Mbali yam'mbuyo ya tchuthi: chifukwa chake samakondweretsa aliyense

Ena amakhulupirira kuti holideyi ndi yodabwitsa, zozizwitsa ndi mphatso, amayembekezera mwachidwi, akugwiritsa ntchito kukonzekera kwakukulu. Ndipo ena, m'malo mwake, amabwera ndi njira zopulumukira, kuti apewe mkangano ndi zikomo. Pali anthu amene maholide amawabweretsera mavuto aakulu.

Mtsikana wina wazaka 22, dzina lake Yakov, anati: “Ndinakhala m’nyumba ya makolo anga ndi makolo anga kwa zaka 30. “Paubwana wanga, maholide anali masiku a mwayi, ngozi, ndi kusintha kwakukulu. Ndinkawadziwa bwino mabanja ena khumi ndi awiri. Ndipo ndinamvetsetsa kuti m'malo ena mukhoza kudya chakudya chokoma, kusewera popanda akuluakulu, ndipo kwinakwake adzamenya munthu mwamphamvu lero, ndi mkokomo ndi kufuula "Iphani!". Nkhani zosiyanasiyana zinayambika patsogolo panga. Ndipo ngakhale pamenepo ndinazindikira kuti moyo ndi wochuluka kwambiri kuposa chithunzi pa khadi la tchuthi.

Kodi kusiyana kumeneku kumachokera kuti?

Zochitika zakale

“M’kati mwa mlungu ndi maholide, timapanganso zimene tinaziwona kale, tili ana, m’banja limene tinakulira ndi kukulira. Zochitika izi komanso momwe tinkachitira "kukhazikika" mwa ife," akufotokoza Denis Naumov, katswiri wazamisala yemwe amagwira ntchito bwino pakuwunika kwazinthu. - Wina mu kampani yosangalala anasonkhanitsa achibale, abwenzi a makolo, anapereka mphatso, anaseka kwambiri. Ndipo wina ali ndi zikumbukiro zina, zomwe tchuthi ndi chifukwa chokhalira kumwa, ndipo chifukwa chake, ndewu zosapeŵeka ndi mikangano. Koma sitingathe kuberekanso zochitika zomwe zidatengedwa kamodzi, komanso kuchita molingana ndi zochitika.

"Ndinkafuna kuti ndisabwerezenso m'banja langa zomwe ndidaziwona ndili mwana: abambo amamwa mkati mwa sabata, ndipo patchuthi zonse zidaipiraipira, kotero sitinakondweretse masiku obadwa kuti tisakonzekerenso maphwando, osakwiyitsa abambo; ” akugawana ndi Anastasia wazaka 35. “Ndipo mwamuna wanga samamwa ndipo amandinyamula m’manja mwake. Ndipo ndikuyembekezera masiku akubadwa osati nkhawa, koma ndi chisangalalo.

Koma ngakhale ena omwe mbiri yawo yabanja ilibe zochitika zovuta amakumana ndi tchuthi popanda chidwi chochuluka, kudzipereka kwa iwo ngati chinthu chosapeweka, kupewa misonkhano yaubwenzi ndi mabanja, kukana mphatso ndi zikomo ...

Denis Naumov akupitiriza kuti: “Makolo amatipatsa uthenga umene timakhala nawo pa moyo wathu wonse, ndipo uthenga umenewu ndi umene umakhudza mmene moyo wathu wakhalira. Kuchokera kwa makolo kapena achikulire odziwika bwino, timaphunzira kusavomereza kutamandidwa, osati kugawana ndi ena. Ndinakumana ndi makasitomala omwe ankaganiza kuti zinali zochititsa manyazi kukondwerera tsiku lobadwa: "Kodi ndili ndi ufulu wotani wodzisamalira ndekha? Kudzitama si kwabwino, kudzionetsera sikuli kwabwino. Nthawi zambiri anthu otere omwe sadziwa kudzitamandira, chonde, adzipatse okha mphatso, amavutika ndi kuvutika maganizo akakula. Njira imodzi yodzithandizira nokha ndiyo kusangalatsa mwana wanu wamkati, yemwe ali mwa aliyense wa ife, kuti azithandizira ndi kuphunzira kuyamika.

Kulandira mphatso, kuwapatsa ena, kulola kukondwerera tsiku lobadwa, kapena kungodzipatsa tsiku lowonjezera - kwa ena a ife, izi ndi aerobatics, zomwe zimatenga nthawi yaitali ndikuyambiranso kuphunzira.

