Aliyense wa ife wakhala wosungulumwa kamodzi kokha m’moyo wathu. Komabe, kwa anthu ambiri, kuthawa matendawa kumakhala kutentha thupi komanso kukhumudwa. N'chifukwa chiyani timaopa kusungulumwa komanso momwe ubale ndi amayiwo ulili ndi chiyani, anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Vadim Musnikov.
Kumbukirani, kodi mudakumanapo ndi anthu ochezeka kwambiri, mpaka kufika potengeka mtima, anthu? Ndipotu, khalidweli nthawi zambiri limakhala chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zobisika za kusungulumwa kwamkati.
M'maganizo amakono pali lingaliro la autophobia - mantha amtundu wa kusungulumwa. Izi ndizovuta kwambiri kumverera, ndipo zomwe zimayambitsa ndizochuluka komanso zambiri. Mwachidule, tikhoza kunena kuti kusungulumwa kwakukulu ndi zotsatira za maubwenzi osasangalatsa m'magawo oyambirira a chitukuko chaumunthu. Mwachidule, kuphwanya ubale pakati pa mayi ndi mwana.
Kukhoza kukhala panokha, ndiko kuti, kusadzimva wopanda kanthu mukakhala nokha, kuli umboni wa kukhwima maganizo ndi maganizo. Aliyense amadziwa kuti khanda lobadwa kumene limafunikira chisamaliro, chitetezo ndi chikondi. Koma si mkazi aliyense amene angathe, monga British psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott analemba, kukhala "mayi wabwino mokwanira." Osati angwiro, osasowa, komanso osazizira, koma "zabwino mokwanira."
Mwana wakhanda yemwe ali ndi psyche wosakhwima amafunikira chithandizo chodalirika kuchokera kwa munthu wamkulu - mayi kapena munthu amene amachita ntchito zake. Ndi aliyense kunja kapena mkati kuopseza, mwanayo akhoza kutembenukira kwa mayi chinthu ndi kumva «lonse» kachiwiri.
Zinthu zosinthira zimapanganso chithunzi cha mayi wotonthoza ndikuthandizira kukwaniritsa digiri yoyenera ya ufulu wodziyimira pawokha.
Pakapita nthawi, kuchuluka kwa kudalira kwa mayi kumachepa ndipo kuyesa kudzidalira pawokha ndi zenizeni kumayamba. Panthawi imeneyi, zinthu zomwe zimatchedwa kusintha zimawonekera m'maganizo a mwanayo, mothandizidwa ndi zomwe amalandira chitonthozo ndi chitonthozo popanda kutengapo mbali kwa amayi.
Zinthu zosinthira zimatha kukhala zinthu zopanda moyo koma zatanthauzo, monga zoseweretsa kapena bulangeti, zomwe mwana amazigwiritsa ntchito popatukana ndi chinthu choyambirira cha chikondi panthawi yamavuto kapena kugona.
Zinthu izi zimapanganso chifaniziro cha mayi wotonthoza, kupereka chinyengo cha chitonthozo ndikuthandizira kukwaniritsa digiri yoyenera ya kudziimira. Choncho, iwo ndi ofunika kwambiri pakukulitsa luso lokhala okha. Pang'onopang'ono, imakhala yamphamvu mu psyche ya mwanayo ndipo imamangidwa mu umunthu wake, chifukwa chake, mphamvu yeniyeni yodzimva mokwanira yekha ndi iyeyo imatuluka.
Chifukwa chake chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa mantha a kusungulumwa ndi mayi wosakwanira, yemwe sangathe kumizidwa kwathunthu pakusamalira mwana kapena yemwe sanathe kuyambitsa njira yochoka kwa iye pa nthawi yoyenera. .
Ngati mayi asiya kuyamwa mwanayo asanakonzekere yekha, mwanayo amasiya n’kuyamba kucheza naye n’kuyamba kuganiza molakwika. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mizu ya mantha a kusungulumwa imayamba kupanga. Mwana woteroyo alibe mphamvu yotonthoza ndi kudzikhazika yekha.
Amaopa kuyandikana kwenikweni komwe akufuna.
Mu moyo wachikulire, anthuwa amakumana ndi mavuto aakulu poyesa kumanga maubwenzi. Amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuyandikana kwambiri, "kuphatikizana" ndi munthu wina, kufuna kukumbatiridwa, kudyetsedwa, kusisita. Ngati chosowacho sichikukwaniritsidwa, ndiye kuti mkwiyo umatuluka.
Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, amawopa kuyandikana kwambiri kumene amalakalaka. Maubwenzi amakhala osatheka, amphamvu kwambiri, aulamuliro, achisokonezo, komanso owopsa. Anthu otere omwe ali ndi chidwi chapadera amatha kukanidwa ndi anthu ena, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti ataya mtima kwambiri. Olemba ena amakhulupirira kuti kusungulumwa kwakukulu ndi chizindikiro chachindunji cha psychosis.