Kusintha kwa ntchito: momwe mungasinthire nthawi kuti mulandire mabonasi kuchokera kumoyo

M’moyo wathu wonse, timasintha maudindo athu kangapo. Ndipo nthawi zina sitikhala ndi nthawi yozindikira kuti tasamukira ku “mlingo watsopano,” kutanthauza kuti ndi nthawi yoti tisinthe khalidwe lathu, tiyambe kuchita zinthu mosiyana. Udindo wathu ukasintha, zofunika pamikhalidwe yathu, zochita zathu komanso njira zathu za moyo zimasinthanso. Njira zakale kuti mupambane, kulandira mabonasi kuchokera ku moyo, kusiya kugwira ntchito.

Zosintha zobisika

Musaiwale kuti kuwonjezera pa kusintha kowonekera, palinso zobisika. Mwachitsanzo, mubizinesi, izi zitha kukhala kusintha kuchokera paudindo wabizinesi kupita kukhala woyang'anira kampani. Maudindowa ndi ovuta kwambiri - ndi owopsa chifukwa sitizindikira nthawi zonse kusintha kwawo. Zolakwika zingapo zokha zimathandizira kumvetsetsa kuti nthawi yafika yosintha njira yakhalidwe.

Marina Melia m'buku lake latsopano, The Method of Marina Melia anati: "Mavuto obwezeretsa m'miyoyo yathu siwowawa ngati omwe alipo." Momwe mungalimbikitsire mphamvu zanu" pulofesa wa zamaganizo, mphunzitsi Marina Melia, - "Zosintha zilizonse, ngakhale zabwino kwambiri, zosangalatsa, zokhumbidwa, zimakhala zovuta nthawi zonse. Pa nthawi yovuta ya kusintha kuchokera ku udindo wina kupita ku wina, munthu yemwe wakhala akuyenda bwino muzonse, wopambana komanso wodzidalira, nthawi zambiri amapereka chithunzi cha mnyamata wopanda thandizo yemwe adawonekera koyamba m'sitimayo.

Kusintha udindo?

Pamavuto obwezeretsa, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndikuzindikira kuti tikukumana ndi zovuta zatsopano. Kuti tithane ndi mavutowa, titha kuchita zinthu zachilendo kwa ife tokha ndikukwaniritsa mbali zina za umunthu wathu - osati zomwe tidadalira kale.

Tiyeni tiwone mwatsatanetsatane za kusintha kwa maudindo m'miyoyo yathu, tidziwe zovuta zomwe tingakumane nazo, ndikusankha njira zabwino kwambiri zamakhalidwe. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Ilya Shabshin atithandiza ndi izi.

1. Udindo watsopano: wophunzira

Zovuta za Udindo: Kusintha koyamba kofunikira komwe kungayambitse zovuta kumachitika atangomaliza maphunziro awo. Ambiri mwa omaliza maphunzirowa amakhala ophunzira ndipo nthawi yomweyo amakumana ndi maphunziro ovuta kuposa kusukulu, okhala ndi mapepala amaphunziro ndi gawo loyamba. Mu gulu latsopano, mpikisano ndi kulimbana kwa "mfundo" zikuwonekera, zomwe sizovomerezeka kwa mtundu uliwonse wa umunthu. Panthawi imeneyi, kudzikayikira kungayambe, kudzidalira kungachepe. Ubwenzi ndi anzanu akusukulu nthawi zambiri umatha, pamakhala kusungulumwa.

Malangizo a Psychologist: Panthawiyi, ndikofunika kuthana ndi kupsinjika maganizo mwa kusinthana ndi zikhalidwe zatsopano: ku katundu wophunzirira, malo osadziwika, zofunikira zatsopano. Osadzipatula nokha, koma pangani maubwenzi ndi ophunzira ena, pangani mabwenzi atsopano. Khalani odziletsa, phunzirani kumaliza ndi kugaŵira maphunziro panthaŵi yake. Ndipo, ndithudi, phunzirani luso lomwe lidzakhala lothandiza pambuyo pake mu moyo wodziimira.

