Umayi uli ngati maphunziro asayansi omwe ayenera kuphunzitsidwa bwino. Montessori, Makarenko, Komarovsky, malingaliro a chitukuko choyambirira ndi mochedwa, machitidwe a luso la maphunziro ndi machitidwe odyetsa. Kindergarten, maphunziro okonzekera, kalasi yoyamba ... Ballet, nyimbo, wushu ndi yoga. Kuyeretsa, chakudya chamadzulo asanu, mwamuna ... Mwamuna ayeneranso kukondedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa malinga ndi njira za akazi. Ndiye pali akazi odabwitsa omwe angathe kuchita zonsezi nthawi imodzi?
Supermom ndi mtundu wa zolengedwa zomwe aliyense amafuna kukhala nazo, koma zomwe nthawi zambiri palibe amene adaziwonapo. Zili ngati nthano zongopeka, koma zimapatsa mayi aliyense wamoyo mulu wa zinthu. Mwachitsanzo, izi ndi zomwe amayi amagawana pamabwalo:
Olga, wazaka 28, mayi wa ana awiri: "Ndimachita manyazi kuvomereza, koma ana anga asanabadwe ndinkadziona kuti ndine mayi wabwino. Ndipo tsopano ma supermoms onsewa amangondikwiyitsa! Mukuyang'ana zithunzi zonsezi pa Instagram: zosakaniza, zokongola, ndi mwana m'manja mwake. Ndipo chakudya cham'mawa cha magawo asanu ndi mabulosi abuluu choyala mawonekedwe amtima. Ndipo siginecha: "Anyamata anga anali okondwa!" Ndipo ine…mu zovala zogonera. Mchira watsitsi uli mbali imodzi, pa T-shirt ndi phala la semolina, mkulu sadya omelet, mwamuna akusita malaya ake. Ndipo ndimapitabe kusukulu… Manja akugwa, ndipo ndikufuna kulira. “
Irina, wazaka 32, mayi wa Nastya wazaka 9: "Ndatopa bwanji ndi amayi amisalawa! Lero pamsonkhanowo ndinadzudzulidwa chifukwa chosabweretsa ma tangerines ku konsati yachifundo, chifukwa chosakonzekeretsa mwana wanga wamkazi luso la cone, komanso chifukwa chosasamalira kwambiri moyo wa kalasi. Inde, sindinapite nawo kumalo owonetsera mapulaneti kapena masewera a masewera. Koma ndili ndi ntchito. Ndikumva zonyansa. Kodi ndine mayi woyipa? Kodi amakwanitsa bwanji zonsezi? Ndipo chiyani, ana awo amakhala bwino? “
Ndipo nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi chidzudzulo.
Ekaterina, wazaka 35, mayi wa ana aakazi awiri: "Lekani kulira! Mulibe nthawi yochita chilichonse, ndi vuto lanu! Muyenera kuganizira za mutu wanu. Werengani tsiku, gwirani ntchito ndi ana, osawaponya m'masukulu a kindergartens ndi masukulu omwe ali ndi maola ochuluka a sukulu. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani anabala? Mayi wabwino amachitira ana ake zonse. Ndipo mwamuna wake ndi wopukutidwa, ndipo ana ali ndi luso. Nonse ndinu aulesi! “
Pambuyo pa nkhondo zapa intaneti izi, Tsiku la Akazi lasonkhanitsa nthano zazikulu 6 zokhuza amayi apamwamba. Ndipo ine ndinapeza chimene chinali kuseri kwa iwo.
Bodza loyamba: Satopa.
Zoona: amayi amatopa. Nthawi zina mpaka kunjenjemera mawondo. Akamaliza ntchito, amangofuna kukwawa kukagona. Ndipo tiyenerabe kudyetsa aliyense ndi chakudya, kuchita homuweki ndi mwanayo. Mwana ndi capricious ndipo safuna kuphunzira, kukopera kuchokera kulembedwa, kusindikiza chilembo "U". Koma izi ziyenera kuchitidwa. Ndipo kumvetsetsa kumabwera kuti ndi bwino kuchita homuweki ndi mayi wodekha. Ana amakwiya komanso kutopa ndi kholo lawo. Ichi ndi chinsinsi cha "mayi wosatopa" - maganizo omwe kutopa kumanyamula, mkaziyo amangobisala kuti athe kubwezera mwamsanga ntchito zapakhomo. Ndipo lingaliro la momwe akufuna kugwetsa nkhope yake mu pilo, nthawi yonseyi silikuchoka pamutu pake.
Nthano 2: Supermom nthawi zonse imakhala yoyenera
Zoona: mukakhala ndi zinthu zambiri zoti muchite zomwe sizingafanane ndi tsiku, mumatani? Ndiko kulondola, mukuyesera kukonza ntchito zanu. Choyamba, konzekerani chizoloŵezi cha tsiku ndi tsiku. Pothetsa mavuto a amayi, njira iyi imathandizanso. Mayi wanzeru samakana thandizo, amagwiritsa ntchito zomwe akwaniritsa ukadaulo wamakono (kulipira multicooker madzulo kuti aphike phala m'mawa, mwachitsanzo), amaganizira za menyu kwa sabata ndikugula zinthu zochokera pamndandanda, amaika nyumba molingana ndi dongosolo linalake (mwachitsanzo, kugawa ndi kuyeretsa masiku). Ndipo tsiku lina amazindikira kuti ali ndi nthawi yochepa yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusambira, yoga kapena kuvina.
