Mu maubwenzi okhalitsa, okwatirana nthawi zambiri amakhala opanda chidwi mwa wina ndi mzake, ndipo chifukwa chake amatopa nawo. Kodi funso losavuta lingapulumutse banja lanu? Mwina! Malangizo a katswiri wamaganizo amathandiza omwe akufuna kugwirizananso ndi wokondedwa.
odziwana nawo
“Kwa makasitomala amene akhala ndi chibwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali, nthawi zambiri ndimamva kuti atopa ndi chibwenzicho. Zikuwoneka kwa iwo kuti amadziwa kale zonse za wokondedwa wawo: momwe amaganizira, momwe amachitira, zomwe amakonda. Koma munthu aliyense akusintha mosalekeza, makamaka amene amayesetsa kudzikonza,” akufotokoza motero Niro Feliciano, katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Panthawi yotsekeredwa m'ndende, mabanja mamiliyoni ambiri adatsekeredwa kunyumba. Anakhala miyezi ingapo ali okhaokha. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, izi zimakulitsa kutopa kwa zibwenzi kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Feliciano amapereka njira yosavuta kwambiri yomwe amati ndi yabwino kulumikizanso m'maganizo: masewera a mafunso.
“Ine ndi mwamuna wanga Ed takhala limodzi kwa zaka pafupifupi 18 ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri timaseŵera maseŵero ameneŵa pamene mmodzi wa ife alingalira zolakwika ponena za mnzake. Mwachitsanzo, tikapita kokagula zinthu ndipo mwadzidzidzi akuti: “Diresi iyi ingakukomereni kwambiri, eti? Ndinadabwa: "Inde, siziri za kukoma kwanga, sindikanaziyika m'moyo wanga!" Mwina zikanandigwirira ntchito kale. Koma m’pofunika kukumbukira kuti tonse timakula, timakula komanso timasintha,” akutero Feliciano.
Malamulo amasewera a mafunso
Masewera a mafunso ndi osavuta komanso osakhazikika. Inu ndi mnzanu mumasinthana kufunsana za chilichonse chomwe chimayambitsa chidwi. Cholinga chachikulu cha masewerawa ndikuchotsa zonyenga ndi malingaliro olakwika okhudza wina ndi mzake.
Mafunso akhoza kukonzedwa pasadakhale kapena kulembedwa mwachisawawa. Zitha kukhala zazikulu kapena ayi, koma ndikofunikira kulemekeza malire a aliyense. “Mwinamwake mnzako sangakhale wokonzeka kukamba zinazake. Mutuwo ukhoza kukhala wachilendo kwa iye kapena kupangitsa kusapeza bwino. Mwina ngati zikumbukiro zowawa zimagwirizanitsidwa nazo. Mukawona kuti sakusangalatsa, musakanize ndikufunsa yankho, ”akutsindika Niro Feliciano.
Yambani ndi mafunso osavuta. Adzakuthandizani kuona kuti mnzanuyo amakudziwani bwino:
- Ndi chiyani chomwe ndimakonda kwambiri pazakudya?
- Kodi wosewera yemwe ndimakonda kwambiri ndi ndani?
- Ndi mafilimu ati omwe ndimakonda kwambiri?
Mutha kuyamba motere: "Kodi mukuganiza kuti ndasintha kwambiri kuyambira pomwe tidakumana? Ndipo mu chiyani kwenikweni? Kenako yankhani funso lomweli inunso. Izi zikuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe malingaliro anu okhudzirana wina ndi mnzake komanso za ubale wanu asinthira pakapita nthawi.
Gulu lina lofunikira la mafunso limakhudza maloto anu ndi mapulani amtsogolo. Nazi zitsanzo:
- Kodi mukuganiza kuti ndikufuna kukwaniritsa chiyani m'moyo?
- Kodi mumalota chiyani kwambiri?
- Mukuyembekezera chiyani m'tsogolo?
- Kodi mumandiganizira bwanji titakumana koyamba?
- Ino nkaambo nzi ncotweelede kuzyiba ncobeni kulindinywe? Munamvetsetsa bwanji izi?
Masewera a mafunso samangobweretsa pafupi: amadzutsa chidwi chanu ndipo potero amathandizira kupanga "mahomoni osangalatsa" m'thupi. Mudzafuna kuphunzira zambiri za mnzanuyo. Mudzazindikira mwadzidzidzi: munthu yemwe mumamudziwa bwino akadali wokhoza kukupatsani zodabwitsa zambiri. Ndipo ndikumverera kosangalatsa kwambiri. Maubwenzi omwe ankawoneka ngati omasuka mwadzidzidzi amawala ndi mitundu yatsopano.