M’kati mwa ambiri a ife, mawu ameneŵa nthaŵi zina amamveka kuti: “N’chifukwa chiyani ena ali ndi chinachake chimene ine ndilibe?”, “N’chiyani chimandipangitsa kuipiraipira?”, “Inde, palibe chapadera mwa iwo!”. Timakwiya, koma kawirikawiri timaganizira tanthauzo la kaduka. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Alexander Shakhov akutsimikiza kuti n'zosatheka kuchotsa kumverera uku, koma kungakhale kothandiza kwa ife.
Ngati tifufuza pa intaneti kuti tipeze tanthauzo la kaduka, tipeza nthawi yomweyo mawu ochokera kwa oganiza bwino. Izi ndi "kukwiyitsidwa ndi zabwino kapena zabwino za wina," malinga ndi Vladimir Dahl, mlembi wa dikishonale yotchuka kwambiri ya chilankhulo cha Chirasha. Ichi ndi "kuipidwa ndikuwona chisangalalo cha wina ndi chisangalalo m'tsoka lake," malinga ndi mawu a wafilosofi Spinoza. Izi ndi zomwe "zimayambitsa mikangano pakati pa anthu," malinga ndi Democritus, wanthanthi wakale kwambiri.
Njira ziwiri za kupambana kwa wina
Munthu aliyense ali ndi chikhumbo chachibadwa chodziyerekezera ndi ena. Ziribe kanthu momwe timauzidwa kuti ndizoipa, zopanda ntchito, ndi zina zotero, sizingatheke kuchotsa chikhumbo ichi. Koma chofunika kwambiri apa ndi momwe mumachitira ndi zotsatira za kufananitsa koteroko.
Mwachitsanzo, wina wachita bwino kwambiri kuposa inu kuntchito, kusukulu, pamoyo wanu, kapena kupanga chithunzi chokongola, ndipo mutha kusirira. Ganizirani: "Izi ndizabwino! Ngati munthu uyu adachita, ndiye kuti ndikhoza kuchita zomwezo. " Ndipo pezani chiwongolero champhamvu cholimbikitsira panjira yopita ku zomwe mukufuna.
Kaduka imayambitsa kudzimva wopanda thandizo ndipo imatsagana ndi zovuta zamitundu yoyipa.
Njira ina ndikugwera mu phompho la kaduka, kugwedezeka mkati mwake mozama ndi mozama mpaka itayamba kuwononga psyche ndi moyo wanu.
Aliyense amene amadzifananiza ndi ena nthawi zonse amafunsa funso: "N'chifukwa chiyani ali nazo ndipo ine ndilibe?" Ndipo, pa nkhani ya kaduka, amadzipatsa yekha yankho: "Chifukwa ine ndikuipiraipira." Ndipo ngati munthu akukhulupirira kuti ndi woipitsitsa, amayamba kukhulupirira kuti sadzakwaniritsa zomwe akufuna. Choncho, mfundo yaikulu ya kaduka ndi yakuti: “Ena ali nayo, koma ine sindidzakhala nayo. Ndikanakonda akadakhala nazo! ”
Imvani kusiyana ndi chitsanzo choyambirira cha kufananitsa kwabwino, komwe mawu ake ndi: "Ena ali nawo, ndipo ndidzakhala nawo."
Udani ndi kudziwononga
Kaduka imayambitsa kudzimva wopanda thandizo ndipo imatsagana ndi zovuta zamitundu yosiyanasiyana. Munthu amavutika chifukwa ena ali ndi chinachake chimene amachifuna, koma sichipezeka kwa iye (monga momwe iye amaganizira).
Mphamvu zamaganizidwezi ziyenera kutayidwa mwanjira ina, kulunjika ku chinachake. Choncho, nthawi zambiri munthu wansanje amayamba kudana ndi chinthu chimene amamuchitira m’malo mochitapo kanthu kuti asinthe moyo wake.
Komabe, chidani chosonyezedwa poyera chingasonyeze kuti munthu ndi wansanje. Anthu amene anali pafupi naye ankamuona ngati wamng’ono, wosadzidalira, ankamvetsa kuti ali ndi khalidwe loipa, ankamuseka. Chifukwa chake, anthu ambiri ansanje amayesa kubisa, kubisa malingaliro awo enieni.
Kodi dongosolo lonse la kaduka pa psyche yathu ndi chiyani?
- Zimayambitsa chitukuko cha maganizo obsessive.
- Malingaliro olowerera amabweretsa malingaliro oyipa.
- Munthu wansanje, wosweka ndi malingaliro opambanitsa ndi malingaliro oyipa, amakhala ndi zilonda (pali ngakhale mawu pakati pa anthu "asanduka obiriwira ndi nsanje"). Amatsutsana ndi ena, amakhalabe yekha komanso amakhala payekha.
- Kukhala nthawi yayitali m'derali kumabweretsa matenda a neuroses ndi psychosomatic, omwe nthawi zambiri amalumikizidwa ndi ndulu, chiwindi, matumbo, ndi kapamba.
Ndi za kudzidalira
Chofunika kwambiri apa ndi chifukwa cha kaduka. Zimachokera ku kudzikayikira. Munthu wansanje samachita chilichonse kuti akwaniritse zomwe amachitira nsanje: amawopa kuchita. Amaopa kuti sangapambane, ena adzazindikira izi ndikuyamba kumuchitira zoipa.
Iyi ndiye njira yayikulu yothanirana ndi kaduka. Ndikofunikira kulimbana osati nazo monga choncho - zidzakhala zothandiza kwambiri kuonjezera kudzidalira. Ndiyeno kaduka kadzacheperachepera kukuchezerani.
Mutha kusilira ena pokhapokha pozindikira kufunika kwanu, kusasiyana ndi zomwe munayambira.
Kupatula apo, ngati mumadzikhulupirira nokha, kufunikira kwanu, ndiye, poyang'ana zomwe anthu ena akwaniritsa, mutha kuwona mwayi wakukula kwanu. Ndipo njira yabwino yothetsera kuipa kwa kaduka ndiyo kusilira anthu ena moona mtima.
Komabe, ngakhale pano funso limakhala pa kudzidalira: mukhoza kusilira ena moona mtima pozindikira mtengo wanu, wapadera komanso wapadera.
Choncho, nsanje ikhoza kuwonedwa ngati chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti muyenera kuyesetsa kudzidalira. Ndiyeno "Ndikufuna, koma sindidzachipeza" chomwe chinakuvutitsani chidzasanduka "Ndikufuna ndipo ndikwaniritsadi."