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Cholinga cha khalidwe la mwanayo ndikupewa
Makolo a Angie anaona kuti iye ankangokhalira kusiya nkhani za m’banja. Mawu ake anali omveka, ndipo atamuputa pang'ono nthawi yomweyo anayamba kulira. Akafunsidwa kuti achite zinazake, adangolira nati: "Sindikudziwa." Nayenso anayamba kung’ung’udza mosadziwika bwino, motero zinali zovuta kuti amvetse zomwe ankafuna. Makolo ake anali okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi khalidwe lake kunyumba ndi kusukulu.
Angie anayamba kusonyeza ndi khalidwe lake cholinga chachinayi - kuzemba, kapena, mwa kuyankhula kwina, kudzichepetsa kodzionetsera. Anasiya kudzidalira moti sankafuna kuchita chilichonse. Ndi khalidwe lake, iye ankawoneka kuti akunena kuti: “Sindingathe kuchita chilichonse. Osafuna kalikonse kwa ine. Tandilekeni". Ana amayesa kutsindika zofooka zawo ndi cholinga cha «kupewa» ndipo nthawi zambiri amatitsimikizira kuti ndi opusa kapena opusa. Zimene timachita ndi khalidwe limeneli zingakhale zowamvera chisoni.
Kuwongoleranso chandamale "kuzemba"
Nazi njira zina zomwe mungapangire mwana wanu kusintha. Ndikofunika kwambiri kusiya nthawi yomweyo kumumvera chisoni. Kuyungizya waawo, tulabagwasya bana besu kuti bagwasyigwe akaambo kakuti tulabayanda. Palibe chomwe chimalepheretsa anthu kukhala ngati kudzimvera chisoni. Ngati titachita motere ku kukhumudwa kwawo kowonetsera, ndipo ngakhale kuwathandiza pazomwe angathe kudzichitira okha, amakhala ndi chizolowezi chopeza zomwe akufuna ndi mtima wokhumudwa. Ngati khalidweli likupitiriza kukula, lidzatchedwa kale kuvutika maganizo.
Choyamba, sinthani zimene mukuyembekezera pa zimene mwana woteroyo angachite ndi kuganizira kwambiri zimene mwanayo wachita kale. Ngati mukuwona kuti mwanayo ayankha pempho lanu ndi mawu akuti "Sindingathe", ndiye kuti ndibwino kuti musamufunse nkomwe. Mwanayo amayesetsa kukukhulupirirani kuti alibe chochita. Pangani kuyankha koteroko kukhala kosaloleka mwa kuyambitsa mkhalidwe umene iye sangakhoze kukutsimikizirani za kusakhoza kwake kudzithandiza. Muzimumvera chisoni, koma musamumvere chisoni pamene mukuyesera kumuthandiza. Mwachitsanzo: “Mukuoneka kuti mukuvutika ndi nkhani imeneyi,” osati kuti: “Ndiloleni ndichite. Ndizovuta kwambiri kwa inu, sichoncho? " Mutha kunenanso m'mawu achikondi, "Mukuyeserabe kutero." Pangani malo amene mwanayo adzapambana, ndiyeno pang'onopang'ono kuonjezera zovuta. Pomulimbikitsa, sonyezani mtima woona. Mwana woteroyo akhoza kukhala wokhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kukayikira mawu olimbikitsa onenedwa kwa iye, ndipo sangakukhulupirireni. Pewani kumunyengerera kuti achite chilichonse.
Nazi zitsanzo.
Mphunzitsi wina anali ndi wophunzira wazaka zisanu ndi zitatu dzina lake Liz yemwe adagwiritsa ntchito cholinga cha "kuzemba". Atapanga mayeso a masamu, mphunzitsiyo anaona kuti yapita nthawi ndithu, ndipo Liz anali asanaiyambe n’komwe ntchitoyi. Aphunzitsiwo adafunsa Liz chifukwa chomwe sanachite, ndipo Liz adayankha mofatsa, "Sindingathe." Mphunzitsiyo anafunsa kuti, “Kodi ndi mbali iti ya ntchito imene mukufuna kuchita?” Liz anagwedezeka. Mphunzitsiyo anafunsa kuti, “Kodi mwakonzeka kulemba dzina lanu?” Liz anavomera, ndipo mphunzitsiyo anachokapo kwa mphindi zingapo. Liz analemba dzina lake, koma sanachite china chilichonse. Kenako mphunzitsiyo anafunsa Liz ngati anali wokonzeka kuthetsa zitsanzo ziŵiri, ndipo Liz anavomera. Izi zinapitirira mpaka Liz anamaliza ntchitoyo. Aphunzitsi adatha kutsogolera Liz kumvetsetsa kuti kupambana kungapezeke mwa kugawa ntchito yonse mu magawo osiyana, otheka kutheka.
Nachi chitsanzo china.
Kevin, mnyamata wazaka zisanu ndi zinayi, anapatsidwa ntchito yofufuza kalembedwe ka mawu mudikishonale ndiyeno kulemba matanthauzo ake. Bambo ake adawona kuti Kevin adayesetsa kuchita chilichonse, koma osati maphunziro. Mwina analira moipidwa, kenako n’kubwebweta chifukwa chosowa chochita, kenako n’kuwauza bambo ake kuti sakudziwapo kanthu za nkhaniyi. Bambo anazindikira kuti Kevin ankangoopa ntchito imene inali m’tsogolo ndipo ankangomugonjetsera popanda kuyesetsa kuchita chilichonse. Chifukwa chake abambo adaganiza zogawa ntchito yonseyo kukhala yosiyana, ntchito zofikirika zomwe Kevin adatha kuchita mosavuta.
Poyamba, bambo ankayang’ana mawu m’dikishonale, ndipo Kevin analemba matanthauzo awo m’kope. Kevin ataphunzira mmene amalize ntchito yawo bwinobwino, bambo ananena kuti alembe matanthauzo a mawu, komanso ayang’ane mawuwa m’dikishonale ndi chilembo chawo choyamba, pamene ena onse. Kenako bambo ankasinthana ndi Kevin kuti apeze liwu lililonse mudikishonale, ndi zina zotero. Izi zinapitirira mpaka Kevin anaphunzira kugwira ntchitoyo payekha. Zinatenga nthawi yaitali kuti amalize ntchitoyi, koma zinapindula ndi maphunziro a Kevin komanso ubale wake ndi abambo ake.