Pali nthano mu chikhalidwe chathu kuti akazi amataya chilakolako chawo chogonana pambuyo pa 40-45 ndikuyamba moyo wosungulumwa, wachisoni wopanda mwamuna. N’chifukwa chiyani sizili choncho ndipo n’chifukwa chiyani mkazi wokhwima maganizo amakhala wokongola kwambiri kuposa wachichepere?
Chipembedzo cha unyamata ndi kukongola, chomwe chimayikidwa mwa ife mwa ife ndi mafakitale a mafashoni, cosmetology ndi moyo wathanzi, zimatengera malingaliro oterowo. Koma yang'anani pozungulira. Azimayi pambuyo pa 40 ndi owala, amphamvu, achigololo. Ndipo ambiri aiwo ali ndi satelayiti pafupi. Mzimayi amakhala wopanda chidwi pogonana pokhapokha ngati sakufuna kugonana. Ngati kugonana sikuli pakati pa makhalidwe ake.
Zaka zakuchepera pang'ono pakugonana kwa akazi ndi zaka 30-40. Libido ya mkazi imakula kokha ndi zaka, koma ndi nthawi yachisangalalo yomwe ntchito zina zimabwera patsogolo ndipo palibe mphamvu zokwanira pa moyo wogonana wokwanira. Nthawi zambiri mkazi amapezeka akugwira ntchito mochedwa ku ofesi kapena pabwalo lamasewera ali ndi mwana kuposa pogona ndi mwamuna. Koma pambuyo pa 40 pamabwera tsiku lachiwiri.
Chifukwa chiyani akazi okhwima amakhala okongola kwambiri
Pa 40-45, mkazi wakwaniritsa kale zinthu zake zakuthupi ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, adzizindikira yekha ngati mkazi ndi mayi, ndipo pang'onopang'ono akubwerera ku dziko la zokondweretsa thupi.
Kwa atsikana, kugonana sikofunikira kwenikweni. Akufuna zambiri osati kungogonana ndi munthu. Iwo akuyang’anizana ndi ntchito yokwatira, kukhala ndi ana. Amayika ziyembekezo zambiri zogwirizana ndi wokondedwa wawo. Ndipo kugonana kwabwino kaŵirikaŵiri kumalepheretsedwa ndi malingaliro a mtsikanayo ponena za ngati wokwatirana nayeyo ali wokonzeka kumukwatira, kaya angakhoze kusamalira banja.
Mkazi wokhwima maganizo amaona kugonana kukhala chinthu chamtengo wapatali mwa iko kokha. Amafunikira chisangalalo chathupi. Palibenso. Iye anali atakwatiwa kale, monga lamulo. Nthawi zambiri, ali kale ndi ana, maziko azinthu amamangidwa, abwenzi ndi ntchito zimakwaniritsa zosowa zina. Palibe zoyembekeza zogwirizana zomwe zimabweretsa kusamvana mu ubale wogonana. Choncho, moyo wogonana ndi wotheka ndi kumizidwa kwathunthu, kukhalapo ndi kudzipereka.
2. Amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana komanso amakhala ndi chilakolako
Ndi zaka, kugonana kwa mkazi kumakula. Izi zinatsimikiziridwa ndi amayi onse 45+ omwe ndinawafunsa. Pamene mkazi ali ndi chidziwitso chochuluka chogonana, amakulitsa chidwi chake, amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana. Kugonana kwabwino kumafuna kupezeka kwathunthu mu mphindi «pano ndi pano», ndipo izi ndi zabwino kwa akazi okhwima chifukwa cha kusakhalapo kwa malingaliro akunja ndi kukangana.
Azimayi amawopa zaka, chifukwa zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kutaya kosalephereka kwa kukongola kwakunja. Khungu limazirala, minofu imataya kamvekedwe kake, makwinya amawonekera pankhope, tsitsi limasanduka imvi. Iwo amaganiza kuti ndi kutayika kwa kukongola iwo adzakhala osakhudzika.
Amakhalanso ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi zochitika zomwe zinayambitsa maonekedwe a zolakwika zakunja - ngozi, ntchito. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, chifukwa cha zovuta zochepa, iwo eni amakana kugonana.
Amatha kukopana, kunyengerera mwamawu kapena mosalankhula, kuchitapo kanthu pogonana
Ndikufuna kukutsimikizirani. Sikuti aliyense "amakonda ndi maso awo." Zowoneka zokha. Palinso ma kinesthetics omwe "amakonda ndi khungu", tactile zomverera ndizofunikira kwa iwo. Pali anthu omvera omwe "amakonda ndi makutu awo", ndipo pali anthu omwe kukopa kumapangidwa ndi fungo.
Amuna awa sangakuwonongeni chifukwa cha makwinya kapena cellulite. Amasamala kwambiri za momwe mumanunkhiza, momwe mumayankhira kukhudza ndi kukhudza, kapena momwe mawu anu amamvekera.
