Munthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic amakhala ndi zofanana kwambiri ndi munthu amene amangodzidalira. Komabe, palinso kusiyana kwakukulu. Tiyeni tiyese kupeza chomwe iwo ali.
M'lingaliro lina, aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe a narcissistic. Mavuto amadza akayamba kukhala patsogolo kuposa mikhalidwe ina.
Kudzidalira ndi kudzilemekeza kumathandiza kuthana ndi zovuta komanso kusataya kukhalapo kwa malingaliro. Pokhala nawo, timayesa luso lathu, koma nthawi yomweyo timakhulupirira ena ndikuwafunira zabwino. Ndipo kudzidalira kwathu sikumavutika ndi izi. Koma kodi tinganene kuti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic ali ndi ulemu waukulu? Nanga pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa narcissism ndi kudzidalira koyenera?
Nawa magawo atatu akulu omwe muyenera kuphunzira kuti mumvetsetse kusiyana kwake.
1. Maganizo pa inu nokha
Narcissism imayamba ali mwana, pamene mwana salandira chikondi chopanda malire ndi kulandiridwa kwa akuluakulu, kapena amakhala "fano" m'banja lake. Kukula, muzochitika zonsezi amafunikira "kudyetsa": nthawi zonse akuyesera kuti athetse kusowa kwa chikondi ndi kupembedza, samamva kukhutira popanda "kukwapulidwa" kwa ena. Amadziona kuti ndi wotsika, amavutika ndi nkhawa komanso kupsa mtima. Narcissists amakonda kukhumudwa ndipo amakhala pachiwopsezo.
Ndipo kwa munthu amene amangodzidalira yekha, kudzidalira sikuchokera pa kutamandidwa kwa anthu ena, koma pamalingaliro enieni a chidziwitso ndi luso lake. Amakhulupirira kuti ngati ayesa, akwaniritsa zonse. Amalongosola zolephera chifukwa chosowa chidziwitso, amayesa kumvetsetsa chifukwa cha cholakwikacho ndikuchichotsa, popanda kugwa kuchokera kuyang'anira pang'ono.
2. Ubale ndi ena
The narcissist pafupifupi nthawi zonse mu ubale wodalira. Kaŵirikaŵiri amagwiritsira ntchito zofooka za ena kuwagonjetsera ndi kuwakakamiza kuseŵera motsatira malamulo ake. Mwachitsanzo, mtsogoleri yemwe ali ndi vuto la narcissistic personality adzafuna omwe ali pansi pake kuti atsatire malamulo omwe adawapanga, omwenso amasintha nthawi zonse.
Iye amadzitamandira ndipo amafuna kuti enanso aimbe zomutamanda. Sadziwikiratu, ndizosatheka kumvetsetsa zomwe zingamukhazike mtima pansi, zomwe angakonde. M’banja, munthu wa narcissist nthawi zonse amaswa mapangano, mwachitsanzo, akhoza kunyenga, akuimba mlandu mnzake chifukwa cha zolakwa zake.
Munthu wodzidalira kwambiri nthawi zambiri amanena za anthu omwe ali pa udindo: "Ndine wabwino, ndiwe wabwino" osati "Ndine wabwino, ndiwe woipa." Amakhulupirira kuti ngati apambana, ndiye kuti aliyense akhoza kutenga malo ake pansi pano, ngati ayesetsa. Anthu oterowo amapanga atsogoleri abwino kwambiri omwe amakulitsa omvera awo, ndipo samawapondereza kapena kuwaopseza. M'moyo wabanja, anthu odzidalira safuna kuvomereza kosalekeza ndi zodzigudubuza, chikondi chawo chimakhala chofunda, nthawi zonse amasunga mawu awo.
3.Zinthu zantchito
Onse narcissist komanso munthu wodzidalira kwambiri amatha kuchita bwino pantchitoyo. Zowona, njira zokwera makwerero a ntchito zidzakhala zosiyana.
Ngati "mphamvu ndi kulanga" yoyamba, ndiye yachiwiri imalimbikitsa, imalimbikitsa ndikupereka mayankho okwanira. Oyang'anira sakhala omasuka ndi mtsogoleri wamatsenga, ndipo narcissist mwiniwake samasuka mu ubale ndi iyemwini. Ndi bwino akamvetsa zimenezi n’kupempha thandizo. Koma izi sizichitika kawirikawiri. Narcissistic personality disorder ndizovuta kubwezera.
Wantchito wokhala ndi ulemu wokwanira, mosiyana ndi narcissist, amatha kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino ndi ena, ndizosavuta komanso zosavuta kugwira naye ntchito. Iye samadziumiriza kuti awononge obwera kumene ndipo sachita chiwembu achikulire. Amadziŵa kufunika kwake, koma sapeputsa zimene ena achita.
* Mtambo Wamdima Wamdima: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, ndi psychopathy