakhale zoopsa. Zonyansa, zolakwika, zodzudzulidwa.
Timadziona tokha ngati oipa, olakwa, oipitsidwa, otsutsidwa. Chifukwa chake palibe chikhumbo, palibe "mverani mwana wanu wamkati." Timayesetsa kumutsekera m’kamwa, kum’nyonga mpaka kalekale, kuti asatuluke n’kulakwitsa.
Dima, yemwe ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi anali kuthirira odutsa ndi mfuti yamadzi kuchokera pakhonde, Yura, yemwe ali ndi zaka zinayi amangodumphira pa dzenje ndipo potero anaopseza kwambiri agogo ake, Alena, omwe sanathe kukana ndipo anafika. kuti agwire timiyala tonyezimira pakhosi la mnzake wa mayi ake. Kodi iye anadziwa bwanji kuti iwo anali diamondi? Koma mfuu yamwano ndi kumenya m'manja kwamuyaya zinamulepheretsa kutsatira zomwe sizikudziwika kwinakwake mkati mwake.
Chisoni chokha ndi chakuti ife tokha sitimakumbukira nthawi zonse za zochitika zoterezi, nthawi zambiri zimawululidwa pamsonkhano ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Gulu Losakhulupirira
Tikapanda kutsatira zofuna zathu, timadzimana chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo. Timatembenuza moyo kukhala "choyenera" chosatha, ndipo sichidziwika kwa aliyense. Inde, pali chisangalalo. Mosadziwa osadzidalira, ambiri sangapumenso. Yesani kuwauza kuti apumule pafupipafupi. "Inu muma! Ndikagona sindidzadzukanso,” andiuza Slava. “Ndikhala ndikunama ngati ng’ona kukhala ngati mtengo. Ndi ng'ona yokha yomwe imakhala ndi moyo pakuwona nyama, ndipo ndidzakhalabe chipika kwamuyaya.
Kodi munthu ameneyu amakhulupirira chiyani? Mfundo yakuti iye ndi munthu waulesi kotheratu. Apa Slava akupota, kupota, kudzitukumula, kuthetsa ntchito miliyoni imodzi mwakamodzi, ngati osayima komanso osawonetsa "weniweni", loafer ndi tizilombo toyambitsa matenda. Inde, ndi zimene amayi anga anamutcha Slava ali mwana.
Zimakhala zowawa kwambiri chifukwa cha mmene timadziganizira tokha, mmene timadzichepetsera. Momwe ife sitikuwona kuwala komwe kuli mu moyo wa aliyense. Ukapanda kudzidalira, sungathe kudalira ena.
Pano pali gulu la kusakhulupirirana. Kusakhulupirira antchito omwe nthawi zawo zofika ndi zonyamuka zimayendetsedwa ndi pulogalamu yapadera. Kwa madokotala ndi aphunzitsi omwe alibenso nthawi yochitira ndi kuphunzitsa, chifukwa m'malo mwake amafunika kudzaza mtambo wa mapepala. Ndipo ngati simulemba, adziwa bwanji kuti mukuwachitira ndi kuphunzitsa bwino? Kusakhulupirira mnzako wamtsogolo, yemwe madzulo mumavomereza chikondi chanu kumanda, ndipo m'mawa mumapempha kusaina mgwirizano waukwati. Kusakhulupirira komwe kumalowa m'makona onse ndi ming'alu. Kusakhulupirira komwe kumalanda anthu.
Atafika ku Canada anachita maphunziro a chikhalidwe cha anthu. Tidafunsa okhala ku Toronto ngati akukhulupirira kuti atha kubweza chikwama chawo chomwe chidatayika. "Inde" anatero osakwana 25% mwa omwe adayankha. Kenako ochita kafukufuku anatenga ndi «anatayika» zikwama ndi dzina la mwini wake m'misewu ya Toronto. Kubweza 80%.
Kufuna ndi kothandiza
Ndife abwino kuposa momwe timaganizira. Kodi n'zotheka kuti Slava, yemwe amayang'anira zonse ndi chirichonse, sadzadzukanso ngati adzilola kugona? Mu masiku asanu, khumi, pamapeto, mwezi, iye adzafuna kudumpha ndi kuchita izo. Chirichonse, koma chitani icho. Koma nthawi ino, chifukwa iye ankafuna. Kodi Katya adzatsatira zofuna zake ndikusiya ana ake ndi mwamuna wake? Pali mwayi waukulu woti apite kukachita misala, kupita kumalo owonetserako zisudzo, ndiyeno adzafuna (akufuna!) Kubwerera ku banja lake ndikupatsa okondedwa ake chakudya chamadzulo chokoma.
Zokhumba zathu ndi zoyera, zapamwamba, zowala kuposa momwe timaganizira. Ndipo iwo alunjika pa chinthu chimodzi: chimwemwe. Kodi mukudziwa chimene chimachitika munthu akadzazidwa ndi chimwemwe? Amawalitsa kwa iwo omwe ali pafupi naye. Mayi amene anathera madzulo moona mtima ndi bwenzi lake lachibwenzi, m’malo mwa kung’ung’udza “motani mmene ndatopa ndi inu,” adzagawana chimwemwe chimenechi ndi ana ake.
Ngati simunazolowere kudzisangalatsa, musataye nthawi yanu. Panopa, tengani cholembera, pepala ndi kulemba mndandanda wa zinthu 100 zimene zingandisangalatse. Lolani kuti muchite chinthu chimodzi patsiku, mukukhulupirira mwamphamvu kuti mwakutero mukukwaniritsa ntchito yofunika kwambiri: kudzaza dziko lapansi ndi chisangalalo. Pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, yang'anani momwe chimwemwe chadzaza inu, ndi kupyolera mwa inu, okondedwa anu.
Patatha chaka chimodzi, Vera anali atakhala pabenchi yomweyo. Kapepala ka buluu kokhala ndi malangizowo kanatayika kwinakwake kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo sikunali kofunikira. Kusanthula konse kunabwerera mwakale, ndipo patali kuseri kwa mitengo munthu amatha kuwona chizindikiro cha bungwe la Vera lomwe latsegulidwa posachedwa "Khalani nthano nokha."