Motero kumatanthauzidwa mfundo yodziwa kugwirizanitsa: kumaphatikizapo kupanga chinachake kutaya khalidwe lake lenileni pochiyika mogwirizana ndi chinachake chofanana, chofanana, kapena ndi nkhani yonse. M'malo mwake, ndizofunikira kwambiri pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku kudziwa momwe mungayikitsire zinthu moyenera: chifukwa chake timatha kudzipatula. Ngati tilingalira kulimba kwenikweni kwa chinthu chimene chimativutitsa maganizo kapena chimene chimatifooketsa, ndiye kuti chingawonekere chocheperapo, chowopsa, chopanda misala monga momwe chinkawonekera kwa ife poyamba. Njira zingapo zophunzirira kuyika zinthu moyenera ...

«Pakati pa zinthu, ena amadalira ife, ena sadalira izo; anatero Epictetus, Mstoiki wakale. Zomwe zimadalira ife ndi malingaliro, chizolowezi, chikhumbo, kudana: mwa mawu, chirichonse chomwe chiri ntchito yathu. Zomwe sizidalira pa ife ndi matupi, katundu, mbiri, ulemu: m'mawu, chilichonse chomwe sichili ntchito yathu.. "

Ndipo ili ndi lingaliro lodziwika bwino la Stoicism: ndizotheka kwa ife, mwachitsanzo, kudzera muzochita zina zauzimu, kutenga mtunda wozindikira kuchokera ku zomwe timachita zokha. Mfundo imene tingagwiritsebe ntchito masiku ano: tikakumana ndi zochitika, tikhoza kugwirizanitsa, m’lingaliro lakuya la mawuwa, kutanthauza kuika patali, ndi kuona zinthu mmene zilili. ndi; malingaliro ndi malingaliro, osati zenizeni. Chifukwa chake, mawu akuti relativize amapeza chiyambi chake mu liwu lachilatini ".zokhudzana", wachibale, mwiniwake wochokera ku"lipoti“, Kapena chibale, chibale; kuyambira 1265, mawu awa amagwiritsidwa ntchito kutanthauza "chinthu chomwe chili chotere pokhudzana ndi zikhalidwe zina".

M'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, titha kuwunika zovuta momwe zilili bwino, poganizira momwe zinthu ziliri ... Cholinga chachikulu cha filosofi, mu Antiquity, chinali, kwa aliyense, kukhala munthu wabwino pakukhala ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi malingaliro abwino ... Ndipo ngati titagwiritsa ntchito, monga lero, lamulo ili la Stoiki lomwe cholinga chake ndi kugwirizanitsa?

Blaise Pascal, m'mawu ake Pansi, buku lake pambuyo pa imfa yake lofalitsidwa mu 1670, likutilimbikitsanso kuzindikira kufunika koti munthu aone mmene alili, poyang’anizana ndi kukula kwakukulu koperekedwa ndi chilengedwe . . .Choncho, munthu alingalire za chilengedwe chonse mu ulemerero wake wapamwamba ndi wodzaza, atalikitse maso ake ku zinthu zotsika zomwe zimamuzungulira. Iye ayang’ane pa kuwala kowala kumeneku, koikidwa ngati nyali yamuyaya younikira chilengedwe chonse, dziko lapansi lionekere kwa iye monga nsonga ya mtengo wa nsanja yaikulu imene nyenyeziyi ikulongosola.“, Iye akulembanso.

Kudziwa zopanda malire, zazikulu zopanda malire ndi zazing'ono zopanda malire, Munthu, "wabwerera kwa wekha", Adzatha kudziyika pamlingo woyenera ndikuganizira"zomwe zili pamtengo wa zomwe zili“. Kenako akhoza "kudziwona ngati wotayika mu canton iyi yopatutsidwa ku chilengedwe“; ndipo, Pascal akuumirira kuti: "kuchokera ku ndende yaing'ono iyi momwe amakhalira, ndimamva chilengedwe, amaphunzira kuyerekezera dziko lapansi, maufumu, mizinda komanso mtengo wake wabwino.". 

