Pa tsiku loyamba, muyenera kukhala oona mtima

Tsiku lachiwiri, monga loyamba, linali losangalatsa. Anna adadzipereka kupita kumunda wa botanical - nyengo sinali yabwino, koma mtsikanayo sanasamale. Zinali zabwino kwambiri kuyankhulana ndi Max: adachoka pamutu umodzi kupita ku wina, ndipo adamvetsetsa bwino. Tidakambirana nkhani, mndandanda, zolemba zoseketsa pamasamba ochezera. Ndiyeno iwo anatsanzikana, ndipo Anna anachita mantha: iye anali momasuka kwambiri, momasuka kwambiri. Ndipo mwachiwonekere anali ndi chidwi ndi Max. "Sipadzakhala tsiku latsopano - ndawononga zonse!"

Pa nthawi imeneyi yaubwenzi womwe wangoyamba kumene m’pamene zinthu zikhoza kusokonekera makamaka ngati maanja alephera kupeza njira yoyenera. Ndi chiyani ndipo mungachipeze bwanji?

Sonyezani chidwi popanda manyazi

Ancu Kögl wakhala akulemba za chibwenzi kwa zaka zambiri ndipo posachedwapa adasindikiza Art of Honest Dating. Dzinalo lokha limasonyeza zomwe wolembayo amawona kuti ndizofunikira kwambiri m'masiku ofunikira awa ndi masabata a mapangidwe a maubwenzi - kukhulupirika. Magazini ambiri achikazi amaperekabe owerenga awo masewera achikale osasonyeza chidwi, kukhala osafikirika. “Pamene timakonda mkazi pang’ono, m’pamenenso amatikonda mosavuta,” magazini aamuna anagwira mawu Pushkin poyankha. "Komabe, izi ndizomwe zimatsogolera ku mfundo yakuti anthu samadziwana," wolemba blogger akufotokoza.

Anna kuopa kuti Max atha chifukwa anali ndi chidwi kwambiri naye sikunali koyenera. Anakumananso. Koegl akufotokoza kuti: “Munthu amene amaonetsa chidwi momasuka, popanda manyazi kapena zifukwa zomveka, amakhala wokopa kwambiri. "Khalidwe limeneli likusonyeza kuti kudzidalira kwake sikudalira maganizo ndi zochita za wofunsayo."

Munthu wotero amaoneka wokhazikika m’maganizo, wokhoza kumasuka. Ndipo ifenso timafuna kumukhulupirira. Anna akadayesa kubisa kuti alibe chidwi ndi Max, sakanatsegulanso. Mwina angaganize kuti kusalankhula kwakeko kunali ngati chizindikiro chotsutsana: “Ndimakufuna, koma sindikufuna.” Poyesa kubisa chidwi chathu, mwakutero timasonyeza kuti ndife opanda chisungiko, amantha, ndipo motero osakopa.

Lankhulani mwachindunji

Sikuti nthawi yomweyo kuvomereza chikondi chamuyaya. Koegl amapereka zitsanzo za zizindikiro zanzeru zomwe zimasonyeza chidwi chathu kwa olankhulana nawo muzochitika zosiyanasiyana za chibwenzi. “Tiyerekeze kuti muli m’kalabu yausiku yaphokoso ndipo mwangokumana ndi winawake. Mumalumikizana ndipo mukuwoneka kuti mumakondana. Munganene kuti: “Ndine wokondwa kulankhula nanu. Kodi tingapite kumowa? Kumeneko sikumakhala bata, ndipo timatha kucheza bwinobwino.”

Inde, nthawi zonse pali chiopsezo chokanidwa - ndiyeno chiyani? Palibe, Koegle ndi wotsimikiza. Zimachitika. “Kukanidwa sikunena kanthu za inu monga munthu. Azimayi ambiri amene ndinakumana nawo ankandikana. Komabe, ndinayiwala za iwo kalekale, chifukwa sizinali zofunikira kwa ine, "akugawana. Koma panalinso akazi amene ndinkacheza nawo. Ndinakumana nawo chifukwa chakuti ndinavomereza mantha anga ndi mantha, chifukwa ndinatsegula, ngakhale kuti ndinaika pangozi.

Ngakhale kuti Anna ali ndi mantha, akhoza kulimba mtima kuuza Max kuti: “Ndimakonda kukhala nawe. Tikumananso?"

Vomerezani kuti ndinu wamanjenje

Tinene kuti tsiku loyamba lisanafike, ambiri aife timakumana ndi chisokonezo. Lingaliro likhoza kubweranso m'mutu, koma sikwabwino kusiyiratu chilichonse. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti tasiya chidwi ndi munthuyo. Kungoti tili ndi nkhawa kwambiri kuti tikufuna kukhala kunyumba, "mu mink". Ndivale chiyani? Kodi mungayambire bwanji kukambirana? Bwanji ngati nditathira chakumwa pa malaya anga kapena—o mai! - siketi yake?

Ndi zachilendo kukhala wamantha kwambiri tsiku loyamba lisanafike, ophunzitsa chibwenzi Lindsay Crisler ndi Donna Barnes akufotokoza. Amalangiza kuti muyime pang'ono musanakumane ndi mnzako. "Dikirani pang'ono musanatsegule chitseko cha cafe, kapena kutseka maso anu kwa masekondi angapo musanatsike komwe mukuyembekezera."

“Nenani kuti ndinu wamantha kapena kuti ndinu wamanyazi mwachibadwa,” akulangiza motero Chrysler. Nthawi zonse ndi bwino kukhala woona mtima kusiyana ndi kukhala ngati mulibe nazo ntchito. Posonyeza poyera mmene tikumvera, timakhala ndi mwayi wokhala paubwenzi wabwinobwino.”

Khalani ndi cholinga chenicheni

Pumirani mozama ndikuganizira zomwe mukuyembekezera ku msonkhano. Onetsetsani kuti cholinga chanu si mkulu kwambiri tsiku loyamba. Chikhale chinachake chenicheni. Mwachitsanzo, kusangalala. Kapena madzulo onse khalani nokha. Pambuyo pa tsikulo, yesani kuwunika ngati mwakwaniritsa cholinga chanu. Ngati inde, ndiye kuti muzinyadira nokha! Ngakhale kulibe deti lachiwiri, izi zidzakuthandizani kukhala odzidalira nokha.

Phunzirani kuchita nthabwala

Kuopa kulira kapena kutaya khofi? Izi ndi zomveka! Koma, mwina, chinthu chomwe mumachikonda sichingathawe chifukwa choti ndinu opusa, "adatero Barnes. Ndikosavuta kuchita nthabwala za kupusa kwanuko kuposa kumangotentha ndi manyazi usiku wonse.

Kumbukirani: simuli pa zokambirana

Ena a ife timamva ngati tsiku lathu loyamba lili ngati kuyankhulana kwa ntchito ndikuyesera zomwe tingathe kuti tikhale angwiro. "Koma mfundo sikungotsimikizira munthu wotsutsana naye kuti ndinu "wosankhidwa" woyenerera ndipo muyenera kusankhidwa, komanso kulola munthu wina kudziwonetsera yekha," akukumbukira motero Barnes. “Chotero lekani kudera nkhaŵa kwambiri zimene mukunena, kaya mukuseka mokweza. Yambani kumvetsera kwa interlocutor, yesetsani kumvetsa zomwe mumakonda za iye, ndi iye za inu. Pitirizani kuchokera ku mfundo yakuti poyamba mumakopeka ndi mnzanu - izi zidzakupatsani kudzidalira ndikupangitsani kukhala wokongola kwambiri.