Psychology

Nthawi zambiri timawadzudzula chifukwa cha kusasamala, ulesi, ukhanda, kusowa kwa maphunziro, kusowa kwa makhalidwe abwino, kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri. Ndipo amadziona bwanji - omwe tsopano ali ndi zaka 16-26? Kodi tsogolo lidzawoneka bwanji anthuwa akadzasankha? Za ichi - wathu «kafukufuku».

Kusintha kwa mibadwo sikungakhale kwamtendere: pokhapokha atapambana chigonjetso pa atate awo, ana amapeza ufulu wotenga malo awo. Makolo akukonzekera kulimbana ndi mphamvu, kuyesera kuzindikira mwa ana awo mbali za Bazarovs zatsopano. “Dwonetseni wekha,” iwo amatero motero. "Sonyezani kuti ndinu anzeru, amphamvu, olimba mtima kwambiri." Ndipo poyankha amamva kuti: "Ndili bwino."

Mbadwo womwe nthawi ina "wosagwedezeka" wa Decembrists sunangogonjetsa Napoleon, komanso unatsutsa mfumu. Mbadwo woyamba wa pambuyo pa Soviet Union ukuwoneka kuti wadutsa mwayi wake wakale.

M'malo mwa ndakatulo zabwino kwambiri - Albums rap ndi otsanzira Brodsky. M'malo mwazopanga - mapulogalamu am'manja a tsiku limodzi. M'malo mwa maphwando ndi ma manifesto, pali magulu a VKontakte. Ambiri amakono azaka 20 ali ngati "anzeru" akusukulu ya sekondale, okonzeka kukhala ndi mikangano yaing'ono ndi aphunzitsi, koma osasintha dziko.

Apa ndi apo mukhoza kumva kung'ung'udza kwa akulu: makanda, "shkolota"! Iwo akuwononga zimene makolo awo anamenyera nkhondo ndipo anavutika nazo. Sanaphunzire kukonda ndi kudzipereka. Kusankha kwawo komwe kulipo kuli pakati pa Apple ndi Android. Ntchito yawo ndikupita kukachisi kukagwira Pokemon.

Nkhawa imasakanizidwa ndi kunyalanyaza: bwanji ngati nkhondo, njala, ulova wathunthu? Inde, iwo, mwinamwake, adzakonza Chernobyl yatsopano, kudzaza dashboard ndi cappuccino kuchokera ku kapu ya makatoni.

Okayikira samatopa kusonyeza kudzipatula kwawo ku zenizeni: “Ngati muli ndi flash drive ndi chidziŵitso chonse cha dziko, kodi mungathe kumanga kanyumba m’nkhalango kapena kudula appendix yanu ngati palibe dokotala pafupi?” Koma kodi sitikukokomeza mopambanitsa? Kodi makhalidwe oipa a achinyamata ali ndi zotsatirapo zake? Tiyeni tiyese kuzilingalira.

Iwo ndi ogula! M'malo mwake, oyesera

Pamene katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Amereka Abraham Maslow anapanga chiphunzitso chake cha zosoŵa, chimene otsatira ake anapereka mumpangidwe wa piramidi, Kupsinjika Kwakukulu kunali kukulirakulira mu United States. Ochepa akanakhoza kufika kumtunda «pansi», ndiko kuti, zofunika kwambiri patsogolo.

Ku Russia, zovutazo zidapitilira. Mibadwo yomwe yakula ndi kusowa komanso kusatsimikizika kuti zomwe zapezedwa zitha kukhazikika zimakhala zochenjera komanso zamtengo wapatali. Achinyamata amene amayesetsa kufikira chirichonse, kuyesa chirichonse, amaoneka ngati opanda nzeru kwa iwo.

