Mabuku otukula anthu ndi andani? Kodi tinganene kuti izi zikufuna kuwongolera thanzi lamalingaliro la munthu aliyense?

Kwa Lacroix, chitukuko chaumwini chimakhudza anthu omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino, zomwe zimasiyana nazo psychotherapies. Psychotherapies imaperekedwa ku njira ya "machiritso", ina ikufuna kuyambitsa "kukhwima" kwamphamvu.

M’mawu ena, kukula kwaumwini sikuli kwa “odwala” koma kwa awo amene amafuna kukwaniritsidwa.

Ndiye lingaliro la "umoyo wamaganizidwe" likuphimba chiyani? Jahoda amadziwika ndi thanzi lamalingaliro ndi 6 madraft zosiyana: 

• maganizo a munthu payekha;
• kalembedwe ndi mlingo wa kudzikuza, kukula kapena kukwaniritsa;
• kuphatikiza kwa ntchito zamaganizo;
• kudzilamulira;
• kuzindikira kokwanira kwa zenizeni;
• kulamulira chilengedwe.

Kukula kwamunthu kungakhudze lingaliro lina lotchedwa "self-acualization", malinga ndi ntchito ya 1998 yolembedwa ndi Leclerc, Lefrançois, Dube, Hébert ndi Gaulin ndi omwe angatchulepo ” kudzikwaniritsa ".

Zizindikiro za 36 za kudzikwaniritsa zidadziwika kumapeto kwa ntchitoyi, ndipo zidagawidwa m'magulu atatu. 

Kutseguka kuti mudziwe

Malinga ndi ntchitozi, anthu ali munjira yodzikwaniritsa….

1. Amadziwa zakukhosi kwawo

2. Khalani ndi malingaliro enieni a iwo eni

3. Khulupirirani gulu lawo

4. Okhoza kuzindikira

5. Amatha kuvomereza zosemphana maganizo

6. Ndiwokonzeka kusintha

7. Akudziwa mphamvu zawo ndi zofooka zawo

8. Okhoza kumvera ena chisoni

9. Okhoza kusatanganidwa ndi iwo okha

10. Khalani mu mphindi

11. Khalani ndi malingaliro abwino pa moyo wa munthu

12. Dzivomereni monga momwe alili

13. Khalani ndi malingaliro abwino pamunthu

14. Amatha kuchita zinthu modzidzimutsa

15. Okhoza kukhudzana

16. Perekani cholinga cha moyo

17. Okhoza kuchita chinkhoswe

Kudzifotokozera

Anthu ali munjira yodzikwaniritsa….

1. Adziwone ngati ali ndi udindo pa moyo wawo

2. Landirani udindo pa zochita zawo

3. Landirani zotsatira za zosankha zawo

4. Azichita zinthu motsatira zimene amakhulupirira komanso zimene amakhulupirira

5. Amatha kulimbana ndi zitsenderezo zosayenera za anthu

6. Khalani omasuka kufotokoza maganizo awo

7. Sangalalani kudziganizira nokha

8. Khalani m'njira yowona ndi yogwirizana

9. Khalani ndi malingaliro amphamvu pamakhalidwe abwino

10. Salema ndi chiweruzo cha ena

11. Khalani omasuka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo

12. Gwiritsani ntchito mfundo zaumwini kuti mudziyese nokha

13. Amatha kutuluka pamakonzedwe okhazikitsidwa

14. Khalani ndi ulemu wabwino

15. Perekani tanthauzo kwa awo moyo

Kumasuka ku zochitika ndikudziwonetsera nokha

Anthu ali munjira yodzikwaniritsa….

1. Muzilumikizana ndi inu eni komanso munthu winayo polankhulana

2. Angakumane ndi kulephera

3. Amatha kukhazikitsa maubwenzi okhazikika

4. Funani maubwenzi ozikidwa pa kulemekezana

Kukula kwaumwini Kwambiri kwambiri zimagwirizana ndi lingaliro la kudzipatula, ndondomekoyi yomwe imakhala ndi kudzipatula nokha pa mtengo uliwonse kuchokera ku archetypes a chikomokere chophatikizana. Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Jung, kudzidalira ndiko "kudzizindikiritsa wekha, zomwe zimakhala zaumwini komanso zopanduka kwambiri poziyerekeza ndi zonse", mwa kuyankhula kwina ... 

