Ogasiti. Usiku. Panel nyumba nyumba. Mtsikanayo amaima pakhonde pansi pa denga ndikusuta. Ndili pansi, pakhomo, ndikuyang'ana mmwamba ndikumwetulira. Pazifukwa zina ndili ndi tochi mthumba mwanga. Ndimayatsa, ndikulemba ndi zilembo zopepuka mumlengalenga wakuda: "Ndimakukondani." Chibwenzi ndi luso lolankhulana, kutha kumasulira ndikuwerenga zikwangwani, zomwe masiku ano zimaphatikiziranso kuzindikira kamvekedwe ka mawu, zilembo za SMS ndi kuyimitsa kwa macheza. Zosintha zotani kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi?
Anzanga ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kulankhulana kukuyenda pa intaneti.
“Ankakonda kufunafuna misonkhano yeniyeni, kudula foni yake yapanyumba, kukumana ndi amayi ake! Kukwiya kosalekeza kumayamba chifukwa cha zomwe zimachitika "kuseri kwa chitsamba" m'malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ... "- akutero Yulia, wazaka 26.
Mtsikana wina wazaka 35 dzina lake Dmitry anati: "Kuphatikiza apo, pali madera ambiri okonda (zogonana)."
Mwina chifukwa cha kumasuka kwa kukhudzana ndi chinyengo cha kusankha, maubwenzi amapita mofulumira: amapita mofulumira kugonana ndikutha mwamsanga.
Mtsikana wina wazaka 34, dzina lake Nastya, anati: “Kale zinkayenda pang’onopang’ono komanso zachikondi, tsopano zangokhala ngati kumsika: tinakumana, kuzikonda ndipo nthawi yomweyo tinaimbira foni kunyumba. Poyamba, adapereka maluwa, tsopano akuyesera kuti asapereke chilichonse, chifukwa pali atsikana ambiri omwe amavomereza nthawi imodzi.
Malinga ndi zimene Natalya wazaka 42 ananena, “kukhala pachibwenzi kwa miyezi XNUMX tisanagone masiku ano n’kwachabechabe, ndipo n’kosangalatsa kwambiri.”
Pachilichonse chokhudzana ndi chibwenzi, timawona zotsatira zake, osati ndondomeko. Mtsikana wina wazaka 29, dzina lake Olga, ananena kuti: “Amuna amafulumira kusonyeza kuti akufuna chibwenzi ndipo amachita zinthu moyenerera. "M'mbuyomu, amatha kupita kukhoti kwa zaka zambiri popanda kutsimikizika ndikumakambirana mozama."
Kwa ena, kutumiza chithunzi chapamtima kuli ngati kupereka bokosi la chokoleti, mphatso yosaoneka bwino, chizindikiro cha chidwi.
Mutu wosiyana ndi mapulogalamu azibwenzi. Kumeneko, kulankhulana ndi misonkhano zimayikidwa pamtsinje. "Mumamva ngati chinthu chomwe mumasankha ndikusankha nokha, - akutero Svetlana wazaka 32. "Pafupifupi palibe malo ochitira chibwenzi."
Mafoni am'manja alowa pansi pa thalauza ndi masiketi, kutumiza zithunzi zapamtima kumakhala chizolowezi. Mtsikana wina wazaka 28, dzina lake Tanya, anati: “Nthabwala ndi nthabwala, koma foni yanga ya m’manja ikuoneka kuti ikusunga madera onse a dziko. Kwa ena, kutumiza chithunzithunzi chapafupi kuli ngati kupereka bokosi la chokoleti, mphatso yosaoneka bwino, chizindikiro cha chidwi.”
Maudindo a jenda akusintha, amayi akutsogolera. Mtsikana wina wazaka 32 dzina lake Svetlana anati: Kwa Maria wazaka 26, zonse zimadalira mphamvu ya kukopa: "Ndimasankha, osati ine. Kusankha, ndinyengerera, ngati chinthucho sichinyengedwa, ndimasintha kwa ena.
“Panthaŵi ya chibwenzi, onse satsimikiziranabe za wina ndi mnzake, koma aliyense akuyesera kugonjetsa mnzake,” analemba motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Erich Fromm. - Onse ali odzaza ndi moyo, okongola, okondweretsa, ngakhale okongola - chisangalalo cha moyo nthawi zonse chimapangitsa nkhope kukhala yokongola. Onse awiri sanakwatire; chotero, mphamvu ya aliyense wa iwo cholinga cha kukhala, ndiko kuti, kupereka kwa wina ndi kumulimbikitsa iye.1.
Chibwenzi chimatha mwa kukhala ndi wina ndi mnzake kapena kupitiriza chikondi. Tochi tsopano ili mu foni iliyonse yam'manja. Momasuka kwambiri.
1 E. Fromm «Kukhala kapena kukhala» (Neoclassic, 2015).