Komanso, mu chapamwamba apansi a «piramidi» pali osati zauzimu, komanso ndithu zakuthupi zosowa. Mwachitsanzo, kufunikira kwa mgwirizano wogonana (osati kungokhutiritsa kukopa), zosangalatsa zophikira ndi zosangalatsa zina. Achinyamatawo adakhala osankha ndipo adatchedwa hedonists.

Koma kukhala ndi moyo wochuluka sikutanthauza kuchoka pa chokumana nacho chowoneka bwino kupita ku china. Kungoyendayenda mu «supermarket zomverera», achinyamata kuphunzira kuzindikira awo.

“Pausinkhu wazaka 16, ndinayamba chibwenzi ndi mnyamata wina,” akukumbukira motero Alexandra wazaka 22. - Ndinasungunuka kwathunthu mmenemo: zinkawoneka kwa ine kuti umu ndi momwe chikondi chiyenera kukhalira - "moyo ku moyo", monga agogo anga. Tinayamba kukhalira limodzi. Sindinachite kalikonse, ndinangokhala ndikudikirira kuti abwere kuchokera kuntchito. Ndinkaona ngati tanthauzo la kukhalapo.

Kenaka ndinazindikira kuti ndili ndi zofuna zanga, ndinayamba kuthera nthawi yochuluka yophunzira, ndinapeza ntchito, ndinayamba kupita kwinakwake ndi anzanga popanda iye. Panali anthu omwe anali abwino kwa ine, chikondi chosakhalitsa.

Ndinazindikira kuti ndikufuna ubale womasuka. Zinali zovuta kwa mnzangayo poyamba kuvomereza zimenezi, koma tinakambirana zambiri za zomwe takumana nazo ndipo tinaganiza kuti tisachoke. Tsopano takhala limodzi kwa zaka 6 ... Zinapezeka kuti mwanjira iyi tonse ndife omasuka.

Ndi aulesi! Kapena kusankha?

“Otayirira, osatoleredwa, osakhwima” - aphunzitsi akuyunivesite, aphunzitsi ndi owalemba ntchito samanyalanyaza mawu ankhanza. Vuto la mkati mwamkati limazindikiridwanso ndi anthu omwe amawanyoza.

"M'mbuyomu, ndili ndi zaka 22, anthu anali achikulire," akutero Elena wazaka 24. - Sizinali chizolowezi kudziyang'ana kwa nthawi yayitali - mumayenera kuyambitsa banja, kupeza ntchito, kukwera pamapazi anu. Tsopano timapereka ufulu ku zilakolako, timayesetsa kudutsa nthawi zosasangalatsa komanso zosasangalatsa. Mosiyana ndi makolo awo, achinyamata amasanduka atatu osatha ndi mphukira.

"Makolo amawonedwa ndi ana azaka za m'ma 90 ngati ngwazi zazikulu - zamphamvu, zotha kuthana ndi zovuta," akutero katswiri wazamisala Marina Slinkova. - Moyo wawo unali wopambana wopambana: kaya kaya kapena ayi, muyenera kukhala amphamvu. Koma makolo anapulumuka, mphamvu ya zilakolako anagwa, chirichonse chiri kale chimwemwe. Ana adauziridwa: tsopano palibe chomwe chikukulepheretsani, pitirirani!

Koma apa ndipamene «makina ofikira» amalephera. Mwadzidzidzi likukhalira kuti kwa «zapamwamba mlingo» makolo malamulo salinso ntchito. Ndipo nthawi zina amafika ngakhale panjira.

"Chitsanzo chakuyenda pang'onopang'ono kupita kuchipambano chawonongeka," akutero akatswiri a chikhalidwe cha anthu a Validata omwe aphunzira njira za moyo za "ana a 90s". Kupambana mu Olympiad ndi diploma yofiira kungakhalebe kupambana kwakukulu.

"Ndipo ndizo zonse?" amatulutsa womaliza maphunziro wanzeru mokhumudwa, yemwe amaperekedwa kuti asinthe maloto ake kuti akhale pampando wabwino mu nsanja yamakampani. Koma bwanji za amene akusintha dziko?