Zowonadi, tiyeni tiwone bwino, Pascal akutiuza mwatsatanetsatane: “chifukwa pambuyo pa zonse, munthu ndi chiyani m'chilengedwe? Wachabechabe pa nkhani ya kukhala wopanda malire, wathunthu pa nkhani yachabechabe, sing'anga pakati pa chilichonse ndi chilichonse“… Poyang’anizana ndi kusalinganika uku, munthu amatsogozedwa kumvetsetsa kuti pali zochepa! Komanso, Pascal kangapo m'mawu ake mawu akuti "ung'ono"... Kotero, poyang'anizana ndi kudzichepetsa kwa chikhalidwe chathu chaumunthu, kumizidwa pakati pa chilengedwe chopanda malire, Pascal potsiriza amatitsogolera ku"lingalirani“. Ndipo izi, "mpaka malingaliro athu atayika"...

«Chowonadi kupitirira Pyrenees, cholakwika pansipa. ” Ilinso ndi lingaliro la Pascal, wodziwika bwino: zikutanthauza kuti chomwe chili chowonadi kwa munthu kapena anthu chingakhale cholakwika kwa ena. Tsopano, kwenikweni, chomwe chiri chovomerezeka kwa wina sichiri chovomerezeka kwa china.

Montaigne, nayenso, mu zake mayesero, ndipo makamaka mawu ake akuti Anthu wamba, akusimba mfundo yofananayo: “Iye analemba kuti: “Palibe chankhanza komanso chankhanza m'dziko lino“. Momwemonso, amatsutsana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu a m'nthawi yake. M'mawu amodzi: zimagwirizanitsa. Ndipo pang’onopang’ono amatitsogolera kuti tiphatikize lingaliro lolingana ndi limene sitingathe kuweruza madera ena molingana ndi zimene timadziŵa, ndiko kunena kuti chitaganya chathu.

Zilembo za Perisiya de Montesquieu ndi chitsanzo chachitatu: Ndipotu, kuti aliyense aphunzire kugwirizanitsa, m'pofunika kukumbukira kuti zomwe zimawoneka kuti zikuyenda popanda kunena sizimapita popanda kunena mu chikhalidwe china.

Njira zingapo, mu psychology, zingatithandize kukwaniritsa relativization, tsiku ndi tsiku. Pakati pawo, njira ya Vittoz: yopangidwa ndi Doctor Roger Vittoz, ikufuna kubwezeretsanso ubongo kudzera muzochita zosavuta komanso zothandiza, zomwe zimaphatikizidwa ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Dokotala uyu anali m'nthawi ya akatswiri ofufuza kwambiri, koma ankakonda kuyang'ana pa chidziwitso: chithandizo chake sichimawunikira. Imayang'ana pamunthu yense, ndi chithandizo cha psychosensory. Cholinga chake ndikupeza luso lolinganiza ubongo wosazindikira komanso ubongo wozindikira. Kuphunzitsidwanso kumeneku, kotero, sikumagwiranso ntchito pa lingaliro koma pa chiwalo chokha: ubongo. Kenako tingathe kumuphunzitsa kusiyanitsa mphamvu yokoka yeniyeni ya zinthu: mwachidule, kugwirizanitsa zinthu.

Njira zina zilipo. Psychology ya Transpersonal ndi imodzi mwa izo: yobadwa kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m'ma 70, imaphatikizapo zomwe zapezedwa m'masukulu atatu a psychology (CBT, psychoanalysis ndi humanist-essential therapies) deta yafilosofi ndi yothandiza ya miyambo yayikulu yauzimu (zipembedzo). ndi shamanism). ); zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zotheka kupereka tanthauzo la uzimu kukhalapo kwa munthu, kukonzanso moyo wake wamaganizo, motero, kumathandiza kukhazikitsa zinthu muyeso yoyenera: kachiwiri, kuika muyeso.

Mapulogalamu a Neurolinguistic angakhalenso chida chothandiza: njira iyi yolankhulirana ndi njira zodzisinthira zokha zimathandiza kukhazikitsa zolinga ndikuzikwaniritsa. Pomaliza, chida china chosangalatsa: kuwonetseratu, njira yomwe cholinga chake ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zamaganizo, malingaliro ndi chidziwitso kuti munthu akhale ndi moyo wabwino, poika zithunzi zolondola m'maganizo. …

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