Pankhani ya kugonana kwa BDSM, ululu ndi chida chofunikira chokwaniritsa zosangalatsa. Ukapolo, zikwapu ndi kukwapulidwa, njira zopezera mabwenzi ndizochuluka. Momwe mungachitire sadomasochism popanda chiopsezo? Kodi sadomasochist amafunika kumva kuwawa kuti asangalale? Dziwani zambiri za mchitidwe wogonana wovutawu.

Sadomasochism sikutanthauza kugonana kwenikweni. Poyambirira, zimagwirizana ndi umunthu wa munthu payekha. Sadism imakhala ndi kusangalala kuchita zovulaza, pamlingo wakuthupi kapena wamaganizidwe: wachisoni amasangalala - kugonana kapena ayi - kupanga munthu wachitatu kuvutika ndi kumuwona akumva ululu. Ngakhale zachisoni, masochism imakhala ndi mbali yake mukuwawa kwachikondi: masochist amafuna kudziwona kuti akupwetekedwa thupi. Sadomasochism ndi zotsatira za kubwera palimodzi kwa munthu wachisoni ndi masochist, ndipo mwachibadwa zimatanthawuza ubale wa wolamulira ndi wolamulidwa.

Pamene sadomasochism imasonyezedwa pa nkhani ya kugonana, kunyozetsa, kulamulira ndi kugonjera kumagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati ma vectors okondweretsa thupi: okondedwa amafika pachimake pomva ululu. 

Nkhanza zapakamwa ndi nkhanza

Pofuna kupweteka, okonda amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana. Kuzunzika komwe kumabwerako kumatha kukhala kwamalingaliro kapena kwathupi: kunyozedwa ndi kulamula m'nkhaniyi ndi kothandiza ngati kukwapula kapena kukwapula.

Kodi sadomasochism iyenera kubweretsa ululu?

Kwa nthawi yayitali amaganiziridwa kuti ndi mchitidwe wogonana wosagwirizana komanso wolakwika, sadomasochism poyamba imayang'ana zowawa. Mwa demokalase, mtundu uwu wa kugonana kwaufulu umakhala wofewa: ubale wokhawo wolamulira umakhalabe ngati chinthu chofunikira. Ngati sadomasochist sakubweretsa kapena kumva kuzunzika kwakuthupi, amagonjera kapena amaperekedwa chifukwa cha mphamvu zosagwirizana.

Kugonana kofewa kwa BDSM, ndikotheka?

Ovomerezeka a sadomasochist amachita mwachindunji: okonda amakhala mbuye ndi kapolo, ndikugwiritsa ntchito zida zomwe zimasiya mosakayikira za cholinga chawo. Handcuffs, swifts, maunyolo, mbewu zokwera, masks ndi zinthu zomwe ziyenera kuikidwa m'mabowo olamulidwa, nkhaniyo imaonedwa kuti ndi yovuta. Komabe, mitundu ina ya sadomasochism imatha kukhalapo kuti isinthe zosangalatsa: ukapolo, wochitidwa modekha, ukhoza kubweretsa chisangalalo pakugonjera mwachitsanzo. Momwemonso, kugonana mutatseka m'maso kuli ngati mchitidwe wa sadomasochistic poti munthu m'modzi yekha ndiye amatsogolera kuvina, koma sikukhala ndi tanthauzo lolakwika. 

Mofanana ndi fetishist, ndizofala kudabwa za kugonana kwa sadomasochist. Kodi chizoloŵezichi ndi njira yoyesera yomwe ingapezeke mtundu watsopano wa chisangalalo kapena ndi ululu wofunikira kuti sadomasochist amve chisangalalo? M'malo mwake, zonse zimatengera malingaliro omwe ogwirizana nawo omwe amachita sadomasochism amadzipeza okha.

Nthawi zina, SM yofewa ikhoza kukhala njira yokometsera kugonana kwa munthu ngati banja. Pamene okonda amachita sadomasochism yekha, Komano, sikulinso masewera achiwerewere koma njira yowonetsera kugonana kwa awiriwo. Mpaka pano, anthu ena amalephera kulekanitsa chisangalalo cha kugonana ndi ululu. 

Zokhudzana ndi ululu, sadomasochism iyenera kuchitidwa mosamala. Kupweteka koopsa kumatha kusokoneza chisangalalo chogonana, ndipo kupitilira apo, zoopsa zomwe zikubwera potengera thanzi la okonda. Mpaka pano, ndikofunikira kuti ubale wa sadomasochistic ukhazikitsidwe mosamalitsa. Mabanja ena amagwiritsa ntchito njira inayake yapakamwa, yomwe nthawi ina ikayankhulidwa ndi wokonda wolamulidwayo imathetsa nthawi yomweyo kugonana kuti apewe ululu wosapiririka.

Chidziwitso: chilolezo cha anthu awiri omwe ali ndi banja ndi chofunikira chofunikira. Apo ayi, sadomasochism imaponderezedwa ndi malamulo ophwanya malamulo.