"Kupsinjika maganizo, chisoni, kusokonezeka - chifukwa chopita kwa psychotherapist"

Tiyeni tiyambe kuyambira pachiyambi. Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndikufuna thandizo la psychotherapist?

Anna Varga, Systemic Family Therapist: Chizindikiro choyamba chakuti chithandizo cha psychotherapist chikufunika ndi kuvutika maganizo, chisoni, kumverera kwachisokonezo pamene munthu azindikira kuti achibale ake ndi mabwenzi samupatsa malangizo oyenera.

Kapena akukhulupirira kuti sangakambirane nawo zakukhosi kwake - ndiye kuti ayese kupeza psychotherapist ndikulankhula naye za zomwe adakumana nazo.

Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti katswiri yemwe angagwire naye ntchito adzawononga malo awo. Kodi mungafotokoze bwanji kuti ichi ndi chithandizo, osati kungokambirana zowawa za mavuto?

Kapena chidwi chododometsa cha asing'anga… Mukuwona, mbali imodzi, malingaliro awa amathandizira sing'angayo: akuwonetsa kuti sing'angayo ndi mtundu wina wa chinthu champhamvu chomwe chingalowe m'mutu mwa munthu. Ndi zabwino, ndithudi, koma si.

Komano, palibe wapadera zili wanu chikumbumtima - amene ali «pa maalumali» pamutu panu, kuseri kwa chitseko chatsekedwa, ndi amene wochiritsa amakhoza kuwona. Izi sizingawoneke kuchokera kunja kapena, mwa njira, kuchokera mkati.

Zomwe zili m'maganizo zimapangidwira, zimapangidwira komanso zimamveka bwino kwa ife (zonse zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo) panthawi yokambirana. Umu ndi momwe ife tirili.

Ndiye kuti, sitikudziwa tokha, chifukwa chake palibe psychotherapist yemwe angalowe ...

…Inde, kuloŵa mu zimene ife tokha sitikuzidziwa. Zisoni zathu zimamveka bwino kwa ife (ndipo motero tikhoza kugwira nawo ntchito ndikusunthira kwinakwake) pokambirana, pamene tikupanga, kulandira yankho, ndikuganizira momwe zinthu zilili pamodzi kuchokera kumbali zosiyanasiyana.

Chisoni nthawi zambiri sichipezeka m'mawu, osati m'mawu, koma mumtundu wa mdima wamalingaliro asanayambe, malingaliro oyambirira. Ndiko kuti, kumlingo wina, zikupitirizabe kukhala chinsinsi.

Pali mantha ena: bwanji ngati psychotherapist anditsutsa - akunena kuti sindikudziwa momwe ndingachitire ndekha kapena kupanga zisankho?

Wothandizira nthawi zonse amakhala kumbali ya kasitomala. Amagwira ntchito kwa kasitomala, kuti amuthandize. Katswiri wodziwa bwino zamaganizo (osati munthu amene adatenga kwinakwake, akudzitcha yekha psychotherapist ndipo anapita kukagwira ntchito) amadziwa bwino kuti kutsutsidwa sikumathandiza aliyense, palibe chithandizo chamankhwala mmenemo.

Ngati munachita chinthu chomwe mumanong'oneza nazo bondo, zikutanthauza kuti mudapulumuka nthawi imeneyo kwambiri, ndipo palibe amene ali ndi ufulu wakuweruzani.

"Wophunzitsidwa bwino": mumayika chiyani? Maphunziro ndi ophunzirira komanso othandiza. Mukuganiza kuti chofunika kwambiri kwa sing'anga ndi chiyani?

Lingaliro langa pano lilibe kanthu konse: katswiri wodziwa bwino zamaganizo ndi katswiri yemwe amakwaniritsa zofunikira zina.

Sitifunsa kuti masamu ophunzitsidwa bwino ndi chiyani! Timamvetsetsa kuti ayenera kukhala ndi maphunziro apamwamba mu masamu, ndipo aliyense amafunsa akatswiri a maganizo ndi akatswiri a maganizo funso ili.

Nthawi zambiri timafunsanso funso lokhudza madokotala: akhoza kukhala ndi digiri ya udokotala, koma sitipita kwa iye kuti akalandire chithandizo.

Inde ndi zoona. Kodi maphunziro omwe amavomerezedwa ambiri a katswiri wa zamaganizo, psychotherapist amawoneka bwanji? Izi ndizofunika zamaganizo, maphunziro azachipatala kapena dipuloma ya wothandizira anthu.

Maphunziro oyambira amalingalira kuti wophunzirayo walandira chidziwitso choyambirira cha psychology ya anthu onse: za ntchito zapamwamba zamaganizidwe, kukumbukira, chidwi, kuganiza, magulu amagulu.