Mwina zimatengera zambiri kuposa maphunziro ophunzitsidwa bwino? Ndipo ngati ndilibe izi, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kukhalabe wocheza wosangalatsa komanso “wodziwa” ankachita masewera, osalowa nawo mpikisano wowawa, pomwe pali chiopsezo chozindikira kuti ndinu mediocrity.

Ndi aukali! Ndipo komabe osatetezeka

Trolling, kugwiritsa ntchito ponseponse kwa mawu otukwana, kufunitsitsa kunyoza lingaliro lililonse ndikusintha chilichonse kukhala meme - zikuwoneka kuti m'badwo wa apainiya apa intaneti ulibe chidwi komanso kuthekera komvera chisoni.

Koma katswiri wodziwa za cyberpsychologist Natalia Bogacheva amawona chithunzicho mosiyana: "Ma Troll sapanga ambiri pakati pa ogwiritsa ntchito, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala anthu okonda kusokoneza, kusokoneza maganizo ndi psyche. Komanso, gulu la pa intaneti nthawi zambiri limakhala malo omwe mungapezeko chithandizo chamalingaliro.

Timawona zitsanzo pamene ogwiritsa ntchito akugwirizanitsa kuthandiza wina, kupeza anthu osowa, kubwezeretsa chilungamo. Mwinamwake chisoni chimagwira ntchito mosiyana kwa m’badwo uno, koma simunganene kuti kulibe.”

Nanga bwanji chizolowezi cholankhulana patali? Kodi zimalepheretsa achinyamata kumvetsetsana?

“Inde, chiŵerengero cha zigawo zolankhulirana zolankhulidwa ndi zosagwirizana ndi mawu zikusintha; Patali, timamvetsetsa bwino kwambiri zomwe olankhulayo akukumana nazo," akupitiriza Natalia Bogacheva. - Koma timaphunzira kuzindikira mwatsatanetsatane ndikutanthauzira: ikani nkhope yomwetulira kapena ayi, kaya pali kadontho kumapeto kwa uthengawo. Zonsezi ndi zofunika ndipo zimapereka chidziwitso. "

Kukambitsirana kwaunyamata kumawonekera kukhala kwamwano ndi kovutirapo kwa munthu amene mtima wake m’malo mwa “Ndimkonda” uli wosalingalirika. Koma ndi chinenero chamoyo chimene chimasintha ndi moyo.

Iwo amwazikana! Koma amasinthasintha

Amasintha mosavuta kuchoka ku chimodzi kupita ku chimzake: amatafuna sangweji, amakonza msonkhano mwa messenger ndikutsatira zosintha pamasamba ochezera, zonse zofanana. Chochitika cha clip chikumbumtima chakhala chodetsa nkhawa makolo ndi aphunzitsi kwa nthawi yayitali.

Sizikudziwikabe momwe tingapewere kudodometsa nthawi zonse, ngati tikukhala mumkuntho komanso wosadziwika bwino.

Malinga ndi Natalia Bogacheva, "m'badwo wa digito" umaganiza mosiyana ngakhale pamlingo wamalingaliro amunthu: "Nthawi zina amafuna kuyang'ana chinthu chimodzi, koma sangathe."

Ndipo kwa achikulire, sizikudziwikiratu momwe mungachitire zinthu zitatu nthawi imodzi. Ndipo zikuwoneka kuti kusiyana kumeneku kudzangokulirakulira - m'badwo wotsatira uli panjira, womwe sudziwa momwe angayendetsere malo opanda mapu a Google ndi momwe angakhalire popanda kuyankhulana ndi dziko lonse mwakamodzi.

