Kodi mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zinthu zomwe ena angakuchitireni? Katswiri wa zamaganizo Margaret Paul akufotokoza zomwe muyenera kuchita mutayang'anizana ndi mphamvu za munthu wina kapena zanu.
Kodi ndingapeŵe bwanji zinthu zoipa zimene anthu ena amandiponyera? kasitomala wina anandifunsa. Mwatsoka ayi. Koma mungaphunzire kulamulira mafunde owononga ameneŵa popanda kukupwetekani kwambiri.
Tonsefe timasintha maganizo. Nthawi ndi nthawi timadutsa ndi anthu omwe sali bwino pakali pano. Wina amakwiya ndi mkangano wam'mawa ndi mkazi wake, winayo amakhumudwa ndi abwana, wachitatu amachita mantha chifukwa cha matenda omwe adokotala amapeza. Mphamvu zoyipa zomwe zikusefukira sizikugwira ntchito kwa ife, koma zimalunjika kwa ife. Momwemonso, monga momwe tingathere mwadala nkhawa zathu kapena mkwiyo wathu pa wina.
Tsoka ilo, iyi ndi njira yodziwika bwino yothanirana ndi vuto pamene ego yathu yavulazidwa. "Kuphulika" uku kungachitike nthawi iliyonse. Ngati mulibe nthawi yoti mumvetsetse zomwe zikuchitika, ngakhale mawu owopsa m'sitolo angakukhumudwitseni. Kapena kunyezimira komwe munthu amene mwamuwona koyamba kudzakuponyani.
Munthu akhoza kungoganizira za zifukwa zake: mwinamwake munthu uyu akukumana ndi nsanje yaikulu, kunyozedwa, kapena mumamukumbutsa za munthu amene amamukwiyira. N’kutheka kuti inuyo munabowola ndi maso, osazindikira n’komwe.
Koma nthawi zambiri, mafunde a negativity amachokera kwa anthu omwe timawadziwa bwino: bwenzi, mwana, makolo, bwana, mnzake, kapena bwenzi lapamtima. Iwo akhoza anazindikira - pa nthawi imeneyi, kawirikawiri chinachake m`mimba mgwirizano kapena kulemera limapezeka pa mtima. Zomverera izi zidzakudziwitsani kuti pakhala kutulutsidwa kwa mphamvu zoyipa - zanu kapena za wina. Ndipo chovuta ndikuzindikira kuyenderera uku. Ndipo chifundo chidzathandiza kupirira aliyense wa iwo.
Chisoni chimanyamula mphamvu zambiri, zamphamvu kwambiri kuposa malingaliro aliwonse oyipa omwe mumataya kapena kulandira kuchokera kwa wina. Tangoganizani kuti mphamvu zoipa ndi chipinda chamdima. Ndipo chifundo ndi kuwala kowala. Mukayatsa kuwala, mdima umatha. Kuwala kuli kwamphamvu kwambiri kuposa mdima. Momwemonso ndi chifundo. Zili ngati chishango cha kuwala chimene chingakutetezeni ku mphamvu zilizonse zoipa.
Kodi kukwaniritsa izi? Choyamba, muyenera kutsogolera mphamvu iyi yachifundo kwa inu, mudzaze mimba yanu, plexus ya dzuwa kapena mtima ndi izo. Kenako mudzamva zonena zake. Mudzadziwa nthawi yomweyo yemwe kusagwirizanaku kukuchokera - kuchokera kwa inu kupita kwa ena kapena kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwa inu.
Ngati inuyo ndinu wozunzidwa, yesetsani kufalitsa mphamvu iyi yachifundo kunja, ndipo munda wotetezera udzapanga kuzungulira inu. Mphamvu zoipa zidzamugunda ngati chopinga, mpira wosawoneka, ndikubwerera. Muli mkati mwa mpira uwu, ndinu otetezeka.
Sizingatheke kupeza bata lathunthu, koma ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe izi kapena mphamvuzo zingakhudzire ife.
Pakapita nthawi, mutadziwa bwino njirayi, mudzatha kukopa dziko lino mofulumira kwambiri, kuyembekezera msonkhano ndi kutuluka kwa mphamvu zoipa. Mudzaphunzira kumva ndikuchita ngati munthu wamkulu wachikondi yemwe amalumikizana ndi Inu nokha ndikudzimvera chisoni nokha komanso omwe akuzungulirani.
Mutha kufika pomwe simumayika mphamvu zoyipa kwa ena kapena kumva mphamvu zowononga zamalingaliro a anthu ena. Mudzawona kukhalapo kwa mphamvuyi, koma sikudzakukhudzani, sikudzakupwetekani.
Sizingatheke kupeza bata lathunthu, koma ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe izi kapena mphamvuzo zingakhudzire ife. Ndikofunikira kukhala tcheru ku mphamvu zomwe timatulutsa kudziko lakunja, ndikudzisamalira mwachikondi ndi mwachifundo kuti kusasamala kwa wina kusatipweteke.
Mukhoza, ndithudi, kusankha njira ina yodzitetezera - osati kuthera nthawi yambiri ndi "poizoni" anthu - koma izi sizingathetse vutoli mozama, chifukwa ngakhale munthu wodekha komanso wamtendere amakhala ndi kukwiya komanso kukwiya. maganizo oipa nthawi ndi nthawi.
Pokhala osamala nthawi zonse, kuyankhulana ndi malingaliro anu, mudzatha kukhalabe okhazikika mukamakumana ndi anthu ena osasamala ndikuteteza ena kwa inu nokha.
Gwero: The Huffington Post.