Njira yosweka ndi yosavuta: bwerezani zomwezo mobwerezabwereza popanda kusokonezedwa ndi zifukwa. Ana onse amadziwa bwino njira iyi, ndi nthawi yoti makolo azidziwanso bwino!
Mwachitsanzo. Tsiku lotentha lachilimwe. Annika wazaka 4 amapita kukagula zinthu ndi amayi ake.
Annika: Amayi ndigulireni ayisikilimu
Amayi: Ndakugulirani kale lero.
Annika: Koma ndikufuna ayisikilimu
Amayi: Kudya ayisikilimu wambiri ndi kovulaza, mudzagwira chimfine
Annika: Amayi, ndikufuna mwachangu ayisikilimu!
Amayi: Kwada, tiyenera kupita kunyumba.
Annika: Chabwino, amayi, ndigulireni ayisikilimu, chonde!
Amayi: Chabwino, kupatula…
Kodi Annika anachita bwanji? Anangonyalanyaza zokangana za amayi ake. M'malo mokambirana kuchuluka kwa ayisikilimu ndi zoipa kudya ndi kuyambira mmene mungagwire chimfine, iye mobwerezabwereza mwachidule ndi mwamsanga anabwereza pempho lake - ngati mbiri wosweka.
Amayi, kumbali ina, amachita zomwe pafupifupi achikulire onse amachita m'mikhalidwe yotere: amatsutsa. Iye akukambirana. Amafuna kuti mwana wake amvetse ndi kuvomereza. Amachitanso chimodzimodzi ngati akufuna chilichonse kwa mwana wake wamkazi. Ndiyeno chisonyezero chomveka bwino chimasanduka kukambirana kwautali. Pamapeto pake, kawirikawiri amayi aiwala kale zomwe ankafuna. N’chifukwa chake ana athu amakonda kukambirana zimenezi ndi mtima wonse. Komanso, iwo ndi mwayi wowonjezera kwathunthu ndi kotheratu kukopa chidwi cha amayi anga.
Chitsanzo:
Mama (amasquats, akuyang'ana m'maso mwa Annika, akumugwira pamapewa ndikuyankhula mwachidule): «Annika, uyika zoseweretsa m’bokosi pompano.”
Annika: Koma bwanji?
Amayi: Chifukwa mudawabalalitsa
Annika: Sindikufuna kuyeretsa kalikonse. Ndiyenera kuyeretsa nthawi zonse. Tsiku lonse!
Amayi: Palibe chonga ichi. Ndi liti pamene mumatsuka zoseweretsa tsiku lonse? Koma muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti muyenera kuyeretsa nokha!
Annika: Ndipo Timmy (mchimwene wazaka ziwiri) samadziyeretsa!
Amayi: Timmy akadali wamng'ono. Sangathe kudziyeretsa.
Annika: Iye akhoza kuchita zonse! Umangomukonda kuposa ine!
Amayi: Chabwino, mukunena chiyani?! Izi sizowona ndipo mukudziwa bwino.
Kukambitsirana kutha kupitirizidwa momwe mungakonde. Amayi ake a Annika anakhalabe chete. Mpaka pano, sanalakwitsepo zolakwa za makolo zimene tinazifotokoza kale m’Mutu 4. Koma ngati kukambiranako kupitirira kwa nthawi ndithu, zikhoza kuchitika. Ndipo ngati Annika pamapeto pake adzachotsa zoseweretsa sizikudziwika. M’mawu ena: Ngati Amayi akufunadi kuti Annika atuluke, ndiye kuti kukambiranaku sikunali koyenera.
Chitsanzo china. Kukambirana kofananako pakati pa Lisa wazaka zitatu ndi amayi ake kumachitika pafupifupi m'mawa uliwonse:
Amayi: Lisa, vala.
Lisa: Koma sindikufuna!
Amayi: Khalani msungwana wabwino. Valani ndipo tidzasewera limodzi zosangalatsa.
Onjezani: Mu chiyani?
Amayi: Tikhoza kusonkhanitsa puzzles.
Onjezani: Sindikufuna zododometsa. Iwo ndi otopetsa. Ndikufuna kuwonera TV.
Amayi: M'mawa ndi TV?! Palibe funso!
Onjezani: (kulira) Sindiloledwa kuwonera TV! Aliyense angathe! Ine ndekha sindingathe!
Amayi: Izo si zoona. Ana onse amene ndikuwadziwa samaonera TV m’mawanso.