Chitukuko chaumwini chimafuna kuonjezera kuchuluka ndi khalidwe la malingaliro abwino. Komabe, Fredrickson ndi gulu lake awonetsa kuti:

• malingaliro abwino amakulitsa gawo la masomphenya ndi luso lachidziwitso;
• positivity zimatiyika ife pamwamba ozungulira: maganizo abwino, kupambana kwaumwini ndi akatswiri, nthawi zonse positivity;
• malingaliro abwino amawonjezera kukhudzidwa ndi kuphatikizidwa;
• malingaliro abwino amathandizira kukula kwa chidziwitso ndi lingaliro la umodzi ndi moyo wonse
• zabwino maganizo osati kuthamangitsa maganizo oipa, komanso kubwezeretsa bwino zokhudza thupi. Iwo amasewera gawo lokonzanso (monga "kubwezeretsani" batani).

Kwa wofufuza Csikszentmihalyi, chitukuko chaumwini imathandizanso kukweza mgwirizano, dongosolo ndi kuchuluka kwa bungwe mu chidziwitso chathu. Zingathe kukonzanso chidwi chathu ndi kutimasula ku chikoka chamagulu, kaya chikhalidwe, majini kapena chilengedwe.

Ananenanso za kufunika kokhala “m’mayendedwe” m’lingaliro la kukhala ndi maganizo akuti munthu akamachita zinthu. Kuti izi zitheke, pakufunika makamaka kuti:

1. Zolinga zake ndi zomveka

2. Ndemanga ndi yolingalira komanso yofunikira

3. Zovuta zogwirizana ndi luso

4. Munthuyo amayang'ana kwambiri ntchito yomwe ali nayo, panthawi ino komanso mozindikira bwino.

Njira iyi yodziwira "kuyenda" mu ntchito yake, maubwenzi ake, moyo wa banja lake, zilakolako zake, zingamupangitse kuti asadalire mphoto zakunja zomwe zimalimbikitsa ena kukhutitsidwa ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku wopanda tanthauzo. Csikszentmihalyi anati: "Panthawi yomweyo, amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi chilichonse chomwe chimamuzungulira chifukwa ali ndi ndalama zambiri pakuyenda kwa moyo."

Kwa olemba ena, kukula kwamunthu sikungokhala ngati mankhwala, koma kuwonjezera pa zonse kumakhala ndi cholinga chokulitsa, kukulitsa, ndi kukulitsa. Robert Redeker ndi m'modzi mwa olemba ovuta awa: " [chitukuko chaumwini] chimalimbikitsa chikhalidwe cha zotsatira; Chifukwa chake mtengo wa munthu umayesedwa ndi zotulukapo zowoneka zomwe, mumpikisano wamba ndi nkhondo ya aliyense motsutsana ndi aliyense, amakwaniritsa. »

Kwa iye, kungokhala mndandanda wazinthu zachinyengo, " zopanda pake , Cha” Msika wokongola wa zikhulupiriro "Yemwe cholinga chake (chobisika) chingakhale kukankhira pamlingo wake momwe angathere" makasitomala “. Michel Lacroix nawonso amatengera malingaliro awa: " Chitukuko chaumwini chimagwirizana bwino ndi chikhalidwe cha zopanda malire zomwe zikufalikira masiku ano, zomwe zimawonetsedwa ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi, doping, luso la sayansi kapena lachipatala, nkhawa za kulimbitsa thupi, chikhumbo chokhala ndi moyo wautali, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, chikhulupiriro cha kubadwanso kwatsopano. “. Ndilo lingaliro la malire, lomwe lakhala losapiririka kwa amuna amasiku ano, omwe angakhale ndi udindo pakuyenda bwino kwa mapulaneti. 

« Chamoyo chilichonse ndi nyimbo yomwe imadziyimba yokha. " Maurice Merleau-Ponty