Zamkatimu
Nchifukwa chiyani timalola maubwenzi omwe sikuti amatipangitsa kukhala osangalala, koma kuwononga thanzi lathu ndi moyo wathu, kuchotsa mphamvu ndi chidwi kuti tipite patsogolo? Mwinamwake sitikuyang'ana kwambiri chikondi pamene tikuyesera muzochitika zowawa, monga pagalasi, kuti tiwone ndi kuzimvetsetsa tokha, kuthana ndi mikangano yobisika kwambiri? Akatswiri athu amasanthula imodzi mwa nkhanizi.
Chikondi chopereka nsembe ndi kudzipha kophiphiritsa
Chris Armstrong, mphunzitsi
Anna wakhala akumudziwa mwamunayu kwa zaka zitatu ndi theka ndipo wakhala akukondana naye kwa nthawi yofanana. Ngakhale kuti kumverera uku nthawi zina kumamupatsa nthawi yosangalala, nthawi zambiri amakhala mphwayi komanso wokhumudwa. Chimene amachitcha chikondi chapuwala moyo wake wonse. Anna anandilembera kalata wopempha thandizo, akumaulula kuti analibe chiyembekezo chosintha mkhalidwewo.
Ndikuvomereza kuti ndimakhulupirira chiyembekezo ngati sichisokoneza mkhalidwe weniweni wa zinthu, zomwe zimatsogolera kudziko lamalingaliro amatsenga. Palibe chamatsenga chilichonse chokhudza kuti wokondedwa wa Anna amalola kuyendetsa galimoto ataledzera pamene akukhala pafupi naye. Ndipo kuti ankalankhula zinthu zonyansa za iye kwa anzake atazindikira kuti anali ndi nkhawa ndi vuto lake la mowa.
Pali zitsanzo zambiri zoterezi m'mbiri ya Anna. Chifukwa cha zimene anakumana nazo, anawonda kwambiri, matenda aakulu anakula, ndipo anayamba kuvutika maganizo. Munthu amene amamupatsa mphamvu zambiri amakhala mumzinda wina. Ndipo kwa nthawi yonseyi, kamodzi kokha adawulukira kwa iye kuti akakumane. Anna akuwulukira kwa iye yekha ndi ndalama zake. Kuntchito, sanakwezedwe ntchito, koma watsala pang'ono kuchotsedwa ntchito chifukwa adatsala pang'ono kutaya chidwi ndi chilichonse.
Popanda kudzipha, timadzipha mophiphiritsa.
Anna ali ndi ana aamuna aŵiri a msinkhu wopita kusukulu, ndipo n’zachionekere kuti mnzawo amene ali ndi vuto la uchidakwa sali chitsanzo chabwino koposa kwa iwo. Amamvetsetsa kuti ubale wopwetekawu ukuwononga moyo wake ndi kukhudza miyoyo ya ana ake, koma kuwasokoneza ndi kupitirira mphamvu zake. Tonse tikudziwa nyimbo yotchuka ya Beatles: "Zomwe mukufunikira ndi chikondi." Ndikanenanso kuti: zomwe timafunikira ndi chikondi chathanzi. Kupanda kutero, timamira m’nthambi ya chizunzo chopanda pake chimene chimatenga zaka zambiri za moyo wathu.
Ndikuganiza kuti chinsinsi cha mkhalidwe wa Anna chagona m’chiganizo chimodzi cha kalata yake. Iye akuvomereza kuti nthaŵi zonse ankalakalaka kupeza chikondi chimene munthu angachifere. Zimamveka zachikondi, ndipo tonsefe timafuna kukwera pamwamba pa moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, koma chikondi chomwe chiyenera kufera nthawi zambiri chimatsogolera ku mfundo yakuti popanda kudzipha, timadzipha mophiphiritsira. Timataya mphamvu, zilakolako ndi mapulani, timataya zaka zathu zabwino kwambiri.
Kodi chikondi n'chofunika kudzimana? Mwina yankho lokhalo loona mtima la funsoli lingasinthe mkhalidwewo.
“Kudzimvetsa kokha kungatiteteze”
Lev Khegai, katswiri wa Jungian
N’chifukwa chiyani timaloŵa m’mabwenzi okondana mopambanitsa? Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri.
Izi zitha kukhala zizolowezi zobadwa nazo zomwe zimatikakamiza kudzilanga tokha, ndipo mgwirizano ndi mnzathu womwe umatichotsera ulemu umathandizira pa izi. Mwina izi ndizoyesa kukonzanso ubwana, pamene maubwenzi ndi abambo kapena amayi adayimbidwa mlandu wachiwawa, kusayanjanitsika, kusatetezeka.
Zikatero, ife mosazindikira timayesa kubwereza izo, mwachiyembekezo chachinsinsi chokonzekera chirichonse. Heroine akufunafuna chibwenzi chomwe, malinga ndi iye, sichisoni kufa. Kufufuza kumeneku kungabise maloto a imfa yophiphiritsira ya umunthu wakale wa munthu ndi kubadwanso mu udindo watsopano.
Kudzimvetsetsa bwino tokha ndi zizolowezi zathu zosazindikira kungatiteteze ku kudziwononga tokha.
Chikondi chachikulu, chisangalalo chaubwenzi, kudziwonetsera nokha kungakhazikitsidwe mosadziwa ndi munthu pamaziko a chidziwitso chatsopano, kuti azindikire zomwe maubwenzi atsopano amafunikiranso.
Tikufuna kukhala osiyana, ndipo mpheroyo imachotsedwa ndi mphero. Sitidzalekanitsa ndi akale «Ine» ngati sitidzagwa mu mkuntho wa kudziwika vuto. Chifukwa chake, chikondi chatsopano, choyitanidwa kuti chisinthe m'miyoyo yathu, chikhoza kukhala chopenga komanso chowononga.
Kudzimvetsetsa bwino kokha kwa ife eni ndi zizolowezi zathu zosazindikira zomwe zingatiteteze ku kudziwononga tokha.