Kugonana: chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kukambirana ndi mwana wanu

Ngati pali funso lomwe silili lophweka nthawi zonse kuliyankha monga kholo, ndi mwana wake, mosakayika ndilo kugonana. Kuopa kusalankhula bwino za izi, kusakhala wovomerezeka, kumulimbikitsa, kusamasuka ndi mafunso apamtima awa ...

Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe simungayerekeze kulankhula za kugonana ndi mwana wanu. Koma zingakhale bwino kuti munthu adziyesere yekha kuti awagonjetse, chifukwa kholo liri ndi gawo lofunikira pakuphunzitsa mwanayo maganizo ndi kugonana. othandizira "akatswiri", zomwe nthawi zambiri zizichitika kusukulu.

Zindikirani kuti tikulankhula pano mwaufulumaphunziro amalingaliro ndi kugonana, chifukwa ichi chimakhudza zinthu zambiri, monga kudzichepetsa, kudzidalira, kulemekeza ena, kuvomereza, kugonana, maonekedwe a thupi, malingaliro, maubwenzi achikondi, moyo wabanja, ndi zina zotero. Nazi zifukwa zabwino, mwatsatanetsatane, kuti kholo likambirane ndi mwana wawo mitu yonseyi.

Kukula kwa psyche: mwana amafunsa mafunso ali ndi zaka zingati?

Chifukwa chiyani izi, izi ndi chiyani, izi zikutanthauza chiyani ... Pali zaka, nthawi zambiri pakati pa zaka 2 ndi 4, pamene mwanayo amayamba kufunsa mafunso. Ndipo gawo la kugonana ndi ubwenzi silinasiyidwe! Kuchokera “bwanji atsikana alibe mbolo?” pa “kukhala ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chiyani?"Kudutsa"ndikakula ndidzakhala ndi mabere?", Mafunso a ana okhudza kugonana nthawi zambiri amadabwitsa makolo, akuda nkhawa kuwawona akudabwa aang'ono za mtundu uwu wa chinthu.

Ndipo chikhumbo ichi chofuna kudziwa, chidwi chosayembekezerekachi, nthawi zambiri chimapitirira mpaka kusukulu ya pulayimale kapena kusukulu ya sekondale, makamaka ngati mwana yemwe wakhala wachinyamata sanalandire mayankho a mafunso ake.

Bwino kuyeserayankhani, ndi mawu oyenerera msinkhu wa mwanayo, m’malo momusiya yekha ndi mafunso ake amene pamapeto pake adzaweruza “zochititsa manyazi” ndi zonyansa, popeza palibe amene angafune kumuyankha.

Chidwi chapamtima chogonanachi ndi chovomerezeka, ndipo sichitsutsana kwenikweni ndi ulemu kapena kudzichepetsa. Titha kukhala achidwi komanso aulemu, achidwi komanso odzichepetsa, akutsindika Maëlle Challan Belval, mlangizi wamabanja komanso wolemba bukuli "Yesetsani kuyankhula za izo! Kudziwa kulankhula za chikondi ndi kugonana ndi ana anu”, Lofalitsidwa ndi Interéditions.

Chidwi cha kugonana: Chifukwa chakuti sukulu siili nthawi zonse

Monga kholo lomwe silili omasuka ndi mafunso amenewa, tingayesedwe kudzilimbitsa mtima mwa kudziuza tokha kuti sukulu idzathetsa nkhani ya kugonana, ndipo mosakayika idzachita bwino kuposa ife eni. .

Tsoka ilo, izi sizikhala choncho kawirikawiri. Ngati sukulu ili ndi mbali yochita m’maphunziro a maganizo ndi kugonana kwa mwana, nthaŵi zonse siimachita monga momwe munthu angaganizire. Kusowa nthawi, ogwira ntchito oyenerera komanso odzipereka kuthana ndi mitu imeneyi, kapenanso kukayika kwa aphunzitsi ena, kungakhale chopinga.

Ndipotu, maphunziro okhudzana ndi kugonana akhala akugwiritsidwa ntchito ku France kuyambira 2001. Koma iyi nthawi zambiri amangokhala mafunso a biology ndi anatomy, mimba, kulera ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana (STI), HIV/AIDS patsogolo. Ndipo potsirizira pake amafika mochedwa kwambiri m’moyo wa mwanayo.

Zotsatira: Ngati ili ndilo gwero lokha la chidziwitso kwa mwana wazaka zapakati pa khumi, maphunziro awa okhudzana ndi kugonana angathe kuchita. kugwirizanitsa kugonana ndi chinthu chonyansa, choopsa, "choopsa". Ndiponso, kaŵirikaŵiri kumakhala kovuta kwa wachichepere kufunsa mafunso apamtima pamaso pa anzake onse a m’kalasi powopa kunyozedwa.

Momwe mungayankhulire ndi ana za kugonana: tiyenera kutchula kuti tikhalepo, kufunsa ndi kuteteza

Kaduwa kakang'ono, zezette, kitty, kiki, kamwana ... Ngati mawu awa "wokongola"Kodi, m'banja, angagwiritsiridwe ntchito kutchula mkazi kapena mwamuna, komabe zofunika kutchula zinthu momwe zilili.