Komabe, m'zaka za zana la XNUMX BC. e. Katswiri wina wa nzeru zapamwamba Plato anaipidwa ndi mfundo yakuti podzafika polemba, tinasiya kudalira pamtima ndipo tinakhala "wanzeru zamatsenga." Koma mabuku anapatsa anthu kusamutsidwa kofulumira kwa chidziwitso ndi kuwonjezeka kwa maphunziro. Luso la kuŵerenga linatilola kusinthana malingaliro, kukulitsa malingaliro athu.

Akatswiri a zamaganizo amazindikira mwa achichepere kusinthasintha kwa malingaliro, luso lotha kuyendetsa bwino zomwe zidziwitso zikuyenda, kuchuluka kwa kukumbukira ntchito ndi nthawi ya chidwi, komanso chizolowezi chochita zinthu zambiri. Olemba mabuku okhudzana ndi zokolola amalimbikitsa anthu amasiku ano kuti asamalire luso lakufa, koma kuti azimvetsera mwatcheru nyimbo za "digito revolution" ndikuyenda nayo nthawi.

Mwachitsanzo, katswiri wokonza mapulani wa ku America dzina lake Marty Neumeyer amakhulupirira kuti m’nthawi imene mphamvu zamaganizo zidzagawikana pakati pa ubongo ndi makina, luso losiyanitsa mitundu yosiyanasiyana lidzafunika.

Kukula mwachidziwitso ndi malingaliro, kutha kusonkhanitsa mwachangu chithunzi chachikulu kuchokera ku data yosiyana, kuwona kuthekera kothandiza kwa malingaliro ndikufufuza madera atsopano - izi ndi zomwe achinyamata, m'malingaliro ake, ayenera kuphunzira poyamba.

Kodi ndi osuliza? Ayi, mfulu

"Malingaliro adagwa, monganso malingaliro omwe ngwazi zazaka za zana la XNUMX zidatsatira," akulemba motero wophunzira Slava Medov, wogwiritsa ntchito TheQuestion. - Musadzipange kukhala ngwazi popereka thupi lanu lachinyamata. Munthu wapano sangawone izi ngati zochita za Danko. Ndani amafunikira mtima wanu ngati pali tochi ku «Sinthani Price»?

Apoliticality ndi kusafuna kupanga pulogalamu yabwino akuimbidwa mlandu pa hipsters, subculture yayikulu yachinyamata yazaka zaposachedwa. Azaka za 20 alibe pafupifupi chifundo cha ndale, koma pali kumvetsetsa kofanana kwa malire omwe ali okonzeka kuteteza, katswiri wa ndale Anna Sorokina akulemba.

Iye ndi anzake adafunsa mafunso ophunzira ochokera ku mayunivesite XNUMX aku Russia. "Tidafunsa funso: "N'chiyani chidzapangitse moyo wanu kukhala wovuta?" Akutero. "Lingaliro logwirizanitsa linali kuloledwa kulowerera m'moyo wamunthu komanso makalata, ndikuchepetsa mwayi wopezeka pa intaneti."

Katswiri wina wafilosofi wa ku America, dzina lake Jerrold Katz, ananeneratu kale kuti kufalikira kwa intaneti kudzachititsa kuti pakhale chikhalidwe chatsopano chozikidwa pa khalidwe laumwini osati utsogoleri.

"Lingaliro lokhalo lodziwika bwino lagulu latsopanoli lidzakhala ufulu wazidziwitso. M'malo mwake, aliyense amene amayesa kuyika dzanja lake pa izi amakayikira - boma, mabungwe, mabungwe achipembedzo, mabungwe amaphunziro komanso makolo, "wafilosofiyo amakhulupirira.

Mwina ichi ndi mtengo waukulu wa m'badwo «popanda mfumu pamutu» — ufulu kukhala aliyense osati manyazi? Khalani pachiwopsezo, yesani, sinthani, pangani moyo wanu mosaganizira ulamuliro. Ndipo zosintha ndi "ntchito yaikulu yomanga", ngati mukuganiza za izo, aliyense ali kale wodzaza.

Siyani Mumakonda