Si chinsinsi kuti kufunafuna malingaliro owoneka bwino nthawi zambiri kumasanduka kudzimva wopanda pake. Chifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - choti muchite?
- Timaphonya malingaliro abwino! wazaka XNUMX wanzeru anandiuza, akuganiza chifukwa chake pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamavuto masiku ano.
- Ndipo chochita?
- Timafunikira zambiri zabwino! yankho lomveka linabwera.
Ambiri amayesa kuzindikira lingaliro limeneli, koma pazifukwa zina amalephera kukhala osangalala. Kuthamanga kwakanthawi kochepa kumasinthidwa ndi kuchepa. Ndi kudzimva kukhala wopanda pake.
Ndizodziwika kwa ambiri: kupanda kanthu mkati kumakhala chogwirika, mwachitsanzo, pambuyo paphwando laphokoso pomwe panali zosangalatsa zambiri, koma mawu akangongokhala chete, amamva ngati kulakalaka mu moyo ... Kusewera masewera apakompyuta kwa nthawi yayitali. nthawi, mumapeza zosangalatsa kwambiri, koma pamene inu mutuluka mu dziko pafupifupi, kuchokera zosangalatsa palibe kufufuza - kutopa kokha.
Kodi ndi malangizo otani amene timamva tikamayesetsa kukhala ndi maganizo abwino? Kumanani ndi abwenzi, chita zoseweretsa, kuyenda, kupita kumasewera, kupita ku chilengedwe… Koma nthawi zambiri njira zodziwika bwinozi sizolimbikitsa. Chifukwa chiyani?
Kuyesera kudzaza ndi malingaliro kumatanthauza kuyatsa magetsi ambiri momwe mungathere m'malo mowona zomwe akuwonetsa.
Cholakwika ndi chakuti malingaliro paokha sangathe kutikwaniritsa. Zomverera ndi mtundu wa ma siginecha, mababu owunikira pa bolodi. Kuyesera kudzaza ndi malingaliro kumatanthauza kuyatsa mababu ambiri momwe mungathere, m'malo mopita ndikuyang'ana - amawonetsa chiyani?
Nthawi zambiri timasokoneza mitundu iwiri yosiyana kwambiri: chisangalalo ndi kukhutitsidwa. Kukhuta (kwathupi kapena m'malingaliro) kumalumikizidwa ndi kukhutira. Ndipo zosangalatsa zimapereka kukoma kwa moyo, koma sizikhutitsa ...
Chikhutiro chimabwera ndikazindikira zomwe zili zofunika ndi zofunika kwa ine. Kuyenda kungakhale kosangalatsa ndikazindikira maloto anga, osachitapo kanthu pa mfundo yakuti "tiyeni tipite kwinakwake, ndatopa ndi chizolowezi". Kukumana ndi anzanga kumandidzaza ndikafuna kuwona anthu awa, osati "kungosangalala." Kwa munthu amene amakonda kulima mbewu, tsiku ku dacha ndizochitika zokhutiritsa, koma kwa wina wothamangitsidwa kumeneko ndi mphamvu, kukhumba ndi chisoni.
Kutengeka mtima kumapereka mphamvu, koma mphamvu iyi imatha kuphwanyidwa, kapena ikhoza kulunjika ku zomwe zimandikhutitsa. Choncho m’malo mofunsa kuti, “Kodi ndingapeze kuti maganizo abwino,” ndi bwino kufunsa kuti, “Kodi chimandidzaza ndi chiyani?” Zomwe zili zofunika kwa ine, ndi zochita ziti zomwe zingandipatse kumverera kuti moyo wanga ukuyenda momwe ndikufunira, osati kuthamanga (kapena kukoka) m'njira yosamvetsetseka.
Chimwemwe sichingakhale cholinga cha moyoViktor Frankl anatero. Chimwemwe ndi chotulukapo pakuzindikira zomwe timafunikira (kapena kumverera kofuna kuzikwaniritsa). Ndipo maganizo abwino ndiye chitumbuwa pa keke. Koma osati keke yokha.