Chaka Chatsopano: chifukwa chiyani mphatso zambiri?

Patchuthi cha Chaka Chatsopano, timagula mphatso ndipo nthawi zambiri ... tizipereka kwa ana athu. Chaka ndi chaka, mphatso zathu zikukhala zochititsa chidwi komanso zokwera mtengo, chiwerengero chawo chikukula. Kodi chimatitsogolera ndi chiyani ndipo chingabweretse chiyani?

Santa Claus wachifundo anabwera kwa ife lero. Ndipo anatibweretsera mphatso pa tchuthi cha Chaka Chatsopano. Nyimbo yakale imeneyi ikuimbidwabe pa mapwando a ana a Chaka Chatsopano. Komabe, ana amakono sayenera kulota kwa nthawi yaitali za nkhani zosamvetsetseka za thumba la Agogo a Chaka Chatsopano. Ife tokha mosadziwa timawachotsa pa izi: alibe nthawi yofuna, ndipo tikugula kale. Ndipo ana amaona mphatso zathu mopepuka. Nthawi zambiri sitifuna kuwatulutsa muchinyengo ichi. M'malo mwake, M'malo mwake: foni yam'manja, nkhondo yamasewera, malo osewerera, osatchulapo chigumukire cha maswiti ... Zonsezi zimagwera ana ngati cornucopia. Ndife okonzeka kudzimana zambiri kuti tikwaniritse zokhumba zawo.

Kumadzulo, makolo adayamba kuwononga ana awo mwachangu chazaka za m'ma 60, pomwe gulu la ogula lidapangidwa. Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, chikhalidwechi changowonjezereka. Iye amadziwonetsera yekha mu Russia. Kodi ana athu adzakhala osangalala ngati tisintha zipinda zawo kukhala masitolo a zidole? Akatswiri a zamaganizo a ana Natalia Dyatko ndi Annie Gatecel, akatswiri a maganizo a Svetlana Krivtsova, Yakov Obukhov ndi Stephane Clerget amayankha izi ndi mafunso ena.

N’chifukwa chiyani timapereka mphatso kwa ana pa nthawi ya tchuthi cha Chaka Chatsopano?

Anthu ogula zinthu, omwe takhala nawo kwa nthawi ndithu tsopano, alengeza kukhala ndi chinthu kukhala chofanana ndi zonse zabwino ndi zoyenera m'moyo. Vuto loti “kukhala kapena kukhala” masiku ano likukonzedwanso mosiyana: “kukhala nazo kuti ukhale.” Tili otsimikiza kuti chimwemwe cha ana chili chochuluka, ndipo makolo abwino ayenera kupereka. Chotsatira chake, kuthekera kolakwika, kusazindikira mokwanira zilakolako ndi zosowa za mwanayo kumawopsya makolo ambiri - monga chiyembekezo cha kusowa kwa banja, kuchititsa kusowa chiyembekezo, kumayambitsa kudziimba mlandu. Makolo ena, kusokoneza zilakolako zosakhalitsa za ana awo ndi zimene zili zofunika kwa iwo, amawopa kuwamana kanthu kena kofunika. Zikuoneka kwa iwo kuti mwanayo adzakhumudwa kwambiri ngati, mwachitsanzo, awona kuti mnzake wa kusukulu kapena bwenzi lapamtima lalandira mphatso zambiri kuposa iyeyo. Ndipo makolo amayesa, kugula zambiri ...

ZOSEWERA ZIMENE TIMAPATSA MWANA KAWIRIKAWIRI, SIZIIMAONETSA IYE, KOMA ZOKHUMBA ZATHU.

Kuchuluka kwa mphatso kungayambitsidwenso ndi chikhumbo chathu chofuna kusokoneza kulakwa kwathu: "Sindikhala ndi inu kawirikawiri, ndimakhala wotanganidwa (a) ndi ntchito (zatsiku ndi tsiku, luso, moyo waumwini), koma ndikupatsani zoseweretsa zonsezi. ndipo, chifukwa chake, ndimaganiza za inu!

Werengani zambiri:

  • Tchuthi nthawi yonse yachisanu!

Pomaliza, Chaka Chatsopano, Khrisimasi kwa tonsefe ndi mwayi wobwerera ku ubwana wathu. Tikalandira mphatso zochepa panthawiyo, m’pamenenso timafuna kuti mwana wathu asasowe. Nthawi yomweyo, zimachitika kuti mphatso zambiri sizimagwirizana ndi zaka za ana ndipo sizigwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda. Zoseweretsa zomwe timapereka kwa mwana nthawi zambiri zimasonyeza zokhumba zathu: njanji yamagetsi yomwe inalibe ubwana wathu, masewera apakompyuta omwe tinkafuna kusewera kwa nthawi yayitali ... mwana timathetsa mavuto athu akale aubwana. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, makolo amaseŵera ndi mphatso zamtengo wapatali, ndipo ana amasangalala ndi zinthu zokongola monga mapepala, bokosi kapena tepi.

Werengani zambiri:

  • Mphatso: zonse zapackage

Kodi kuopsa kwa mphatso zochuluka n'kotani?

