Kukanakhala kosavuta chotani nanga kukhala ndi moyo ngati wina wamkulu, wanzeru ndi wodziŵa zonse atithetsera mavuto athu onse ndi kutipatsa “piritsi lamatsenga” lachisangalalo. Koma tsoka! Palibe psychotherapist m'modzi, shaman, blogger, mphunzitsi, wogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu amatha kudziwa motsimikiza momwe tingathetsere mwachangu zovuta zonse komanso njira yomwe tingasankhe kukwaniritsa maloto athu. Chifukwa chiyani palibe njira zosavuta zothetsera nkhani zovuta?
Kufunafuna Kholo Lodziwa Zonse
Uphungu wabwino wochokera kwa alendo omwe akuwoneka kuti akusamala za tsogolo lanu lowala ungakhale poizoni weniweni kwa inu. Amatisokeretsa.
“Uyenera kukhala wachikazi kwambiri! Tulutsani mphamvu zanu zachikazi, lekani kukhala "mwamuna wopambana," ophunzitsa achinyengo amati, akutikonzanso mwakachetechete.
“Khulupirirani chilengedwe chochuluka! Khalani mukuyenda. Lekani kuchita mantha, khalani ndi zolinga zapamwamba! Muyenera kuganiza zazikulu, "tikumva kuchokera kwa akatswiri osiyanasiyana. Ndipo timasiya mwachilungamo kupenda chuma chathu chamkati, kutenga kachilombo ndi munthu wina «lalikulu loto».
Koma kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo kamphindi kuti akatswiriwa amasankha bwanji kuti izi ndi zomwe mukufunikira? Dzifunseni nokha mafunso: kodi akuwululira zokhumba zawo kwa inu? Kodi anthuwa akudziwa momwe angakhalire ndi moyo momwe amakufunirani? Ndipo ngakhale angakwanitse, amadziŵa bwanji kuti nanunso mudzakwezeka ndi kukhala mosangalala?
Dziwani nokha omwe akudziwa bwino momwe mungakhalire: inu kapena wowongolera?
Zoonadi, lingaliro lakuti munthu wina angabwere kudzatiuza za chimene ife tiri ndi mmene tiyenera kukhalira moyo wathu ndi loyesa kwambiri. Kulemera kwakukulu kwa malingaliro a munthu! Koma kwa kanthawi, mpaka tinatuluka pakhomo. Ndipo apo ife tikuyembekezera kale kukhumudwa ndi kuvutika maganizo, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati malipiro a chikhumbo chofuna kusintha moyo wachiwiri, mofulumira komanso motsika mtengo, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - musavutike komanso musavutike.
M'zaka zanga zaukadaulo, sindinakumanepo ndi munthu m'modzi yemwe "angadye" lingaliro la munthu wina momwe angakhalire ndi choti achite, ndiye kuti asatengedwe ndi poizoni. Pamene mukuyang'ana mphunzitsi wodziwa zonse, mumamuyang'ana bwanji? Kodi muli ndi zaka zingati mukakhala «pafupi» munthu uyu?
Monga lamulo, muli pafupi ndi iye - mwana wamng'ono yemwe adawona kholo lalikulu ndi lamphamvu lomwe tsopano lidzakusamalirani ndikusankha chilichonse. Sankhani nokha amene akudziwa bwino momwe mungakhalire moyo wanu? Ndinu kapena kondakitala?
Poizoni «mankhwala»
"Mapiritsi Amatsenga" amasokoneza ndikusokoneza mawu anu amkati. Koma akuyesera kukutsogolerani, muyenera kungomumvera. Kupatula apo, sizodabwitsa kuti chithandizo ndi njira yobisika yomwe imathandiza wothandizira kuzindikira malo omwe akhungu, kudziwa zokhumba zake ndikuzindikira zomwe sanakwaniritse.
Khulupirirani ine: changu cha malingaliro a anthu ena chimangowoneka ngati chinthu chosavulaza. Koma kungayambitse matenda ovutika maganizo, maganizo ofuna kudzipha, ndi zinthu zina zovuta pamoyo.
Izi zimakhudzidwa makamaka ndi anthu omwe, chifukwa cha zoopsa zosiyanasiyana zam'mbuyomu, sanapange chithandizo chamkati ndi zosefera zawo, zomwe zimatsimikizira "chabwino ndi choipa."