Kenako maphunziro apadera amayamba, mkati mwa dongosolo lomwe amaphunzitsa kwenikweni ntchito yothandizira: momwe zosokoneza zaumunthu zimakonzedwera ndi njira ndi njira zotani zomwe zosokonezazi zitha kusamutsidwira kudziko logwira ntchito.

Pali nthawi m'moyo wa munthu kapena banja akakhala pathologies, ndipo nthawi zina amagwira ntchito bwino. Chifukwa chake, lingaliro la pathology ndi chizolowezi sichigwira ntchito.

Awa ndi chithandizo chaumwini chomwe ayenera kukumana nacho. Popanda izo, sangathe kugwira ntchito bwino. Nchifukwa chiyani katswiri amafunikira chithandizo chaumwini? Kuti iye, choyamba, amvetse zomwe kasitomala ali, ndipo kachiwiri, kulandira chithandizo, kuvomereza, zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri.

Ophunzira ambiri azama psychology amakhulupirira kuti, atayamba kuchita izi, athandiza mwamphamvu ndikupulumutsa aliyense. Koma ngati munthu sadziwa kutenga, kulandira, kupempha thandizo, sangathe kuthandiza aliyense. Kupereka ndi kutenga ndi mbali ziwiri za ndalama imodzi.

Kuphatikiza apo, ayenera kuthandizidwa yekha panthawi ya psychotherapy: "kwa dokotala, dzichiritseni nokha." Chotsani mavuto anu omwe aliyense ali nawo, mavuto omwe angasokoneze kuthandiza munthu wina.

Mwachitsanzo, kasitomala amabwera kwa inu, ndipo ali ndi mavuto ofanana ndi inu. Pozindikira izi, mumakhala opanda ntchito kwa kasitomala uyu, chifukwa mwamizidwa m'dziko la zowawa zanu.

Pogwira ntchito, psychotherapist amakumana ndi kuvutika kwatsopano, koma amadziwa kale momwe angathanirane nawo komanso komwe angapite, ali ndi woyang'anira, munthu yemwe angathandize.

Momwe mungasankhire psychotherapist wanu? Zoyenera kuchita ndi zotani? Chikondi chaumwini? Chizindikiro cha jenda? Kapena kodi ndizomveka kuyandikira kuchokera kumbali ya njira: kukhalapo, dongosolo la banja kapena chithandizo cha gestalt? Kodi wofuna chithandizo ali ndi mwayi wowunika mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chithandizo ngati si katswiri?

Ndikuganiza kuti zonse zimagwira ntchito. Ngati mukudziwa china chake chokhudza malingaliro amalingaliro ndipo zikuwoneka zomveka kwa inu, yang'anani katswiri yemwe amachichita. Ngati munakumana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ndipo panalibe chidaliro, kumverera kuti amakumvetsani, yang'anani munthu amene kumverera koteroko kudzauka.

Ndipo sing'anga wamwamuna kapena wamkazi… Inde, pali zopempha zotere, makamaka m'mabanja, pankhani yakugonana. Mwamuna akhoza kunena kuti: "Sindidzapita kwa mkazi, iye sangandimvetse."

Tiyerekeze kuti ndalowa kale chithandizo chamankhwala, chakhala chikuchitika kwakanthawi. Kodi ndingamvetse bwanji ngati ndikupita patsogolo kapena, m'malo mwake, ndafika kumapeto? Kapena kuti nthawi yakwana yothetsa chithandizo? Kodi pali malangizo aliwonse amkati?

Izi ndizovuta kwambiri. Zoyenera kuthetsa psychotherapy ziyenera kukambidwa mwatsatanetsatane. Mgwirizano wa psychotherapeutic umatha: katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi kasitomala amavomereza zomwe zingakhale zotsatira zabwino za ntchito yogwirizana kwa iwo. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti lingaliro la zotsatira silingasinthe.

Mwachitsanzo, banja limabwera ndi wachinyamata, ndipo wachinyamatayo amamvetsa kuti wochiritsayo wamupangira njira yosavuta komanso yotetezeka yolankhulana naye. Ndipo amayamba kunena zinthu zosasangalatsa kwa makolo ake, zowakwiyitsa komanso zovuta. Amayamba kukwiya, amakhulupirira kuti wochiritsayo adaputa mwanayo. Izi ndizabwinobwino, chofunikira kwambiri ndikuwuza dokotala za izi.

Mwachitsanzo, ndinali ndi banja. Mkaziyo amakhala chete, wogonjera. Pa chithandizo, adayamba "kudzuka m'mawondo ake." Munthuyo anandikwiyira kwambiri kuti: “Ichi nchiyani? Ndi chifukwa cha inu kuti anayamba kundiikira zinthu! Koma pamapeto pake, chikondi chimene anali nacho kwa wina ndi mnzake chinayamba kukula, kukula, kusakhutira kunathetsedwa mwamsanga.

