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"Mwana wanga wamkazi ankaganiza kuti tinabadwa oyera komanso kuti tinali akuda pamene tinali kukula ..."
Umboni wa Maryam, 42, ndi Paloma, 10
Ndinatenga Paloma msuweni wanga atamwalira. Paloma anali atakwanitsa zaka zitatu. Pamene anali wamng’ono, ankaganiza kuti munabadwa woyera ndipo munakula wakuda. Anali wotsimikiza kuti khungu lake lidzawoneka ngati langa pambuyo pake. Anakhumudwa kwambiri nditamufotokozera kuti sizinali choncho. Ndinamuuza za kusamvana, makolo anga, banja lathu, mbiri yake. Anazimvetsa bwino kwambiri. Anandiuza tsiku lina "Ndikhoza kukhala woyera kunja, koma wakuda mu mtima mwanga." Posachedwapa, anandiuza kuti “chofunika ndi chimene chili mumtima”.. Zosayimitsidwa !
Mofanana ndi atsikana onse, amafuna zimene alibe. Paloma ali ndi tsitsi lolunjika ndi maloto akukhala ndi zingwe, zowonjezera, tsitsi lodzitukumula "monga mtambo", monga hairstyle ya afro yomwe ndinali nayo kwakanthawi. Amaona mphuno yanga yokongola kwambiri. M’mayankhulidwe ake, m’mawu ake, amafanana kwambiri ndi ine. M'chilimwe, onse atafufuzidwa, timamutenga kuti akhale amtundu wosakanikirana ndipo si zachilendo kuti anthu aziganiza kuti ndi mwana wanga wamkazi wondibala!
Tinakhazikika ku Marseille komwe ndinayang'ana sukulu yogwirizana ndi zosowa zake, ndi mbiri yake yovuta kwambiri. Iye ali pasukulu ya zosiyanasiyana kwambiri zimene zimagwiritsa ntchito Freinet pedagogy, ndi kuphunzira kuti atengere mwana aliyense, ndi makalasi okonzedwa ndi mlingo wapawiri, kumene ana amapatsidwa mphamvu, kuphunzira mwachilungamo paokha ndi pa liwiro lawo. . Zimagwirizana ndi maphunziro omwe ndimamupatsa ndipo zimandigwirizanitsa ndi sukulu, zomwe ine ndekha ndinkadana nazo. Chilichonse chikuyenda bwino, ali ndi ana ochokera m'mitundu yonse. Koma ndimamukonzekeretsa pang'ono kupita ku koleji, kwa mafunso omwe angafunsidwe kwa iye, pamalingaliro omwe atha kumva.
Pali nkhani zambiri zokhudza kusankhana mitundu, mmene mtundu wa khungu ungadziwire mmene munthu angachitire. Ndimamuuza kuti ngati mayi wakuda, mwina ndidzayang'aniridwa mosiyana. Timalankhula za chilichonse, utsamunda, George Floyd, chilengedwe… Kwa ine, ndikofunikira kumufotokozera zonse, palibe cholakwika. Zimene ndimakumana nazo ndi Paloma n’zosiyana kwambiri ndi zimene ndinakumana nazo ndi mayi anga azungu. Amayenera kupita kutsogolo nthawi zonse, kunditeteza, kuyang'anizana ndi malingaliro atsankho. Lero, sindikudziwa ngati ndichifukwa chakuti Paloma ali ndi khungu lopepuka, ngati mapazi anga asanu ndi limodzi ndi mutu wanga wometedwa womwe umakakamiza, zomwe zimalamula ulemu, ngati chifukwa cha kusiyanasiyana kwa Marseille, koma zikuyenda bwino. “
“Ndimaona ngati nzosavuta kwa ana anga, poyerekeza ndi zimene ndinakumana nazo ndili mwana. “
Umboni wa Pierre, wazaka 37, bambo wa Lino, wazaka 13, Numa, wazaka 10 ndi Rita, wazaka 8
Ndili mwana, anthu ankangoganiza kuti ndine woleredwa ndi makolo ena. Nthawi zonse kunali koyenera kufotokoza kuti ndinalidi mwana wa abambo anga, chifukwa ndi oyera. Titapita kokagula zinthu limodzi, bambo anga anayenera kunena kuti ndikupita nawo. Sizinali zachilendo kuti anthu azinditsatira mozungulira sitolo kapena kuyang'ana mosasamala. Pamene tinapita ku Brazil, kumene amayi amachokera, atate anayenera kutsimikiziranso kuti ndife kholo. Zinali zotopetsa. Ndinakulira m'malo olemera, osasokonezeka kwenikweni. Nthaŵi zambiri ndinali ndekha wakuda pasukulu yanga. Ndinamva mawu ambiri a m'malire, olembedwa ndi "oh koma inu, sizili zofanana". Ndinali wosiyana ndipo mawu awa ayenera kutengedwa ngati chiyamikiro. Nthawi zambiri ndimanena, mwanthabwala, kuti nthawi zina ndimakhala ndi malingaliro akuti "wonyenga", woyera mu thupi lakuda.