Ana nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti: pamene timalandira mphatso zambiri, amatikonda kwambiri, makolo athu amawakonda kwambiri. M'malingaliro awo, malingaliro a "chikondi", "ndalama" ndi "mphatso" amasokonezeka. Nthaŵi zina amangosiya kutchera khutu kwa awo amene amayesa kuwachezera opanda kanthu kapena kubweretsa zinthu zosakwera mtengo mokwanira. N’zokayikitsa kuti sangamvetse kufunika kophiphiritsa kwa chizindikirocho, kufunika kwa cholinga chenicheni chopereka mphatso. Ana “amphatso” nthaŵi zonse amafunikira umboni watsopano wa chikondi. Ndipo ngati satero, mikangano imabuka.

Kodi mphatso zingaperekedwe chifukwa cha khalidwe labwino kapena kuphunzira?

Tilibe miyambo yambiri yowala, yosangalatsa. Kupereka mphatso kwa Chaka Chatsopano ndi chimodzi mwa izo. Ndipo zisapangidwe kudalira pazochitika zilizonse. Pali nthawi zabwino kwambiri zolipira kapena kulanga mwana. Ndipo pa tchuthi, ndi bwino kutenga mwayi wosonkhana pamodzi ndi banja lonse ndipo, pamodzi ndi mwanayo, kusangalala ndi mphatso zoperekedwa kapena kulandira.

Ana a makolo osudzulidwa kaŵirikaŵiri amalandira mphatso zambiri kuposa ena. Kodi sizikuwawononga?

Kumbali ina, makolo osudzulidwa amakhala ndi malingaliro amphamvu a liwongo kwa mwanayo ndikuyesera kusokoneza ndi thandizo la mphatso.

Kumbali ina, mwana woteroyo nthawi zambiri amakondwerera tchuthi kawiri: kamodzi ndi abambo, wina ndi amayi. Kholo lirilonse limawopa kuti mu "nyumba imeneyo" chikondwerero chidzakhala bwino. Pali chiyeso chogula mphatso zambiri - osati chifukwa cha ubwino wa mwanayo, koma chifukwa cha zofuna zawo. Zokhumba ziwiri - kupereka mphatso ndikupambana (kapena kutsimikizira) chikondi cha mwana wanu - kuphatikiza kukhala chimodzi. Makolo amapikisana pofuna kuyanjidwa ndi ana awo, ndipo ana amakhala akapolo a mkhalidwe umenewu. Atavomereza zikhalidwe zamasewerawa, amatembenukira mosavuta kukhala ankhanza osakhutitsidwa: "Kodi mukufuna kuti ndikukondeni? Ndiye ndipatseni chilichonse chimene ndikufuna!”

Kodi mungatsimikizire bwanji kuti mwanayo sadyetsedwa?

Ngati sitipereka mwayi kwa mwanayo kuti aphunzitse zokhumba zake, ndiye kuti, monga munthu wamkulu, sangafune kwenikweni chilichonse. Zoonadi, padzakhala zokhumba, koma ngati chopinga chikabuka m’njira yofikirako, iye mosakayika adzachisiya. Mwana adzatopa ngati timpatsa mphatso kapena kumulola kuganiza kuti tiyenera kumupatsa chilichonse nthawi yomweyo! Mpatseni nthawi: zosowa zake ziyenera kukula ndi kukhwima, ayenera kulakalaka chinachake ndikutha kuchifotokoza. Kotero ana amaphunzira kulota, kuchedwetsa mphindi yakukwaniritsidwa kwa zilakolako, popanda kukwiya ndi kukhumudwa pang'ono *. Komabe, izi zitha kuphunziridwa tsiku lililonse, osati pa Khrisimasi yokha.

Kodi kupewa mphatso zapathengo?

Musanapite ku sitolo, ganizirani zomwe mwana wanu akulota. Lankhulani naye za nkhaniyi ndipo ngati ndandandayo ndi yaitali kwambiri, sankhani yofunika kwambiri. Inde, kwa iye, osati kwa inu.

Mphatso ndi lingaliro?

Ana aang’ono adzakhumudwadi ngati apatsidwa zinthu za kusukulu, zovala wamba “zoti akule” kapena buku lolimbikitsa monga “Malamulo a makhalidwe abwino.” Iwo sangayamikire zikumbutso zomwe zilibe tanthauzo kuchokera pamalingaliro awo, zomwe sizikupangidwira kusewera, koma kukongoletsa alumali. Ana adzawona ngati chipongwe ndi mphatso "ndi lingaliro" (kwa ofooka - dumbbells, kwa manyazi - buku lakuti "Momwe Mungakhalire Mtsogoleri"). Mphatso sizongosonyeza chikondi chathu ndi chisamaliro chathu, komanso umboni wa momwe timamvera komanso kulemekeza mwana wathu.

Za izi

Tatiana Babushkina

"Zomwe zimasungidwa m'matumba a ubwana"

Agency for Educational Cooperation, 2004.

Martha Snyder, Ross Snyder

“Mwana Monga Munthu”

Kutanthauza, Harmony, 1995.

* ZOKHUDZA ZOKHUDZA ZOMWE ZINACHITIKA NDI ZINSINSI ZOSAYENERA PANJIRA YOPHUNZITSA KUGOLI. IMAONEKERA MKUKHALA Opanda chipwirikiti, NKHAWA, MTIMA, WOLIMBIKA KAPENA manyazi.

Siyani Mumakonda