"Ngati mwana sathandiza kuzungulira nyumba, sadzakula konse"

Makolo amayang'ana ana awo pazochitika zamaphunziro ndi kakulidwe, pa luso lanzeru. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi, amamasulidwa ku ntchito zonse zapakhomo - "msiyeni aphunzire, apange ntchito, ndipo ena onse adzatsatira." Koma kukhala ndi phande mokhazikika m’zochita zachizoloŵezi zabanja ndiko kumatheketsa mwanayo kukula.

Mwana amene amagwira ntchito zapakhomo amakhala wokhoza kuchita bwino m’moyo, akutero Dr. Marilyn Rossman. Komanso, kwa anthu opambana kwambiri, ntchito zapakhomo zimawonekera ali ndi zaka zitatu kapena zinayi. Ndipo amene anayamba kuchita zinthu zapakhomo ali achichepere sachita bwino.

Ngakhale ngati sikuli kofunikira kuti mwanayo akolope pansi kapena kuphika chakudya cham’maŵa, amafunikirabe kuchita chinachake panyumbapo, kudziŵa kuchichita, ndi kulandira chivomerezo cha makolo kaamba ka chopereka chake. Izi zimapanga njira yoyenera yogwirira ntchito, yomwe imakhala yothandiza kuntchito komanso m'moyo wa anthu.

Maluso othandiza

Nawa maluso akulu ndi maluso amoyo omwe Julia Lithcott-Hames amatchula potengera tsamba lovomerezeka la Family Education Network.

Pakafika zaka zitatu, mwana ayenera:

- thandizani kuyeretsa zidole

- kuvala ndi kuvula paokha (mothandizidwa ndi munthu wamkulu);

- kuthandizira kukonza tebulo;

- tsukani mano ndikusamba kumaso mothandizidwa ndi munthu wamkulu.

Pofika zaka zisanu:

- gwirani ntchito zosavuta zoyeretsa, monga kupukuta malo ofikirako ndikuchotsa patebulo;

- kudyetsa ziweto;

- tsukani mano, pesa tsitsi lanu ndikusamba nkhope yanu popanda kuthandizidwa;

- kuthandizira kutsuka zovala, mwachitsanzo, kuzibweretsa kumalo ochapa.

Pofika zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri:

- kuthandiza kuphika (kuyambitsa, kugwedeza ndi kudula ndi mpeni wosasunthika);

- konzani zakudya zosavuta, mwachitsanzo, kupanga masangweji;

— Thandizani kuyeretsa chakudya

- kutsuka mbale;

- kugwiritsa ntchito bwino zinthu zosavuta zotsuka;

- konza chimbudzi mukatha kugwiritsa ntchito;

- kuyala bedi popanda thandizo.

Pofika zaka zisanu ndi zinayi:

- pindani zovala

- phunzirani njira zosavuta zosoka;

- samalira njinga kapena masiketi odzigudubuza;

- gwiritsani ntchito tsache ndi fumbi moyenera;

- athe kuwerenga maphikidwe ndi kuphika zakudya zosavuta;

- Kuthandizira ntchito zosavuta zamaluwa, monga kuthirira ndi kupalira;

- kutulutsa zinyalala.

Ndi zaka 13:

- pitani kusitolo ndikugula nokha;

- kusintha mapepala

- gwiritsani ntchito chotsukira mbale ndi chowumitsira;

- mwachangu ndi kuphika mu uvuni;

- chitsulo;

- kutchetcha udzu ndi kuyeretsa bwalo;

— Muzisamalira abale ndi alongo aang’ono.

Ndi zaka 18:

- kudziwa zonse zomwe zili pamwambapa;

- gwiritsani ntchito zovuta kwambiri zoyeretsa ndi kukonza, monga kusintha thumba mu chotsukira chotsuka, kuyeretsa uvuni ndi kuyeretsa kukhetsa;

- konzani chakudya ndikuphika mbale zovuta.

Mwina, mutawerenga mndandandawu, mudzachita mantha. Pali ntchito zambiri mmenemo zimene timachita tokha, m’malo mozigawira kwa ana. Choyamba, ndi yabwino kwa ife: tidzachita mofulumira komanso bwino, ndipo kachiwiri, timakonda kuwathandiza ndikumverera odziwa, wamphamvuyonse.

Koma mwamsanga tikamayamba kuphunzitsa ana ntchito, m’pamenenso m’pamenenso amamva mawu a ana akamakula kuti: “N’chifukwa chiyani mufuna zimenezi kwa ine? Ngati izi ndi zinthu zofunika, n’chifukwa chiyani sindinachite zimenezi m’mbuyomu?”

Kumbukirani njira yomwe yayesedwa kale komanso yotsimikiziridwa mwasayansi yokulitsa luso la ana:

- choyamba timachitira mwanayo;

- ndiye chitani naye;

_ndiye penyani momwe iye amachitira izo;

- potsiriza, mwanayo amachita izo kwathunthu paokha.

