"Ah, Pushkin, inde mwana wa hule!" wolemba ndakatulo wamkulu adakondwera yekha. Timamwetulira: inde, ndi katswiri. Ndipo tili ndi umboni wosonyeza kuti wanzeruyo sananyalanyaze matamando ake. Nanga bwanji ife anthu? Kodi tingadzitamande kangati? Ndipo kutamanda kopambanitsa sikungativulaze?
Kwa ambiri aife, nthawi zina pamabwera chikhalidwe cha mgwirizano wamkati, pamene zikuwoneka kuti tikhoza kudzikuza tokha. Osachepera kamodzi m'moyo, koma timapeza chisangalalo ichi: mphindi yosowa pamene kwaya yathu yonse yamkati imatulutsa nyimbo yotamanda. Kholo lamkati limasiya mwana wamkati yekha kwa kamphindi, liwu la mtima limaimba limodzi ndi liwu la kulingalira, ndipo wotsutsa wamkulu amachoka pa kukongola kumeneku.
Nthawi yamatsenga, yanzeru. Kaŵirikaŵiri kugwirizana kwamkati koteroko kumachitika, m’pamenenso munthu amakhala wosangalala. Ndife okonzeka kusiya zochitika zolephera, kukambirana ndi aliyense, ndipo m'njira yoti onse otenga nawo mbali pazokambirana angapindule nawo. Chisangalalochi nthawi zambiri amafuna kugawana nawo.
Ndikawona kusintha kotere kwa kasitomala, ndimakhala ndi malingaliro ovuta: kumbali imodzi, boma ndi labwino, lopindulitsa, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo pali chiopsezo chachikulu chothyola nkhuni.
Moyo wathu wonse tili munjira yovuta komanso yovuta kupeza mgwirizano, kenako ndikutaya.
Karina anayamba mankhwala osati kale kwambiri, ndipo ndi iye, monga ndi ambiri, panali "chiyambi" pamene munthu amasangalala ndi yekha, wokondwa kuti anatenga sitepe iyi, ndipo iye mosapiririka amafuna kumva zotsatira za gwirani ntchito mwachangu. Komabe, kuchokera pakuwona kwa wodwalayo, chiyambi cha chithandizo chimatsikira pakumanga kulumikizana, kusonkhanitsa zambiri, mbiri ya mutuwo. Nthawi zambiri njira zambiri komanso homuweki zimagwiritsidwa ntchito panthawiyi.
Zonsezi zinachititsa chidwi Karina, malo othandizira adatsogolera kuti kwa kanthawi mgwirizano wathunthu unalamulira mu dziko lake lamkati.
Malinga ndi kukhwima kwa munthuyo mumkhalidwe wotero wa chigwirizano, munthu akhoza kupanga chipambano chaumwini kapena kupita m’njira yolakwika. Karina adapeza womaliza. Adalankhula monyadira kuti adafotokozera bambo ake madandaulo ake onse, ndipo momaliza, adakhazikitsa momwe banja lawo lidzakhalire.
Nditamva tsatanetsatane wa mayendedwe ake, ndikumvetsetsa momwe adalakwira abambo, ndinaganiza ngati izi zikanayenda mosiyana, mogwirizana kwambiri. Ndikuwopa kuti ndikhoza. Koma ndinasoŵa tcheru pamene Karina anachoka mu ofesiyo ali ndi udindo wodzidalira kwambiri, n’kuyamba kudzidalira.
N'zoonekeratu kuti mogwirizana kudzidalira ndi kutali mokwanira ndi mzati wa «kunjenjemera cholengedwa», komanso ku mtengo wa «kulolera» kwambiri. M’miyoyo yathu yonse, ife tiri mumchitidwe wosasunthika ndi wovuta kupeza chigwirizano chimenechi, ndiyeno nkuchitaya.
Zimatithandiza pa izi, kuphatikizapo ndemanga zochokera kudziko lapansi. Kwa Karina, zinali zovuta zachuma. Abambo anaganiza izi: ngati mwana wamkazi yemwe amakhala pansi pa denga lake akufuna kulamulira malamulo ake, ndipo sakonda malamulo ake, ndiye angakonde bwanji ndalama zake? Pamapeto pake, amalipidwa motsatira malamulo omwe samuyenerera.
Nthawi zina timakumana ndi zosefera: magalasi amtundu wa rozi kapena zosefera zamantha ndi zopanda pake.
Ndipo izi zidakhala zokakamiza kwambiri kwa Karina wazaka 22, akukula mwachangu kwambiri. Chirichonse chikhoza kupita mosiyana, mofewa.
Atapanga zolakwa zambiri, lero Karina amakhala moyo wake, malinga ndi zake, malamulo anasintha kwambiri. Kudziko lina, ndi mwamuna, osati ndi bambo.
Kuvuta kwa moyo wa Karina kunamukakamiza kusokoneza chithandizo. Timayitana kuti tingosinthana nkhani. Ndimamufunsa kuti: Kodi akunong'oneza bondo kuti sanachite bwino? Kodi mungakonde kutero?
Karina anasiya kulankhula, chithunzi chake chikuwuma pakompyuta yanga ya laputopu. Poganizira za zovuta zoyankhulirana, ndikufuna kukanikiza "Bwezerani", koma chithunzicho chimayamba kukhala ndi moyo, ndipo Karina, atakhala nthawi yayitali yachilendo kwa iye, akunena kuti kwa nthawi yoyamba mu nthawi yayitali adakumbukira zotsatira za zokambiranazo. ndi bambo.
Poyamba iye anakhumudwa, koma tsopano akuchita manyazi pamaso pake. Zomwe sanamuuze! Ndibwino kuti abambo adakhala munthu wodziwa bwino kusukulu yakale, wamalingaliro akum'mawa, ndipo adachita zomwe zinali zoyenera panthawiyo. Ayi, Karina samanong'oneza bondo zomwe zidachitika kenako, koma akumva chisoni kwambiri ndi abambo ake ...
Nthawi zina timadzipeza tokha pachifundo cha zosefera: magalasi amtundu wa rozi, monga momwe zinalili ndi Karina, tikamamva ngati ochenjera komanso ofunika kwambiri padziko lapansi, kapena zosefera za mantha ndi zopanda pake. Zotsirizirazi zimabweretsa zotsatira zoyipa kwambiri kwa munthu: mukuyenda modzidalira pali kuyenda komweko, ngakhale molakwika. Palibe kusuntha pakudzitsitsa, ziyembekezo zonse zimatembenuzidwira kunja, pazochitika zongopeka zabwino zamtsogolo.
Chilichonse chomwe timamva, chilichonse chomwe chingachitike, ndi chakanthawi. Zomverera kwakanthawi, zokumana nazo. zikhulupiriro zosakhalitsa. Kuwoneka kwakanthawi. Zinthu zimenezi zimasintha pamlingo wosiyana m’moyo wonse. Lingaliro la gawo lina limakhalabe lokhazikika - moyo wathu.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira, kuchita pamalingaliro kapena, monga zikuwonekera, kunja kwa malingaliro, kaya zomwe tikuchita ndi zabwino kwa moyo kapena ayi. Ndipo ngati simungathe kuzizindikira nokha, ndi zomwe akatswiri azamisala amapangira.