2. Udindo watsopano: katswiri

Zovuta za udindo: Pakubwera siteji m'moyo momwe njira zakale zopezera chipambano, kupeza ma marks apamwamba sizingagwire ntchito. Tikamaliza maphunziro athu ndi kupeza ntchito kwa nthawi yoyamba, timakhala ndi udindo wosiyana, ndipo zotsatira zake zimakhala zoopsa kwambiri pa zochita zathu. Tsopano ndikofunikira kuti timange maubwenzi amitundu yosiyanasiyana: ndi oyang'anira, otsogolera, ogwira nawo ntchito, ogwira nawo ntchito, makasitomala. Timayamba kupeza ndalama ndikuphunzira kugawa bajeti, timapanga zolakwika zoyamba. Panthawi imeneyi, ambiri aife timaganiza zopanga banja, zomwe zimafunanso mphamvu, zowonjezera zowonjezera.

Malangizo a Psychologist: Yesani kusintha zoikamo, malamulo a nthawi yophunzira ndi atsopano, akatswiri. Phunzirani kusunga maubwenzi amalonda, kuthetsa mikangano, kuteteza udindo wanu. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti palibe aliyense wa ife amene alibe zolakwa. Komanso, mwa kulakwitsa, timayandikira pafupi ndi cholinga chathu - chitukuko chabwino cha ntchito yatsopano. Phunzirani kupirira kupsinjika komwe kumakhudzana ndi kutsutsidwa, kulemetsa. Limbikitsani luso lanu, pezani chidziwitso ndi luso nokha, mothandizidwa ndi anzanu odziwa zambiri kapena kupita kumaphunziro. Gawani nthawi yanu pakati pa ntchito ndi mbali zina za moyo wanu.

3. Udindo watsopano: amayi kapena abambo

Zovuta za udindo: Makolo sanabadwe. Chinthu choyamba chimene mudzakumane nacho mu udindo watsopano wa amayi kapena abambo ndikofunika kusamalira mwana popanda chidziwitso chokwanira ndi luso. Mwachidziwikire, simungagone mokwanira, simudzakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira ndi mphamvu zophatikiza maudindo osiyanasiyana: makolo ndi okwatirana. Padzakhala ndalama zatsopano.

Malangizo a Psychologist: Mwinamwake chinthu chabwino koposa chimene mungachitire wina ndi mnzake ndicho kugawana mathayo ndi kusamalira mwana pamodzi. Izi zidzathandiza kuti "musachoke" kwathunthu pakusamalira ana, kupeza nthawi yanu komanso malo operekera kudyetsa maganizo abwino. Pang'onopang'ono, mudzaphunzira kupeza chidziwitso chodalirika, chidziwitso cholankhulana ndi mwana chidzawoneka. Khalani omasuka kupempha thandizo kwa achibale, abwenzi, akatswiri - musatenge maudindo onse okhudzana ndi kusamalira mwanayo.

4. Udindo watsopano: wopuma pantchito

Zovuta za udindo: Panthawiyi, njira yachizolowezi ya moyo wathu imawonongedwa, zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku zikusintha. Pakhoza kukhala kumverera kwakusowa kofunikira ndi kusathandiza. Kulumikizana kumachepa. Onjezani ku mavuto azachuma amene amachepetsa mkhalidwe wa moyo, ndipo mudzamvetsetsa chifukwa chake ntchito yatsopanoyi kaŵirikaŵiri imatsogolera anthu ku maganizo opsinjika maganizo ndi opanda chiyembekezo.

Malangizo a Psychologist: Yesani kupeza zokonda zatsopano ndi zikhulupiriro. Pitirizani kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuyang'anira zakudya ndi thanzi. Wonjezerani anthu ocheza nawo, kukumana ndi omwe mumawakonda. Yesetsani kulankhulana ndi ana, adzukulu, achibale ena. Ganizirani zomwe zosangalatsa zatsopano zingakubweretsereni inu ndi mnzanu. Mwinamwake mudalota kukwera kapena kutenga galu mudakali wamng'ono, ndipo tsopano nthawi yawonekera.