Ndimakhala ndi mnzanga m’chipinda chimodzi.
Tinakumana posachedwa, ndendende nthawi yomwe adayima pafupi ndi nyumbayo, yomwe ndidachita lendi ndekha. Tinakambirana naye mfundo zazikulu. Ndipo monga momwe zinakhalira, amakhala ndi moyo womwewo: amagona pafupifupi 23.00, chifukwa amagwiranso ntchito. Ndipo zonse zinali bwino. Pafupifupi mwezi, mwina. Kenako anayamba kugona mochedwa kwambiri, kutchula vuto la kusowa tulo. Ndipo popeza kumveka m'nyumba mwathu komanso m'nyumba yonse kumakhala kodabwitsa, mayendedwe ang'onoang'ono ausiku amamveka mwakachetechete wausiku. Nthawi zambiri ndimavala zotsekera m'makutu. Nthawi zambiri, kuleza mtima kunayamba ndipo ndidatuluka ndikumudzudzula.
Tsopano ndimayesetsa kukhala chete, ndipo tsopano ndikusankha malo opindulitsa kwa ine ndekha: zonse zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe changa chamkati, bata, ndipo kawirikawiri, ndikuganiza za chisankho cholondola. Ndinaganiza zokhala pansi pa tebulo lokambirana ndikukumbutsa za mapangano oyambirira: osapanga phokoso pambuyo pa 23.00. Koma tsopano ndikuganiza zomwe ndingathe kuiwala za izi, osapanga njovu kuchokera ku ntchentche ndikungoyang'ana khalidwe lake (osati chifukwa chodandaula, koma kungokhala osamvetsera, monga ndakhala ndikuchitira nthawi zonse, ku mtendere wake. usiku). Ndiko kuti, ngati ndikufuna kumwa tiyi pakati pausiku, sindingathe kugona, chabwino, panga phokoso kukhitchini ngati akugona)) chabwino, makamaka, pazifukwa zina ndinamamatira ku izi - mirroring - nditatha kuwerenga. buku la Irina Khakamada ( lili ndi nkhani yosiyana pang'ono, komabe, ndikuganiza kuti ikugwira ntchito pano).
Ndiko kuti, ngati zonena zanga sizikukhudza munthu, ndiye bwanji sindituluka mu izi, wina anganene, mikangano, koma ndimangochita monga momwe amachitira kwa ine? Kodi mungapangire chiyani?
Yankho la Mlangizi
Elena S., wophunzira wa University of Practical Psychology
Kuyang'ana ndi njira yololera, koma kuchedwa kwambiri kuti muchite nthawi yomweyo, chiopsezo chokulitsa mikangano ndi mikangano yopusa ndi yayikulu kwambiri. Kenako - mungathe, koma musathamangire.
Sankhani pa chinthu chachikulu chomwe mukupita: kuthetsa vutoli ndi mphamvu, mofulumira, koma zimapweteka. Kapena mokoma mtima, koma ndiutali wosadziwika bwino. Yesani zomwe zili pafupi ndi inu (osati zonse, koma momwe zilili) ndikuwonjezeranso zomwe zingamuthandize bwino.
Ngati mukufuna kukhala okoma mtima, fotokozani mtundu wa ubale womwe mukufuna komanso nthawi yochuluka yomwe mukulolera kulipira. Inde, palibe chomwe chimachitidwa, zonse ziyenera kulengedwa.
Ngati mukufuna kupita mofulumira, konzekerani kukankha ndi kukankha. Kodi mudzakhala okonzeka?
Ngati simungathe kusankha, lembani zabwino ndi zoyipa panjira iliyonse ndikuganizira zam'tsogolo. Lembani zomwe mumapeza.
Pambuyo pake, tikambirana njira zotsatirazi.