Bodza lachitatu: Supermoms amakumbukira chilichonse.
Zoona: ayi, alibe ubongo wamphira nkomwe. Kunja, zikuwoneka kuti akudziwitsidwa mwatsatanetsatane zonse zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wa mwana wake: amadziwa pamene panali nyimbo pamutu wakuti "Zima" ndi "Ndani akuyang'anira nkhalango", amakumbukira zonse. mpaka tsiku limodzi, kuyambira tsiku lobadwa la mphunzitsi wa m'kalasi mpaka tsiku la English Olympiad, etc. Ndipotu, mayi uyu amasunga diary. Kapena oposa mmodzi. Matchuthi a makalasi onse amaikidwa pafiriji. Foni yadzaza ndi chidziwitso ndi pulogalamu yokumbutsa. Ku "alamu" mokweza.
Bodza 4: Supermom ali ndi mphatso ya kuleza mtima kosatha.
Zoona: tonse ndife anthu, tonsefe timakhala ndi chipiriro chosiyana - wina adzaphulika mu theka la miniti, wina ayenera kubweretsedwa kwa chithupsa kwa maola. Koma zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti palibe chimene chingachitike. Kuleza mtima kungakulitsidwe ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kukakamiza mwana kuchotsa zidole zake mu chipinda m'njira zosiyanasiyana: nthawi iliyonse ndi mfuu, kapena ngakhale kukwapula, kapena kuleza mtima kwa mlungu umodzi ndi modekha ndi mwachikondi kusonkhanitsa zidole ndi mwanayo. Kuphunzitsa mwana malamulo ena n’kumene kumapangitsa amayi kuleza mtima kwambiri.
Nthano 5: Supermoms ali ndi mwamuna wabwino (amayi, banja, ubwana, nyumba)
Zoona: sitingathe kusintha ubwana wathu, koma tikhoza kusintha panopa. Atsikana omwe analibe maubwenzi abwino m'banja amakhalanso ma supermoms. Ndipo zithunzi zonyezimira mwadala za "My Ideal Family" m'malo ochezera a pa Intaneti si chifukwa amayi anga akuphulika ndi chikhumbo chofuna kugawana nawo chisangalalo. M’malo mwake, chifukwa chakuti okondedwa (mwamuna yemweyo) sapereka chisamaliro chokwanira kwa mkaziyo. Zokonda zimakhala kwa iwo chithandizo, zomwe sazilandira m'banja, ndipo kuyamikiridwa kuchokera kwa olembetsa kumakhala kuzindikira zabwino ndi zoyesayesa zomwe mwamuna ndi ana samayamikira.
Nthano 6: Supermoms ali ndi ana angwiro.
Zoona: mumakhulupirira mwa ana abwino? Inde, amatha kukhala ndi mendulo, ziphaso ndi magiredi abwino kwambiri, omwe amalankhula za kuyesetsa kwakukulu kwa makolo. Koma ana onse amapita m’mikhalidwe yofanana ya kukula. Aliyense ali ndi zofuna, kusamvera ndi zosokoneza. Mwa njira, pali chinanso choopsa apa, pamene amayi akuyesera kuzindikira maloto awo osakwaniritsidwa kudzera mwa mwana. Ndipo mwanayo amayamba kupeza mendulo zosafunika ndi ziphaso ndi kupita kukaphunzira kukhala loya, ngakhale kuti nthawi zonse ankafuna kukhala mlengi.
Ndiye mayi wapamwamba ndi ndani? Ndipo alipo konse?
Posachedwapa, mfundo ya chikhalidwe cha "amayi abwino" yapita mumlengalenga, kumene palibe roketi yomwe yafika. Azimayi achichepere akuyesayesa mwamphamvu kupeza miyezo yakuti: “Kodi zimatengera nthaŵi yochuluka bwanji kuti mukhale ndi khanda kuti mukhale mayi wabwino?”, “Kodi ndi liti pamene amayi angabwerere kuntchito?” luntha lanu? “
Kumbukirani: simuyenera kudzipereka moyo wanu wonse kuti mukhale wangwiro. Ngati simukufuna, ndithudi, kutchedwa "mayi wamisala", "Yazhmat", "Ndidzaswa". Umayi sagwirizana ndi malangizo omveka bwino, malamulo oyenerera ndi maudindo a ntchito - ziribe kanthu momwe wina angayesere kupereka malamulo a khalidwe kwa amayi.
Asayansi atsimikizira kwa nthaŵi yaitali kuti kutengeka maganizo ndi kukhala mayi n’zosagwirizana. Ngati mkazi wamisala amayesetsa kukhala supermother, izi ndi zizindikiro za neurasthenia, kusakhutira ndi moyo, kusungulumwa. Mayi wosasamala nthawi zina angapindule kwambiri mwanayo kuposa mayi wamkulu ndi kuyesetsa kwake kukhala wabwino kuposa aliyense, ngakhale kupyolera mwa ana ake. Izi ndi ziwiri monyanyira zimene bwino kupewa - onse.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena nthaŵi zambiri kuti: “N’zosatheka kukhala mayi wabwino. Kungokhala wabwino ndikokwanira. ” Tanthauzo la golide likunena za ife.