Kutsuka mafupa a anthu otchuka ndi ntchito yachabechabe komanso yochititsa manyazi. Koma pang’onopang’ono aliyense amatero. Ndi chiyani - chizindikiro cha psyche yakhanda kapena chiwonetsero cha zosowa zakuya?
Anatha chifukwa chakumwa komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ndipo iyenso ndi wamba!
— Inde, anam’maliza! Kapena adzadula chifuwa chake, kenako adzatenga mwana wina - aliyense adzathawa quirks zotere.
- Chabwino, palibe, koma tili ndi Mfumukazi ndi Tarzan. Ndipo Pugacheva ndi Galkin. Anyamata, gwirani! Chiyembekezo chonse chiri mwa inu.
M'masiku atatu apitawa, takwanitsa kukambirana zonse zokhudzana ndi chisudzulo chomwe chikubwera cha Brad Pitt ndi Angelina: yemwe ali wozunzidwa kwambiri, yemwe ali wolakwa, zomwe zidzachitike kwa ana. Magulu onse ogwira ntchito anasonkhana m'zipinda zosuta fodya ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti operekedwa kuti afufuze ubale wapakati pa ochita masewera awiriwa. Otsatirawo adagawanika kukhala "pittists" ndi "jolists", ndipo maanja ena adatha kukangana ndi anthu asanu ndi anayi chifukwa chakuti m'modzi mwa ogwirizanawo adathandizira Pitt ndipo winayo adathandizira Jolie. N'chifukwa chiyani maganizo ambiri?
Alendo koma achibale
Kuchokera pamalingaliro amalingaliro, malingaliro omwe timamva pa anthu omwe sitikuwadziwa amalankhula za ubale wa parasocial. Mawu oyamba akuti "awiri" apa akutanthauza kupatuka: uwu si ubale mwachizolowezi, koma wotsatira wawo. Kalelo m’zaka za m’ma 1950, akatswiri a zamaganizo Donald Horton ndi Richard Wohl anaona kuti sitimangomvera chisoni anthu amene timawakonda pa TV, koma timawapanga kukhala mbali ya moyo wathu. Koma kulumikizanako kumakhala mbali imodzi: timakonda ziweto zathu monga momwe ana ang'onoang'ono amachitira ndi zidole. Kupatulapo kuti mwanayo ali ndi mphamvu zonse pa chidole, mosiyana ndi ngwazi ya filimuyo.
Dziko longopeka limatilola kuti tifufuze umunthu wathu, kumvetsetsa kwathu maubwenzi
Kodi maubwenzi amenewa ndi abwino bwanji? Zingaganizidwe kuti omwe amapanga mabwenzi ongoganizira komanso okonda sakhutira kwathunthu ndi maubwenzi awo m'moyo weniweni. Zowonadi, maubwenzi a parasocial nthawi zambiri amalowetsedwa ndi omwe sadzidalira mokwanira ndipo amavutika kuyankhulana ndi anthu enieni. Choyamba, ndizotetezeka: bwenzi la pa TV silidzatisiya, ndipo ngati izi zitachitika, tili ndi zolemba zakale komanso malingaliro athu omwe tili nawo. Kachiwiri, zochita za ngwazi nthawi zonse zimakhala zochititsa chidwi kwambiri: samalowa m'thumba mwa mawu, samagwira ntchito wamba, ndipo amawoneka bwino nthawi zonse.
Angelina Wokongola ndi Brad Wamphamvuyonse
Sikuti aliyense amavomereza kuti kukhalapo kwa zizindikiro za ubale wa parasocial mwa ife ndi chifukwa chotembenukira kwa katswiri. Ngakhale ngati ubalewo suli weniweni, malingaliro kumbuyo kwawo angakhale othandiza. Karen Dill-Shackleford, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, ananena kuti: “Zinthu zongopeka zimatichititsa kudzifufuza kuti ndife ndani, mmene timaonera maubwenzi athu, zimene timayendera, ndiponso mmene timadziwira cholinga cha moyo.
Apa ndi koyenera kukumbukira kuti mawu akuti "fano" poyambirira ankanena za milungu yachikunja. Zowonadi, kwa ambiri aife, anthu otchuka ali pachimake chomwe sichingafikike kotero kuti amakhala ndi udindo waumulungu. Chifukwa chake, ambiri amateteza mwachangu ziweto zawo ku ziwawa. Timafunika zitsanzo zoti titsatire. Tikufuna kukhala ndi maso athu chithunzithunzi cha Kupambana, Kukoma Mtima, Kupanga Zinthu ndi Kulemekezeka. Sizingakhale nyenyezi za pop zokha, komanso ndale, olimbikitsa anthu kapena aphunzitsi auzimu. Aliyense amafunikira mesiya amene ali wokonzeka kupita kwa iye, amene angatembenukire kwa iye m’maganizo kaamba ka chichirikizo ndi chisonkhezero.
Kwa Jenny kapena kwa Angie?
Pomaliza, pali mbali ya chikhalidwe cha chikondi chathu kwa anthu otchuka. Timakonda kukhala m’gulu limodzi logwirizana kwambiri, «fuko» limene aliyense amalankhula chinenero chimodzi, kuzindikirana ndi zizindikiro zodziŵika kwa iwo okha, kukhala ndi moni wawo wachinsinsi, maholide, nthabwala. Mawu achingerezi akuti fandom (fan base) alowa kale m'chinenero chathu pamodzi ndi chodabwitsa chomwe: magulu okonda masewera amawerengera mamiliyoni a anthu. Amasinthana nkhani pafupipafupi, amalemba nkhani za mafano awo, amajambula zithunzi ndi nthabwala, amatengera maonekedwe awo. Mutha kupanga "ntchito" yochititsa chidwi mwa iwo, kukhala katswiri pa mbiri kapena kalembedwe ka wosewera yemwe mumakonda.
Timakonda kukhala m'gulu limodzi logwirizana kwambiri, "fuko", pomwe aliyense amalankhula chilankhulo chimodzi, amazindikirana ndi zizindikiro zodziwika kwa iwo okha.
Magulu okonda masewera amafanana ndi makalabu okonda masewera m'njira zambiri: amaona kupambana ndi kugonja kwa «akatswiri» awo ngati awo. M'lingaliro limeneli, chisudzulo cha Angelina Jolie chikhoza kukhala chopweteka kwambiri kwa mafani ake, koma nthawi yomweyo perekani chifukwa chosangalalira kwa mafani a Jennifer Aniston. Kupatula apo, anali Angelina yemwe nthawi ina "adakhumudwitsa" zomwe amakonda, atamenya Brad Pitt kuchokera kwa iye. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Rick Grieve ananena kuti kutengeka maganizo pagulu kumachitikira kwambiri ndipo kumatipatsa chikhutiro chochuluka. Iye anati: “Aliyense amene akukuzungulirani akamaimba nyimbo zofanana, zimapatsa mphamvu komanso kudzidalira.
Pali zabwino mu ubale wongoyerekeza ndi nyenyezi, ndi mbali zoipa. Timalimbikitsidwa ndi zikhulupiriro zawo, moyo wawo komanso njira zosiyanasiyana zamoyo. Ndikofunikira kuwonetsetsa kuti kulumikizidwa sikukula kukhala kudalira, ndipo ophatikizira ongoyerekeza salowa m'malo enieni.
Zambiri nymag.com