Zamkatimu
M'moyo wa aliyense wa ife, nthawi zambiri pamakhala nthawi zomwe zomwe zimatisangalatsa zimasiya kudzutsa malingaliro. Chilichonse chomwe chili mkati mwathu chikuwoneka kuti chachita dzanzi. Ndipo funso limabuka: kodi pali phindu lililonse kukhala ndi moyo? Izi ndi momwe kupsinjika maganizo kumawonekera. Kodi kukhala mu nkhani iyi?
Ambiri mwa anthu amene akudwala matenda ovutika maganizo samvetsa chimene chikuwachitikira. Ngakhale atamvetsetsa, sadziwa momwe angathanirane ndi matendawa. Chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikuzindikira ngati muli ndi vuto la kuvutika maganizo. Nkhani yathu yokhudza zizindikiro zazikulu za kuvutika maganizo idzakuthandizani pa izi.
Ngati mutapeza zizindikiro ziwiri mwa zisanu mwa inu nokha, muyenera kupita ku sitepe yotsatira. Mwakutero, tsatirani upangiri wa Jennifer Rollin, psychotherapist komanso katswiri wogwira ntchito ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa.
1. Funsani thandizo
Kuvutika maganizo ndi vuto lalikulu la maganizo. Mwamwayi, imayankha bwino chithandizo. Ngati muwona zizindikiro za kuvutika maganizo, ndikofunika kupeza chithandizo chamankhwala kuchokera kwa psychotherapist kapena psychiatrist.
Mukapempha thandizo, simumasonyeza kufooka, koma, mosiyana, mphamvu zenizeni. Ngati kuvutika maganizo kukukuuzani kuti simukuyenera kuthandizidwa, chonde musamvere! Kupsinjika maganizo, mofanana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wankhanza, sikufuna kukusiyani. Kumbukirani kuti aliyense amene akudwala matendawa ayenera kuthandizidwa ndi chithandizo. Simuyenera kukhalabe mumkhalidwe wopanda chiyembekezo ndi kusungulumwa.
2. Dziwani zomwe malingaliro anu akuyesera kukupatsani malingaliro.
Malingaliro zikwizikwi amabwera m'mutu mwathu tsiku lililonse. Sikuti zonse zili zoona. Ngati mukuvutika maganizo, n’zokayikitsa kuti maganizo anu adzakhala opanda chiyembekezo.
Choyamba, muyenera kuzindikira zomwe mumadzilimbikitsa nokha. Kuzindikira maganizo oipa, kupeza kuti wathanzi mbali yanu «Ine» kuti akhoza kukana iwo. Gwiritsani ntchito kuyesa kudzilimbikitsa nokha ndi malingaliro omwe angakuthandizeni polimbana ndi kukhumudwa.
3. Chitani zosiyana
Pali lingaliro limodzi mu dialectical behaviour therapy lomwe ndimakonda kwambiri. Zimatchedwa reverse action. Anthu omwe akudwala matenda ovutika maganizo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chikhumbo cha kusalankhulana ndi wina aliyense, kusadzuka pabedi ndi kupeŵa zochitika zina. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kudzikakamiza "kuchita mosiyana":
- Ngati mukufuna kupewa kulankhulana kulikonse, itanani anzanu kapena achibale ndikukonzekera msonkhano.
- Ngati mukungofuna kugona pabedi osadzuka, ganizirani za mtundu wa ntchito zomwe mungachite.
Ndikofunikira kudzikakamiza tokha kuti tilumikizane ndi anthu ndikutuluka mnyumba - umu ndi momwe tingasangalalire tokha.
4. Dzichitireni chifundo
Podziimba mlandu chifukwa cha kupsinjika maganizo, mumangowonjezera. Nthawi zonse muzikumbukira kuti kuvutika maganizo si vuto lanu. Awa ndi matenda amisala, simunasankhe nokha. Palibe amene amavomereza mwaufulu kudzipatula kwa abwenzi ndi okondedwa, kudzimva kukhala opanda chiyembekezo komanso opanda chiyembekezo, kufooka ndi mphwayi, chifukwa cha zomwe zimakhala zovuta kudzuka pabedi kapena kuchoka panyumba.
Ndiye chifukwa chake muyenera kudzichitira chifundo ndi kukumbukira kuti si inu nokha amene mukuvutika maganizo. Ganizirani njira zomwe mungasamalire nokha. Dzichitireni chifundo, monga mmene mungachitire ndi mnzanu wapamtima amene ali m’mavuto.
Zingakhale zovuta kukhulupirira tsopano kuti mawu okhumudwa ali pachimake, koma ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti mudzakhala bwino. Chonde pemphani thandizo. Palibe amene ayenera kuvutika ndi kuvutika maganizo yekha.
Ndi chithandizo choyenera ndi chithandizo, simudzaphunzira momwe mungathanirane ndi kuvutika maganizo, koma mudzatha kukhala ndi moyo wokwanira, wosangalala. Kupatula apo, ndinu wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa momwe mukuganizira.