Kufikira maloto anu
Dziko lapansi lakhala kale zonse zomwe timafunikira komanso zofunika. Koma nthawi zina sitingathe kupeza zomwe tikufuna moyipa chifukwa timatsekereza maloto athu. Ndipo pali zifukwa ziwiri.
- Choyamba, sitimvetsa bwinobwino zilakolako zathu zenizeni ndi makhalidwe athu.
- Chachiwiri, sitidziwa nthawi zonse momwe tingaphatikizire maloto athu ndi zomwe zikuchitika masiku ano.
Ndikupatsani chitsanzo. Mkazi amafuna moona mtima kumanga ubale wabwino, wapamtima ndi mwamuna, koma sangathe kuchita izi, chifukwa m'moyo wake panalibe chidziwitso chomanga ubale wogwirizana. Anazoloŵera kudzimva kuti akusiyidwa ndi wosafunidwa. Ndipo kotero, pamene mwamuna akuwonekera m'chizimezime, iye sadziwa momwe angachitire naye. Amasiya kukhudza izi: samamuzindikira kapena kuthawa.
Zomwezo zimachitikanso ndi ndalama. Wina amawapeza mosavuta, chifukwa mkati mwake ali wotsimikiza kuti akhoza kuwapeza, "sadzalangidwa" kapena kukanidwa chifukwa cha izi. Ndipo wina samawona zitseko zomwe mungalowemo ndikupeza ndalama zomwe mukufuna. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa pamaso pake - zoipa zitsanzo mbiri ya banja. Kapena pali zochitika zamkati zomwe anthu olemera ndi oipa, kuti nthawi zonse adzalangidwa chifukwa chofuna kukhala ndi zambiri. Ndipo pali zitsanzo zambiri zoterozo.
Chinsinsi chanu
Kuti musinthe china chake m'moyo wanu, muyenera kuwononga nthawi ndikuchita khama. Ichi ndiye chachikulu «piritsi lamatsenga»!
Ngati mukufuna kuchepetsa thupi ndikutulutsa bulu wanu, idyani bwino ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi 50 patsiku pafupipafupi. Ngati mukufuna kuphunzira chinenero, ganyu mphunzitsi, onerani mafilimu ndi mawu omasulira.
Kuti thupi limangidwenso, minofu itenge mawonekedwe osiyana, kapena neural network yatsopano imapangidwa mu ubongo, munthu ayenera kuchita mogwirizana ndi ndondomeko ya "Nthawi + Yoyeserera".
Ndipo lamulo lomweli limagwiranso ntchito pakusintha kwa psyche. Ngati munthu wakhala kwa zaka 25 ndi kudzimva kuti iye si wofunika komanso wosafunikira, ndiye kuti zonse zomwe amachita zidzawoneka ngati zopanda pake. Ndipo sipangakhale nkhani ya phindu lililonse la madola miliyoni ndi kutchuka kwapadziko lonse komwe kungapezeke pambuyo pa ola limodzi lantchito malinga ndi dongosolo la guru.
Ndi mphamvu yathu kuphunzira kumva zilakolako zathu zenizeni ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti zitheke.
Ndipo ngakhale maphunziro a tsiku, sabata kapena mwezi, sangathe kusintha izi. Izi zitenga chaka chabwino kwambiri. Koma kawirikawiri, kunena zoona, kuti musinthe maganizo anu, muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kwa zaka zingapo.
Kuphatikiza apo, sizichitika kuti chilichonse m'moyo wathu chimakhala chabwino ngakhale titalandira chithandizo chanthawi yayitali komanso chokhazikika. Kumbali ina, palibe chinthu chonga kukhala woipa nthawi zonse. Sindinaonepo munthu ngakhale mmodzi amene angakhalebe wosangalala nthaŵi zonse kapena kumva kuwawa kosaleka m’maganizo, wopanda chiyembekezo.
Timatopa, timakumana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi ukalamba, timakumana maso ndi maso ndi mavuto akunja, a dziko. Zonsezi zimakhudza chikhalidwe chathu. Ndipo n’zosatheka kupeza chiyerekezo kamodzi kokha! Koma zili m’manja mwathu kuphunzira kumva zokhumba zathu zenizeni ndi kuchita chilichonse chimene tingathe kuti zitheke.