Ngati mwamuna ali ndi mphamvu zogwira ntchito zonse, amatha kuyamikira kwambiri kugonana kwa mkazi wokhwima. Koma ndi amuna otere omwe timawatcha achigololo ndipo tikufuna kukhala okondedwa athu.
3. Ali ndi chidwi chochuluka, chikhumbo ndi kuchitapo kanthu
Mkazi wokhwima amakhala ndi zochitika zambiri pamoyo. Iye anali muzochitika zosiyanasiyana, analakwitsa, anaganiza. Iye wakonza kwambiri zovuta zake ndi zolephera zake. Choncho, mu khalidwe lake logonana pali ufulu wambiri komanso manyazi ochepa. Limafotokoza mwachindunji zosowa ndi zikhumbo. Akhoza kukopana, kunyengerera mwamawu kapena mosalankhula, kuchitapo kanthu pogonana. Ndipo khalidwe lake mu kugonana ndi zambiri «nyama», ufulu ndi zachilengedwe.
Mitundu yambiri yamakhalidwe ogonana imamupatsa mwayi wochuluka wofunidwa ndikuzindikira pakugonana, komanso kupeza bwenzi loyenera kugonana nalo kuti akhale ndi ubale wabwino komanso wosangalala.
4. Ali ndi ufulu wochuluka posankha bwenzi.
Ufulu wamkati ndi wakunja, komanso kuti uli pachimake cha kugonana, umalola mkazi 45+ kuti aganizire amuna kuyambira zaka 25 monga ogonana nawo mpaka zaka zomwe mwamuna amakhalabe ndi potency.
Nthawi zambiri okwatirana amasweka mwamunayo akafika zaka 40-45. Chifukwa chofala kwambiri ndizovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Nthawi zina amuna amapita kwa atsikana. Nthawi zambiri, akazi amapita kwa amuna achichepere.
Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi psychotherapist, ndimamvetsera nkhani zambiri zamakasitomala ndipo ndimadziwa nthawi zambiri pomwe bwenzi lachinsinsi la mwamuna ndi wamkulu zaka 10-20 kuposa mkazi wake ndi iyemwini. Chifukwa chake chiri mumayendedwe achilengedwe a amuna ndi akazi.
Kugonana ndi njira yomwe mumapatsa wokondedwa wanu chikondi ndikuchilandira. Kugonana ndi kayendedwe ka moyo
Kugonana kwa mwamuna kumafika pachimake pakati pa zaka 25 ndi 30 zakubadwa. Chiwopsezo chachikulu cha kugonana kwa amayi ndi zaka 45-55 zisanachitike. Chifukwa chake, mnzake wa mnzake nthawi zina amasiya kukhutiritsa mkazi wokhwima pakugonana, ndipo amapeza mnzake wachinyamata yemwe msinkhu wake wa libido ndi wapamwamba kuposa wake.
Ngati kukopa kwakunja kwa mkazi kuli kofunikira kwa mwamuna, amataya chilakolako chogonana ndi bwenzi la msinkhu womwewo ndi msinkhu ndipo amapeza mkazi wamng'ono. Koma kawirikawiri, ngakhale kuti msinkhu wa kugonana kwa mwamuna wa 45-50 ndi mkazi wa 25 ndi wofanana, umakhala wocheperapo kusiyana ndi wa mkazi wa 45-50 ndi bwenzi lake laling'ono.
5. Ndi okhwima m’maganizo
Kugonana kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi maubwenzi ambiri, ndi malingaliro a okondedwa. Mkazi wa msinkhu wokhwima ndi wokhwima maganizo kwambiri, choncho, ambiri, amapanga maubwenzi ogwirizana. Ali ndi kumvetsetsa kochulukirapo, kuvomereza, kukhululuka, chifundo, chikondi. Ndipo ambiri maganizo maziko a ubwenzi kugonana ndi zofunika kwambiri.
Malire onse ali pamitu yathu. Azimayi ena amati: “Ndingapeze kuti mwamuna wabwino? Iwo kulibe." Koma kwa mwamuna, kugonana sikofunikira kwenikweni kuposa kwa mkazi. Nthawi zambiri tcherani khutu ku momwe amuna amakuwonerani, kuyankha kuyamikira, musataye nthawi yomweyo kuyesa kudziwana.
Yang'anani pa munthu amene ali patsogolo panu, mumumvereni. Akuyang'ananso munthu woyenera kugonana naye ndipo amasangalala kwambiri akampeza.
"Ngati zinangochitika mwangozi, ndiye kuti mumayenda ngati kuti mwaphimbidwa ndi icing ya shuga," mnzanga, mayi wazaka zopitilira 45 wosawoneka bwino, adandiuza posachedwa. Kuchita mwangozi mu kugonana ndi chinsinsi cha chisangalalo muzinthu zina za maubwenzi.
Palibe manyazi kusonyeza kugonana kwanu. Kugonana ndi njira yomwe mumapatsa wokondedwa wanu chikondi chanu ndikulandira chikondi chake, momwe mumasinthira mphamvu. Kugonana ndi kayendedwe ka moyo.