Chifukwa cha zimenezi, Lisa akulira chifukwa cha vuto linalake, koma sanavalebe. Kawirikawiri izi zimatha ndi chakuti amayi ake amamugwira m'manja mwake, amamuyika pa mawondo ake, amatonthoza ndi kumuthandiza kuvala, ngakhale Lisa amadziwa momwe angachitire yekha. Panonso, amayi, atatha kusonyeza bwino, anadzipeza atakopeka ndi kukambitsirana kotseguka. Lisa nthawi ino adagonjetsa mutu wa TV. Koma ndi nzeru zomwezo, amatha kusewera mosavuta ndi chovala chilichonse chomwe amayi ake amachiyika - kuchokera ku masokosi kupita ku scrunchie yofananira. Kupambana kodabwitsa kwa msungwana wazaka zitatu yemwe sanakhale ku kindergarten!
Kodi amayi a Annika ndi Lisa akanapewa bwanji kukambirana zimenezi? Njira ya «yosweka mbiri» ndiyothandiza kwambiri pano.
Nthawi ino, amayi ake a Annika amagwiritsa ntchito njira iyi:
Amayi: (anasquat, kuyang'ana mwana wake m'maso, kumugwira paphewa ndi kunena): Annika, uyika zoseweretsa m'bokosi pompano!
Annika: Koma bwanji?
Amayi: Izi ziyenera kuchitika tsopano: musonkhanitsa zoseweretsa ndikuziyika m'bokosi.
Annika: Sindikufuna kuyeretsa kalikonse. Ndiyenera kuyeretsa nthawi zonse. Tsiku lonse!
Amayi: Tiye, Annika, ikani zoseweretsa m'bokosi.
Annika: (akuyamba kuseka ndikudandaula pansi pa mpweya wake): Nthawi zonse…
Zokambirana pakati pa Lisa ndi amayi ake zimapitanso mosiyana ngati amayi agwiritsa ntchito "mbiri yosweka":
Amayi: Lisa, vala..
Onjezani: Koma sindikufuna!
Amayi: Apa, Lisa, valani zothina.
Onjezani: Koma ndikufuna kusewera nanu!
Amayi: Lisa, wavala zothina pompano.
Lisa (kung'ung'udza koma kuvala)
Inu simukukhulupirira kuti chirichonse ndi chophweka? Yesani nokha!
M’mutu woyamba, tafotokoza kale nkhani ya Vika wazaka zisanu ndi zitatu, yemwe anadandaula ndi ululu wa m’mimba ndipo anapita kuchimbudzi maulendo 10 asanapite kusukulu. Amayi ake anakambirana naye kwa milungu iwiri, kumutonthoza ndipo pomalizira pake anamusiya kunyumba katatu. Koma sikunali kotheka kupeza chifukwa cha mwadzidzidzi «mantha» sukulu. Masana ndi madzulo mtsikanayo anali wokondwa komanso wathanzi. Choncho amayi anaganiza zochita zinthu zina. Ngakhale kuti Vicki anadandaula komanso kukangana bwanji, mayi ake ankachita chimodzimodzi m’mawa uliwonse. Anawerama, nagwira phewa la mtsikanayo nati modekha koma mwamphamvu: “Ukupita kusukulu tsopano. Pepani kuti izi ndizovuta kwambiri kwa inu. " Ndipo ngati Vicki, monga kale, adapita kuchimbudzi mphindi yomaliza, amayi anganene kuti: “Munali kale kuchimbudzi. Tsopano nthawi yakwana yoti muchoke ». Palibe china. Nthawi zina ankabwereza mawu amenewa kangapo. «Kupweteka m'mimba» mbisoweka kwathunthu patatha sabata.
Osandilakwitsa, kukambirana pakati pa makolo ndi ana ndikofunikira kwambiri ndipo kumachitika nthawi zambiri patsiku. Pazakudya, pamwambo wamadzulo, panthawi yomwe mumapereka kwa mwana wanu tsiku ndi tsiku (onani Mutu 2) ndi nthawi yaulere, muzochitika zotere zimakhala zomveka ndipo zimabweretsa zotsatira zabwino. Muli ndi nthawi ndi mwayi womvetsera, kunena zomwe mukufuna ndikuzitsutsa. Yambani zokambirana zanu. Zifukwa zonse zomwe mudasiyapo panthawi yomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito "mbiri yosweka" tsopano zitha kufotokozedwa ndikukambidwa. Ndipo ngati mwanayo ali wofunika ndipo amafunikira, amamvetsera mwachidwi.