Malamulo asanu ndi limodzi a maphunziro a ntchito

Sikuchedwa kwambiri kumanganso, ndipo ngati simunazolowere mwana wanu kugwira ntchito, ndiye yambani kuchita pakali pano. Julia Lythcott-Hames amapereka malamulo asanu ndi limodzi a khalidwe kwa makolo.

1. Perekani chitsanzo

Musatumize mwana wanu kuntchito pamene inu nokha mukugona pabedi. Achibale onse, mosasamala za msinkhu, jenda ndi udindo, ayenera kutenga nawo mbali pa ntchito ndi chithandizo. Aloleni ana awone mmene mumagwirira ntchito. Afunseni kuti alowe nawo. Ngati mukupita kuchita chinachake kukhitchini, pabwalo kapena m'galimoto - itanani mwanayo: "Ndikufuna thandizo lanu."

2. Yembekezerani chithandizo kuchokera kwa mwana wanu

Kholo si wothandizira payekha wa wophunzira, koma mphunzitsi woyamba. Nthawi zina timasamala kwambiri za chisangalalo cha mwanayo. Koma tiyenera kukonzekeretsa ana kukula, kumene maluso onsewa adzakhala othandiza kwambiri kwa iwo. Mwanayo sangasangalale ndi katundu watsopanoyo—mosakayika angakonde kudziika m’manda pa telefoni kapena kukhala ndi anzake, koma kuchita ntchito zanu kudzam’patsa kuzindikira chosoŵa chake ndi kufunika kwake.

3. Osapepesa kapena kufotokoza zinthu zosafunikira

Kholo lili ndi ufulu ndi udindo wopempha mwana wake kuti amuthandize pa ntchito zapakhomo. Simufunikanso kufotokoza mosalekeza chifukwa chake mukufunsira izi, ndikutsimikizira kuti mukudziwa momwe sakonda, koma muyenera kutero, tsindikani kuti simumasuka kumufunsa. Kufotokozera mopambanitsa kumakupangitsani kuwoneka ngati mukudzikhululukira. Zimangosokoneza kukhulupirika kwanu. Ingopatsani mwana wanu ntchito yomwe angakwanitse. Akhoza kung’ung’udza pang’ono, koma m’tsogolo adzakuyamikani.

4. Perekani malangizo omveka bwino

Ngati ntchitoyo ndi yatsopano, iduleni kuti ikhale yosavuta. Nenani ndendende choti muchite, ndiyeno chokani pambali. Simuyenera kugwedezeka pamwamba pa izo. Onetsetsani kuti mwamaliza ntchitoyo. Muloleni iye ayesere, kulephera ndi kuyesa kachiwiri. Funsani: "Ndiuzeni ikakonzeka, ndipo ndibwera kudzawona." Ndiye, ngati mlanduwo siwowopsa ndipo kuyang'aniridwa sikufunika, chokani.

5. Yamikani ndi kudziletsa;

Ana akamachita zinthu zing'onozing'ono - kutulutsa zinyalala, kuyeretsa patebulo, kudyetsa galu - timakonda kuwatamanda mopambanitsa: "Zabwino! Ndiwe wochenjera bwanji! Mawu osavuta, ochezeka, odalirika, "zikomo" kapena "mwachita bwino" ndi okwanira. Sungani matamando akuluakulu panthawi yomwe mwanayo adapezadi chinthu chachilendo, kudziposa yekha.

Ngakhale ntchitoyo ikuchitika bwino, mukhoza kumuuza mwanayo zomwe zingasinthidwe: kotero tsiku lina zidzakhala kuntchito. Malangizo ena angaperekedwe: "Ngati mugwira chidebe chotere, zinyalala sizingatulukemo." Kapena: “Mukuona mzere wa malaya anu otuwa? Ndi chifukwa munatsuka ndi ma jeans atsopano. Ndi bwino kutsuka ma jeans padera nthawi yoyamba, apo ayi adzadetsa zinthu zina.

Pambuyo pake, kumwetulira - simunakwiye, koma phunzitsani - ndikubwerera ku bizinesi yanu. Ngati mwana wanu akuzoloŵera kuthandiza panyumba ndi kuchita zinthu payekha, musonyezeni zimene mukuona ndi kuyamikira zimene amachita.

6. Pangani chizolowezi

Ngati mwasankha kuti zinthu zina zizichitika tsiku ndi tsiku, zina mlungu uliwonse, ndi zina panyengo iliyonse, ana adzazoloŵera mfundo yakuti m’moyo nthaŵi zonse mumakhala chochita.

Mukauza mwana kuti, "Mverani, ndimakonda kuti mupite kukachita bizinesi ndikuthandiza," ndikumuthandiza kuchita chinthu chovuta, m'kupita kwa nthawi amayamba kuthandiza ena.