Mayi wa ana asanu ndi mmodzi adalemba malamulo 10 omwe angathandize kulera munthu woyenera.
Wolemba mabulogu Erin Spencer wapeza moyenerera dzina la "katswiri kholo". Pamene mwamuna wake ali kuntchito, akulera yekha ana asanu ndi mmodzi. Amathanso kulemba mizati yokhala ndi malangizo kwa amayi achichepere. Komabe, Erin akuvomereza kuti pa nkhondo ya mutu wakuti "Amayi abwino" ndipo adagonjetsa.
“Nenani moni kwa mbadwo watsopano wa odzikuza osayamika! Erin akuti. Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndinazindikira kuti inenso ndikulera omwewo.
Unali Madzulo a Khrisimasi pamene Erin anali kukonza bajeti ya tchuthi, akumafunsa komwe angasungire dola yowonjezera kuti apatse mphatso za ana.
Mayi wina amene ali ndi ana ambiri ananena kuti: “Mzimu wa Khirisimasi unali wovuta kwambiri, ndipo ndinakhala pakhosi n’kulipira ngongole, ndikumasankha kuti ndigulitse chiwalo chiti kuti ndipeze mphatso. "Ndipo mwadzidzidzi mwana wamkulu akubwera kwa ine nati:" Amayi, ndikufuna nsapato zatsopano, "ndipo izi ndi zomwe tidamugulira yomaliza miyezi isanu yapitayo."
Mwaulemu komanso modekha, Erin anafotokozera mwana wake wamwamuna kuti makolo ake sankatha kumamugulira nsapato zodula nthawi zonse.
"Zomwe adachita zidandipangitsa kudzifunsa kuti: Kodi ndimakhala kuti ngati kholo? Erin akulemba. "Mwanayo adausa moyo kwambiri ndipo adalowa muulamuliro wamunthu wosayamika."
“Mumandivuta nthawi zonse! - mnyamatayo anakwiya. - Kodi mukufuna kuti aliyense azindiseka?! Ndimadana nazo zonse! Sindidzavala nsapato zopusa za Velcro! “
"N'chiyani chimakupangitsani kuganiza kuti akugulirani nsapato za Velcro? Kodi muli ndi zaka ziwiri, kapena 82? ” – mayi ake a mnyamatayo anakwiya.
“Chochitikachi chinandipangitsa kulingaliranso za khalidwe langa monga kholo,” akutero wolemba mabulogi. - Ndikuyang'ana pozungulira ndikuwona anyamata ovala jeans zolimba, akumata ma lattes, omwe ngakhale chitseko kutsogolo kwanu sichidzagwira, ndipo makamaka sichidzapereka kunyamula matumba olemera. Lolani zomwe ndinene pambuyo pake zindisamutsire pagulu la osakaza tsabola akale, koma achinyamata masiku ano ndi opanda ulemu! “
Pambuyo pa zochitika zomwe mwana wa Erin anajambula, adaganiza zosintha moyo wa banja lake. Nawa malamulo ake, omwe, monga blogger atsimikiza, angathandize makolo achichepere kulera munthu woyenera.
1. Lekani kupatsa ana anu zosankha ndikupempha thandizo. MUNAZIGWIRITSA NTCHITO kwa miyezi isanu ndi inayi, mumalipira ngongole, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti MUMAkhazikitsa malamulo ndikuwauza zoyenera kuchita. Ngati mukufuna kuti mwana wanu asankhe, muloleni asankhe: kaya adzachita zomwe mwanena, kapena sangakhale wabwino.
2. Lekani kuloŵerera m’ngongole poyesa kugulira mwana wanu china chabwinoko kuchokera m’zosonkhanitsa zaposachedwa.
3. Uzani ana kuti agwire ntchito zomwe akufuna. Ntchito yaying'ono sinapweteke aliyense panobe.
4. Aphunzitseni makhalidwe: nenani chonde, zikomo, tsegulani ndi kutsekereza zitseko za ena. Ngati mukulera mwana wanu, pitani naye pa chibwenzi ndi kumupempha kuti alipire chakudya chamasana pogwiritsa ntchito ndalama zomwe adapeza pa uphungu wa m’ndime yachitatu. Ziribe kanthu zomwe wina anganene, khalidwe lachimuna loterolo silidzachoka mu mafashoni.
5. Pitani kumalo osungira anthu opanda pokhala limodzi kapena dziperekani kumeneko. Lolani mwanayo amvetse tanthauzo la mawu akuti “kukhala moipa” kwenikweni.
6. Pogula mphatso, tsatirani malamulo anayi. Perekani chinachake chimene: 1) akufuna; 2) amafunikira; 3) adzakhala atavala; 4) adzawerenga.
7. Komanso, kuphunzitsa ana tanthauzo lenileni la maholide. Aphunzitseni kupatsa, thandizani kumvetsetsa kuti nzosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa kulandira. Sindinathe kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake Yesu ali ndi tsiku lobadwa, koma timalandira mphatso?
8. Pitani ndi mwana wolumala asilikali, asilikali akale, ana amasiye, pambuyo pa zonse. Sonyezani chimene kudzipereka kwenikweni kuli.
9. Aphunzitseni kumvetsetsa kusiyana pakati pa ubwino ndi kuchuluka kwake.
10. Aphunzitseni kusonyeza chikondi ndi chifundo chawo kwa iwo amene ali nawo pafupi. Phunzitsani ana anu kukondana wina ndi mnzake, kuwalola kumva zotsatira za zosankha zawo, ndipo adzakula kukhala anthu abwino.
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Mukamvetsetsa kuti mwana, mwa zonena zake kapena zochita zake, amakupangitsani kukhala ndi liwongo, zachipongwe (“simundikonda ine!”) Kapena amakunyamulirani, ndiye kuti muli ndi kachipongwe kakang’ono. Izi makamaka ndi vuto la makolo. Iwo analephera molondola kumanga banja wotsogola, kukhala mfundo mu nkhani zofunika. Ndipo mwana yemwe amadutsa zaka zovuta m'modzi amamva kufooka uku mwangwiro - pang'onopang'ono amadzikwaniritsa yekha pamene aliyense ali ndi ngongole, koma alibe ngongole kwa aliyense.
Machenjerero a anthu onyengawo samangokhalira kupsa mtima komanso kuchita zachinyengo. Akhoza kudwala, ndipo moona mtima - psychosomatics imagwira ntchito kotero kuti mwanayo amadwala kuti apeze chisamaliro cha makolo. Mwana akhoza kuphunzira kukopa mwaluso - izi zimachitika pamene amayi ndi abambo m'banja amasewera apolisi abwino ndi oipa. Kapena mwina kuwopseza, kuwopseza kuchoka panyumba kapena kudzichitira nokha.
Zikatero, kufunitsitsa kwanu kokha kumathandiza: muyenera kusunga chitetezo, osati kugonja pakukwiyitsidwa. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, mwanayo ayenera kulandira chisamaliro chokwanira kuti asamve ngati akumanidwa mopanda chilungamo komanso kukhumudwa.
Kuti mudziwe momwe mungazindikire XNUMX% molondola chowongolera chaching'ono, werengani