Nthawi zambiri, kukambirana kumakhala kosangalatsa kwa ana kokha ngati chosokoneza komanso ngati njira yokopa chidwi.
Miriam, wazaka 6, ankavutika kuvala m’maŵa uliwonse. 2-3 pa sabata iye sanapite ku sukulu ya mkaka chifukwa sanali okonzeka pa nthawi. Ndipo zimenezi sizinamuvutitse ngakhale pang’ono. Kodi tingatani pamenepa kuti “kuphunzira mwa kuchita”?
Amayi anagwiritsa ntchito njira ya “kusweka mbiri”: “Muvala tsopano. Ndidzakutengerani kumunda nthawi yake. " sizinathandize. Miriam anakhala pansi atavala zovala zake zogonera osasuntha. Amayi adatuluka mchipindamo ndipo sanayankhe mayitanidwe amwana wawo. Mphindi 5 zilizonse ankabweranso n’kubwerezabwereza kuti: “Miriam, kodi ukufuna thandizo langa? Muvi ukafika, timachoka m’nyumbamo. Mtsikanayo sanakhulupirire. Analumbira ndi kung'ung'udza, ndipo ndithudi sanavale. Pa nthawi imene anagwirizana, mayiyo anatenga mwana wake wamkazi padzanja n’kupita naye m’galimoto. Mu zovala zogona. Anatenga zovala zake kupita nazo kugalimoto. Anatukwana mokweza mawu, Miriam anavala mothamanga kwambiri. Amayi sananene kalikonse. Kuyambira m’maŵa wotsatira, chenjezo lachidule linali lokwanira.
Khulupirirani kapena ayi, njirayi imagwira ntchito nthawi zonse muzaka za sukulu ya kindergarten. Ndizosowa kwambiri kuti mwana awoneke m'munda atavala zovala zogona. Koma makolo mkati ayenera kukhala, monga njira yomaliza, okonzekera izi. Ana amamva. Nthawi zambiri amasankhabe pa sekondi yomaliza kuvala.
- Chitsanzo china chofanana cha mkangano pakati pa ine ndi mwana wanga wamkazi wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi. Ndinamulembera kwa wometa tsitsi, adadziwa ndipo adavomera. Nthawi yoti apite itakwana anayamba kukuwa ndipo anakana kutuluka m’nyumbamo. Ndinamuyang’ana n’kunena modekha kuti: “Tili ndi nthawi yoti tidzakumane ndi wometa tsitsi ndipo ndidzakufikitsa panthaŵi yake. Kulira kwanu sikumandivuta, ndipo ndikhulupilira kuti wometa tsitsi nawonso adazolowera izi. Ana aang'ono nthawi zambiri amalira panthawi yometa tsitsi. Ndipo mutha kukhala otsimikiza za chinthu chimodzi: pokhapokha mutakhazikika, mutha kudziwuza nokha momwe mungamete tsitsi lanu. Analira njira yonse. Atangolowa m’malo okonzera tsitsi, anaima ndipo ndinamulola kuti asankhe yekha kumeta. Pamapeto pake, iye anasangalala kwambiri ndi tsitsi latsopanolo.
- Maximilian, wazaka 8. Ubale ndi mayi wanga unali utavuta kale. Ndinakambirana naye za momwe angapangire malangizo omveka bwino, achidule komanso kugwiritsa ntchito njira yosokonekera. Ndipo kachiwiri, amakhala pafupi ndi mwana wake akuchita homuweki ndipo amakwiya chifukwa satha kukhazikika ndipo ali wotanganidwa ndi makadi a mpira. Katatu anafunsa kuti: "Chotsani makhadi." sizinathandize. Ino ndi nthawi yoti tichitepo kanthu. Koma n’zomvetsa chisoni kuti sanasankhe yekha zochita pa nkhani imeneyi. Ndipo anatero, chifukwa cha mkwiyo ndi kutaya mtima. Anazigwira n’kuzing’amba. Koma mwanayo anasonkhanitsa kwa nthawi yaitali, kusinthanitsa, kuwasungira ndalama. Maximilian analira momvetsa chisoni. M’malo mwake akanachita chiyani? Makhadiwo anachititsadi kukhala kovuta kusinkhasinkha. Zinali zomveka kuwachotsa panthawiyo, koma mpaka maphunzirowo atatha.
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