Serendipity: momwe mungakokere mwayi?

Ena amakhulupirira mwayi ndikutsatira dongosolo lovuta la malamulo ndi miyambo kuti akope ndi kulisunga. Wina, m'malo mwake, amakhulupirira kokha zotsatira za khama lachidziwitso, ndipo amawona mwayi kukhala zikhulupiriro. Koma palinso njira yachitatu. Otsatira ake amakhulupirira kuti mwayi kulibe ngati mphamvu yodziimira, yosiyana ndi ife. Mfundo ili mwa ife tokha: tikamaganizira mwadala za chinthu, chilichonse chomwe chimagwirizana ndi malingaliro athu, chimagwera m'munda wathu wamasomphenya. Lingaliro la serendipity limachokera pa izi.

Mawuwo adapangidwa m'zaka za zana la XNUMX ndi Horace Walpool. "Anagwiritsa ntchito kufotokoza luso lazotulukira lomwe limadzidyetsa lokha," akufotokoza motero Sylvie Satellan, wasayansi ya chikhalidwe ndi wolemba Serendipity - From Fairy Tale to Concept. “Dzinalo limachokera m’nthano yakuti “Akalonga Atatu a Serendip,” mmene abale atatu anatha kufotokoza molondola zizindikiro za ngamila yosochera chifukwa cha luntha lawo.

Momwe mungadziwire wamwayi

Tonse takhala ndi mikhalidwe m'moyo wathu pomwe mwayi unatiyang'ana. Koma kodi tinganene kuti mwayi umakomera ena a ife kuposa ena? Eric Tieri, wolemba buku la The Little Book of Luck anati: “Kafukufuku wina wa pa yunivesite ya Hertfordshire ku UK anasonyeza makhalidwe amene anthu “amwayi amakhala nawo” oterowo.

Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa anthuwa kukhala osiyana:

• Amakonda kuvomereza zomwe zimachitika kwa iwo monga kuphunzira ndikuwona anthu ndi zochitika ngati mwayi wachitukuko.

• Amamvetsera mwachidziwitso chawo ndikuchita mosazengereza.

• Iwo ali ndi chiyembekezo ndipo samasiya zomwe ayamba, ngakhale mwayi wopambana uli wochepa.

• Atha kukhala osinthika ndi kuphunzira pa zolakwa zawo.

5 Makiyi a Kusakondana

Nenani cholinga chanu

Kuti mukhazikitse radar yamkati, muyenera kudziikira cholinga chomveka bwino kapena kuyang'ana pa chikhumbo china: pezani njira yanu, kukumana ndi munthu "wanu", pezani ntchito yatsopano ... chidziwitso choyenera, tiyamba kuzindikira kuti anthu oyenera ndi zosankha zili pafupi. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, musadzitsekere pa chilichonse "chopanda ntchito": nthawi zina malingaliro abwino amabwera "kuchokera pakhomo lakumbuyo."

Khalani otseguka ku zachilendo

Kuti muwone mipata yabwino, muyenera kusunga malingaliro anu. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kudzikankhira nokha kuchoka pazikhalidwe ndi malingaliro, kukayikira zikhulupiriro zomwe zimatilepheretsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukukumana ndi vuto, musaope kubwerera mmbuyo, yang'anani kumbali ina, kuti muwonjezere gawo la zotheka. Nthawi zina, kuti mutulukemo, muyenera kuyika zinthuzo mwanjira ina ndikuzindikira malire a mphamvu zanu.

Khulupirirani mwanzeru

Timayesa kuletsa intuition m'dzina lochita zinthu mwanzeru. Izi zimatsogolera ku mfundo yakuti timaphonya zambiri zofunika ndipo sitiwona mauthenga obisika. Kubwezeretsa kukhudzana ndi chidziwitso kumatanthauza kuvomereza zamatsenga zomwe zimatizungulira, kuwona zodabwitsa mkati mwazodziwika. Yesetsani kusinkhasinkha momveka bwino - kumakuthandizani kuti mumvetse zomwe mukumva komanso kukulitsa malingaliro anu.

Musagwere mu fatalism

Pali mwambi wina wakale wa ku Japan woti n’kopanda pake kuponya muvi popanda chandamale, komanso si nzeru kugwiritsa ntchito mivi yonse pa chandamale chimodzi. Ngati tilephera, timadzitsekera mwayi umodzi wokha. Koma ngati sitisunga nyonga yathu ndi kusayang’ana uku ndi uku nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi, kulephera kungatifooketse ndi kutilepheretsa kufuna.

Osachita manyazi ndi mwayi

Ngakhale sitingathe kuneneratu nthawi yomwe mwayi wathu ubwera, titha kupanga mikhalidwe yoti uwonekere. Dzilekeni nokha, vomerezani zomwe zikukuchitikirani, khalani mu mphindi ino, kuyembekezera chozizwitsa. M'malo motsutsa, kudzikakamiza kapena kuyang'ana chinachake, yang'anani dziko ndi maso otseguka ndikumverera.