Chifukwa kutchula dzina sikumangopangitsa kuti zikhale zotheka kusiyanitsa (posiyanitsa zigawo za anatomical, osati kuyika matako ndi vulvae mudengu lomwelo), komanso kuti zikhalepo.

Mtsikana yemwe sanamvepo mawu enieni okhudza kugonana kwake amakhala pachiswe kuti asagwiritse ntchito mawu alionse m’malo mongoganiza kuti mawu akuti mwana amene anagwiritsa ntchito mpaka nthawi imeneyo, kapenanso kuipitsitsa, akuwagwiritsa ntchito. mawu otukwana ochokera m'mawu aku koleji, osati nthawi zonse aulemu kwambiri (makamaka "kamwana). Ditto kwa mnyamata, yemwenso ayenera kudziwa kuti mboloyo ndi mbolo, osati "tambala".

Komanso, mfundo kutchula zinthu kumathandizanso kuti mwanayo amvetsetse, kufunsa akuluakulu za machitidwe ena, zodetsa nkhawa zapamtima kapena mikhalidwe ina yachipongwe.

Motero Maëlle Challan Belval akufotokoza nkhani yachisoni ya mtsikana wina amene sankadziwa kuti kukomoka kwa anyamata kunali kotani, ndipo amene anaulula, ataphunzira, kuti n’zimene anamva atakhala pamiyendo ya dalaivala wa basi. Mlanduwu mwachionekere sunasiyire pamenepo ndipo womalizayo adayenera kuyankha chifukwa cha zomwe adachita, pomwe mwanayo adatetezedwa.

Choncho ndikofunikira kutidziwitsani mwanayo kangapo pa phunziro lomwelo kuti agwirizane ndi msinkhu wa mwanayo, zimene angathe kuzimvetsa ndi zimene ayenera kudziwa malinga ndi msinkhu wake. Zomwe zimaperekedwa kwa mwana zokhudzana ndi kugonana ziyenera kukhala choncho zowonjezera, zowonjezera, zowonjezera pamene mwanayo akukula, mofanana ndi kumugulira zovala zatsopano.

Kuphunzira za kugonana kwa ana: amadziwa kale zinthu zina, koma molakwika

Wailesi yakanema, kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti ndi zolaula, mabuku, nthabwala, mabwalo amasewera… Kugonana kungalowe m'moyo wa mwana m'njira zambiri. Chifukwa chake, ana nthawi zambiri amavumbulutsidwa msanga kuposa momwe makolo angazindikire, omwe angayambe kuwawona ngati “anthu osalakwa”.

Pozindikira kukula kwa chidziwitso cha mwana wake, tingadziuze tokha kuti amadziwa kale zambiri, mwina mochuluka kwambiri, ndipo chifukwa chake sitiyenera kuwonjezera.

Tsoka ilo, monga Maëlle Challan Belval akunenera, kuwululidwa sikutanthauza kudziwitsidwa, kapena ayi zabwino adziwa. "Ana sadziwa chifukwa tinkaganiza kuti amadziwa”, Akufotokoza mwachidule katswiriyu m’buku lake pankhaniyo. Ochepera asiyira mwana wawo chothandizira pophunzitsa choyenera dzina lake, ndiyeno kambiranani naye ngati angafune, zoulutsira nkhani zambiri zomwe angakumane nazo sizingakhale ndi masomphenya enieni, aulemu, athunthu komanso osalakwa a kugonana. “Vanishi yamaliseche, yomwe imafooketsa makolo kapena aphunzitsi, nthawi zambiri imakhala yobisala", Deplores Maëlle Challan Belval, yemwe amapempha makolo kuti asataye mtima pakudziwitsa.

Momwe mungafotokozere za kugonana kwa ana: kuunikira popanda kukakamiza

Monga kholo, mukhoza kuopa kuti kukambirana ndi mwana wanu za kugonana kungawalimbikitse kuchitapo kanthu, "amapereka malingaliro".

Malinga ndi kafukufuku waku America kuyambira Juni 2019 wofalitsidwa mu "JAMA”Ndipo nditatsatira pafupifupi achinyamata 12 azaka zapakati pa 500 mpaka 9, akumalankhula za kugonana ndi ana awo. imalimbikitsa chitetezo chabwino, ndipo sichimapititsa patsogolo msinkhu wawo woyamba. Ana amene anapindula ndi kukambitsirana momasuka, kumbali ina, amakhala ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito kondomu ndi kukhala oona mtima kwa makolo awo ponena za zochitika zawo zakugonana. Kukambitsirana kwa kugonana kunali ndi phindu lalikulu pamene kunachitika asanakwanitse zaka 14, ndipo pamene kunatenga maola osachepera a 10.

Kumbali ina, maphunziro okhudza kugonana ndi kugonana adzakhala ndi zotsatira za pangitsa mwana kuganiza, kumuthandiza kusankha, kudziyika yekha, kukhwima ... Mwachidule, kukhala munthu wamkulu waulere, wodalirika komanso wodziwa zambiri.

Kochokera ndi zina zowonjezera:

• "Yesetsani kuyankhula za izo! Kudziwa kulankhula za chikondi ndi kugonana ndi ana anu”, Maëlle Challan Belval, Éditions Interéditions