Psychotherapy nthawi zambiri imakhala yosasangalatsa. Ndizofunika kwambiri kuti pambuyo pa gawoli munthuyo achoke ali ndi maganizo abwino kuposa momwe adalowa, koma izi sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Ngati pali chidaliro mu psychotherapist, ndiye kuti ntchito ya kasitomala si kubisa kusakhutira kwake ndi iye, zokhumudwitsa, mkwiyo.

The psychotherapist, kumbali yake, ayenera kuwona zizindikiro za kusakhutira kobisika. Mwachitsanzo, ankabwera pa nthawi yake, ndipo tsopano anayamba kuchedwa.

Wodwalayo ayenera kufunsa wofuna chithandizoyo kuti: “Kodi ine ndikulakwa chiyani? Ndikukhulupirira kuti popeza mwachedwa, ndiye, kuwonjezera pa kufuna kubwera kuno, mulinso ndi mphwayi. Ndizodziwikiratu kuti pali china chake chomwe chikuchitika pakati pathu chomwe sichikukwanirani bwino. Tiuzeni.»

Wothandizira wodalirika samabisala ngati chinachake sichimuyendera bwino panthawi ya psychotherapy, ndipo amauza wodwalayo za izo.

Mutu wina wofunikira ndi machitidwe mu ubale pakati pa ochiritsa ndi kasitomala. Kwa iwo omwe akupita ku msonkhano, ndikofunikira kulingalira mkati mwa malire omwe angagwirizane. Kodi ufulu wa kasitomala ndi udindo wa psychotherapist ndi chiyani?

Ethics ndizovuta kwambiri. The psychotherapist ali ndi chidziwitso chokhudza kasitomala, iye ndi wovomerezeka, wofunika kwambiri kwa kasitomala, ndipo sangathe kugwiritsa ntchito izi molakwika. Ndikofunikira kuteteza wofuna chithandizo ku nkhanza zodzifunira kapena mwadala ndi psychotherapist.

Choyamba ndi chinsinsi. Wothandizira amalemekeza zachinsinsi zanu, kupatula zikafika pa moyo ndi imfa. Chachiwiri - ndipo izi ndizofunikira kwambiri - palibe kuyanjana kunja kwa makoma a ofesi.

Iyi ndi mfundo yofunikira komanso yozindikira pang'ono. Timakonda kukhala abwenzi ndi aliyense, kulankhulana mwamwayi ...

Makasitomala amakonda kutiphatikiza pa maubwenzi: kuphatikiza pakukhala wondithandizira, ndinunso bwenzi langa. Ndipo izi zimachitidwa kuti chitetezo chikhale bwino. Koma mwamsanga kulankhulana kunja kwa ofesi kumayamba, psychotherapy imatha.

Ndipo mafunde amphamvu kwambiri achikondi, ubwenzi, kugonana amatsuka nthawi yomweyo. Choncho, simungathe kuyang'ana nyumba za wina ndi mzake, kupita kumakonsati ndi zisudzo pamodzi.

Nkhani ina yomwe ili yofunika kwambiri m'dera lathu. Tiyerekeze kuti ndamvetsa kuti mnzanga, mchimwene wanga, mwana wanga wamkazi, abambo, amayi akufunika thandizo. Ndikuwona kuti akumva chisoni, ndikufuna kuthandiza, ndikuwakakamiza kupita kwa psychotherapist, koma samapita. Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati ndimakhulupirira ndi mtima wonse chithandizo chamankhwala, koma wokondedwa wanga samakhulupirira?

Gwirizanani ndi kudikira. Ngati sakhulupirira, ndiye kuti sali wokonzeka kulandira thandizoli. Pali lamulo lotere: yemwe akufunafuna psychotherapist, akufunika thandizo. Tiyerekeze kuti mayi amene amaganiza kuti ana ake amafunikira chithandizo ndiye kuti ndi wofuna chithandizo.

Kodi mukuganiza kuti psychotherapy sichidziwika bwino mdera lathu? Iyenera kukwezedwa? Kapena kodi ndi zokwanira kuti pali psychotherapists, ndipo aliyense amene amawafuna iwo adzapeza njira yake kwa iwo?

Vuto ndiloti palibe chifukwa cholankhula za anthu omwe ali ofanana. Magulu ena amadziwa za psychotherapist ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito ntchito zawo. Koma palinso anthu ambiri omwe amavutika m'maganizo komanso omwe psychotherapist angathandize, koma sadziwa chilichonse chokhudza chithandizo. Yankho langa ndiloti, ndikofunikira kuphunzitsa, kufalitsa ndikuwuza.

Zoyankhulanazo zidajambulidwa kuti zigwirizane ndi magazini ya Psychologies ndi wailesi ya "Culture" "Status: in a relationship" mu Januware 2017.