Ndili ndi malingaliro akuti ndi zosiyana kwa ana anga, ma blondes ang'onoang'ono atatu! Palibe mochulukira kuganiziridwa kwa kukhazikitsidwa mwanjira imeneyo. Anthu angadabwe, atha kukhala ngati "hey, samawoneka ofanana", koma ndi momwemo. Ndimamva chidwi tikakhala tonse pa cafe ya m'mphepete mwa msewu ndipo m'modzi amanditcha adadi. Koma zimandichititsa kuseka. Ndipo ndimaseweranso: Ndinaphunzira kuti mwana wanga wamkulu akuvutitsidwa kusukulu. Ndinapita kukamtenga tsiku lina nditachoka ku koleji. Ndi afro yanga, ma tattoo anga, mphete zanga, zinali ndi zotsatira zake. Kuyambira pamenepo, anawo amusiya yekha. Chakutalilaho, Lino ambile ngwenyi, ngweji kwivwanga kuwaha kushimutwila ngwenyi: “Ngunashinganyeka ngwami vali nakuzachila hamwe namuchima wami wakushipilitu”. Tanthauzo: amisala atsankho awa. Sindinayankhe kwambiri panthawiyo, kanali koyamba kuti andiuze zinthu ngati izi, zidandidabwitsa. Ayenera kumva zinthu kusukulu kapena kwina kulikonse ndipo ingakhale nkhani, yodetsa nkhaŵa kwa iye.
Ana anga ena aŵiri akukhulupirira kuti ndi osiyana mafuko, monga ine, pamene ali ablond ndi osakondera! Amagwirizana kwambiri ndi chikhalidwe cha ku Brazil, akufuna kulankhula Chipwitikizi ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo kuvina, makamaka mwana wanga wamkazi. Kwa iwo, Brazil ndi Carnival, nyimbo, kuvina nthawi zonse. Sanalakwe kwenikweni… Makamaka popeza anazolowera kuona amayi akuvina paliponse, ngakhale kukhitchini. Kotero ndikuyesera kupereka cholowa chapawiri ichi kwa iwo, kuti ndiwaphunzitse iwo Chipwitikizi. Tidayenera kupita ku Brazil chilimwechi, koma mliri wadutsa kumeneko. Ulendowu ukhalabe pa pulogalamu. “
“Ndinafunikira kuphunzira kukongoletsa tsitsi la mwana wanga wamkazi. “
Umboni wa Frédérique, wazaka 46, mayi wa Fleur, wazaka 13.
Ndakhala ku London kwa zaka zopitirira makumi awiri, ndipo Fleur anabadwira kumeneko. Ndiwamtundu wosakanikirana ndi abambo ake omwe ndi Chingerezi ndi Scottish, ochokera ku Caribbean, ochokera ku Saint Lucia. Choncho ndinafunika kuphunzira kukongoletsa tsitsi lachilengedwe la msungwana wanga. Osati zophweka! Poyambirira, ndimayesa zinthu kuti zidyetse ndi kuzisokoneza, zomwe sizinali zoyenera nthawi zonse. Ndinapempha uphungu kwa anzanga akuda, ndinayang'ananso m'masitolo apadera a m'dera langa kuti ndidziwe zomwe ndingagwiritse ntchito pa tsitsili. Ndipo ndikuvomereza, ndinayeneranso kuwongolera, monga makolo ambiri. Masiku ano, ali ndi zizolowezi zake, mankhwala ake ndipo amadzipangira yekha tsitsi.
Tikukhala m’chigawo cha London komwe kuli mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zikhalidwe ndi zipembedzo. Sukulu ya Fleur ndi yosakanikirana kwambiri, pamakhalidwe komanso chikhalidwe. Anzanga apamtima a mwana wanga wamkazi ndi a Japan, Scottish, Caribbean ndi English. Amadya kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake, amazindikira zomwe amakonda. Sindinamvepo tsankho pano ndi mwana wanga wamkazi. Zitha kukhala chifukwa cha kusakanikirana kwa mzinda, dera langa kapena kuyesetsa komwe kumapangidwa, komanso kusukulu. Chaka chilichonse, pa nthawi ya "Mwezi wa Black History", ophunzira amaphunzira, kuchokera kusukulu ya pulayimale, ukapolo, ntchito ndi moyo wa olemba akuda, nyimbo. Chaka chino, Ufumu wa Britain ndi atsamunda a Chingelezi ali pa pulogalamuyo, nkhani yomwe imasokoneza mwana wanga wamkazi!
Ndi gulu la "Black Lives Matter", Fleur adagwedezeka kwambiri ndi nkhaniyi. Iye anapanga zojambula kuthandizira kayendetsedwe kake, akumva nkhawa. Timakambirana zambiri kunyumba, ndi mnzanga nayenso, yemwe amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi nkhaniyi.
Munali m’kati mwa maulendo athu obwerera ku France pamene ndinawona maganizo atsankho onena za mwana wanga wamkazi, koma, mwamwayi, zinali zongopeka chabe. Posachedwapa, Fleur adadabwa kuwona m'nyumba yabanja chifaniziro chachikulu cha mkwati wakuda, wantchito, atavala magolovesi oyera. Anandifunsa ngati zinali zachibadwa kukhala ndi zimenezi kunyumba. Ayi, ayi, ndipo nthawi zonse zimandikwiyitsa. Ndinauzidwa kuti sikunali kwenikweni kwanjiru kapena kusankhana mitundu, kuti kukongoletsa kotereku kukanakhala m’mafashoni. Uwu ndi mkangano womwe sindinaupezepo wokhutiritsa, koma sindinayesebe kuyifikira mutu wa mutuwo. Mwina Fleur angayerekeze, pambuyo pake… ”
Mafunso ndi Sidonie Sigrist