Kodi chimayambitsa mantha adzidzidzi ndi chiyani? Kodi mantha osayenerera amachokera kuti? Nthawi zina vuto la umunthu wam'malire limadziwonetsera motere. Mwamwayi, ndi mankhwala. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuzindikira zizindikirozo panthawi yake.
Elena anavutika ndi mantha aakulu. Zowukirazo zidatenga masekondi angapo mpaka theka la ola. Anawuka mosayembekezereka komanso osakhazikika. Izi zinamulepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo, kugwira ntchito komanso kulankhulana. Iye anadzichitira yekha manyazi. Nthawi zambiri wochezeka, Elena anayamba kupeŵa anthu ndi kusiya zokonda zake zakale.
Mantha oopsa anayamba muunyamata. Pofika zaka 30 Elena sakanatha kugwira ntchito kwa miyezi ingapo, ukwati unali pafupi kutha, panalibe mabwenzi otsala.
Madokotala anamupeza ndi matenda a borderline personality. Elena sankawoneka ngati wodwala wamba yemwe ali ndi vutoli. Iye anali ndi mawonekedwe obisika a matendawa.
Nazi zizindikiro zochepa za vuto la borderline mu mawonekedwe ake obisika:
1. Chikhumbo chofuna kusunga maubwenzi panjira iliyonse. Elena sangasiye mwamuna wake, ngakhale kuti anali ndi mavuto m'banja. Kuyambira ali mwana, ankaona kuti makolo ake anamusiya ndipo ali wachinyamata anayamba kukondana ndi mwamuna amene anakwatiwa naye.
2. Maubwenzi osakhazikika komanso ovuta m'maganizo m'banja. Izi zidawonekera makamaka mu ubale ndi amayi. Ananyoza ndi kuchititsa manyazi Elena. Mwanayo anasiya kulankhulana ndi amayi ake pambuyo pa SMS ina mwachipongwe, ndipo masabata awiri pambuyo pake, ngati kuti palibe chimene chinachitika, anapita naye kukagula zinthu. Elena adaletsa kukwiya komanso kukwiya.
3. Malingaliro opotoka ponena za inu nokha. Elena ali wamng'ono, amayi ake anamutumiza mobwerezabwereza kuti achite nawo mipikisano yokongola. Zochitika zoterezi zimapanga malingaliro oipa ponena za thupi la munthu. Elena anaganiza kuti ngati ali wokongola m'maonekedwe, iye sangachite ndi maganizo ndi maganizo. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, iye anatsekereza mkwiyo, chisoni, manyazi, liwongo, ndi chisoni kwa zaka zambiri.
4. Kuchita zinthu mopupuluma ndiponso kudziwononga. Elena sanakane kuti amamwa mowa mwauchidakwa komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Anali wokonda kuwononga ndalama mosadziletsa, kudzivulaza, kudya mopambanitsa. Makhalidwe oipa ankatsatirana. Ngati anakwanitsa kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, nthawi yomweyo anayamba kuwononga ndalama mosadziletsa. Atagonjetsa chizoloŵezi cha kupeta khungu lake, anayamba "kulanda" nkhawa. Njira zodzivulaza zimasintha nthawi zonse.
5. Kuyesera kudzipha nthawi zonse. Poyamba, Elena analibe zolinga zodzipha, anakana maganizo amenewa. Komabe, anali ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Chizoloŵezi chake chodzivulaza kwanthaŵi yaitali ndi khalidwe lowopsa chinali champhamvu kwambiri kotero kuti kuchita zimenezi kungatchedwenso kufuna kudzipha mobisa.
6. Kuda nkhawa kwambiri, kukhumudwa kapena kukwiya. Ali mwana, Elena anaphunzitsidwa kuti maganizo osasangalatsa - nkhawa, kukwiya, nkhawa - ayenera kuchita manyazi. Popeza sankaloledwa kusonyeza maganizo oterowo poyera, anawabisa. Zotsatira zake, mantha adayamba, ndipo atakula, mavuto am'mimba adawonjezeredwa.
7. Kudzimva kukhala wopanda kanthu mkati. Ngakhale zinthu zitamuyendera bwino Elena, ankaona kuti sakusangalala. Anayamba kuwononga maganizo a ena, ndipo mosadziŵa anayesera kusonyeza kudzimva wopanda kanthu. Komabe, izi zinakumana ndi chitsutso choopsa kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake ndi achibale ena kotero kuti ankakonda kungobisa malingaliro ake kwa aliyense.
8. Kupsa mtima. Elena adanena kuti pafupifupi samakwiya. Ndipotu kuyambira ali mwana anaphunzitsidwa kuti mkwiyo suyenera kusonyezedwa. Mkwiyo unakula m’kupita kwa zaka, ndipo nthaŵi zina pankachitika zipolowe zosayembekezereka. Atachita manyazi, anayambanso kudzivulaza, kudya kwambiri kapena kumwa mowa.
9. Maganizo osokonezeka. The ndondomeko ya dokotala anachititsa mantha Elena kotero kuti anagwetsa chirichonse kangapo, kenako kachiwiri. Anali ndi malingaliro opitilira paranoia. Iye ankawopa zochita za achibale, kutsutsidwa kwa ena. Ndipo koposa zonse - kuti aliyense amusiye.
10. Zizindikiro za kupatukana. Nthawi zina Elena ankawoneka ngati "akugwa zenizeni", zinkawoneka kwa iye kuti akudziyang'ana yekha kumbali. Nthawi zambiri, izi zinachitika nthawi yomweyo pamaso pa mantha kuukira ndipo mwamsanga pambuyo pake. Asanapite kwa dokotala, Elena sanauze aliyense za izi, ankaopa kuti angamuone ngati wachilendo.
Matenda a umunthu owonekera komanso obisika amatha kuchiritsidwa. Psychotherapy imathandiza odwala ambiri: dialectical behavioral therapy, schema therapy, maphunziro a maganizo. Elena atazindikira zomwe zinali kumuchitikira, mantha a mantha anachepa, ndipo patapita nthawi, chithandizo chamaganizo chinamuthandiza kuphunzira kulimbana ndi zochitika zamaganizo.
Za wolemba: Kristin Hammond ndi upangiri wazamisala.