Koma maholide si njira yokhayo yobweretsera chisangalalo kwa "mwana wanu wamng'ono", komanso mwayi wowongolera moyo.

mfundo zolozera

Aliyense amabwera m'dziko lino ndi nthawi yokhayo. Ndipo moyo wathu wonse timayesetsa kumutangwanitsa ndi chinachake. "Kutengera kusanthula kwamakampani, timafunikira dongosolo: timapanga dongosolo lamoyo, ndiye kuti limakhala lodekha," akufotokoza Denis Naumov. - Nthawi, manambala, maola - zonsezi zidapangidwa kuti zigawike, kupanga zomwe zatizungulira, ndi chilichonse chomwe chimatichitikira. Popanda izo, timadandaula, timataya pansi pa mapazi athu. Masiku akuluakulu, maholide amagwira ntchito yofanana yapadziko lonse lapansi - kutipatsa chidaliro ndi kukhulupirika kwa dziko ndi moyo.

Chidaliro kuti, ziribe kanthu, usiku wa December 31 mpaka January 1, Chaka Chatsopano chidzabwera, ndipo tsiku lobadwa lidzawerengera gawo latsopano m'moyo. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale sitikufuna kukonza phwando kapena chochitika chachikulu kuyambira tsiku lofiira la kalendala, masiku awa amakhazikitsidwa ndi chidziwitso. Ndipo zomwe timawakonda ndi nkhani ina.

Tchuthi ndizomwe zimatigwirizanitsa ndi chilengedwe, anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Alla German. “Chinthu choyamba chimene munthu ankachiganizira kalekale chinali mmene tsiku ndi nyengo zimayendera. Pali mfundo zinayi zofunika m'chaka: nyengo yachilimwe ndi yophukira, nyengo yachisanu ndi chilimwe. Matchuthi ofunikira adalumikizidwa ku mfundo izi ku fuko lililonse. Mwachitsanzo, Khrisimasi ya ku Ulaya imakhala pa nyengo yachisanu. Pa nthawiyi, masana ndi aafupi kwambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti mdima watsala pang'ono kupambana. Koma posakhalitsa dzuwa limayamba kutuluka mwamphamvu. Nyenyezi ikuunika kumwamba, kulengeza za kudza kwa kuwala.

Khirisimasi ya ku Ulaya ili ndi tanthauzo lophiphiritsira: ndi chiyambi, poyambira, poyambira. Panthawi zotere, timamaliza miyezi 12 yapitayi, timamva chisoni, tikusiyana ndi zakale, ndikusangalala, kukumana ndi zam'tsogolo. Chaka chilichonse sikuyenda mozungulira, koma kutembenuka kwatsopano mozungulira, ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano zomwe tikuyesera kumvetsetsa pa mfundo zazikuluzikuluzi. Koma izi sizingatheke nthawi zonse. Chifukwa chiyani?

Mbale wosefukira

“Nthawi zina timabwera kutchuthi tili ndi zambiri komanso zochitika. Tilibe nthawi pokonza nkhaniyi, kotero mavuto amakhalabe, - anati Alla German. - Muyenera kuthira kwinakwake, mwanjira ina mutulutse. Chifukwa chake, pali ndewu, kuvulala ndi kugonekedwa m'chipatala, zomwe zimakhala zambiri patchuthi. Panthawiyi, mowa wambiri umagwiritsidwanso ntchito, ndipo umachepetsa kuwunika kwamkati ndikumasula Mthunzi wathu - makhalidwe oipa omwe timabisala tokha.

Mthunziwo ukhoza kudziwonetseranso mwaukali wamawu: m'mafilimu ambiri a Khrisimasi (mwachitsanzo, Love the Coopers, motsogoleredwa ndi Jesse Nelson, 2015), banja lomwe linasonkhana likuyamba kukangana, ndiyeno limagwirizananso pamapeto. Ndipo wina amapita ku zochita zakuthupi, kumasula nkhondo yeniyeni m'banja, ndi anansi, abwenzi.

Koma palinso njira zokometsera zachilengedwe zowuzira nthunzi, monga kuvina kapena kuyenda. Kapena chititsani phwando ndi zakudya zapamwamba komanso zovala zapamwamba. Ndipo osati patchuthi, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri imayikidwa kuti igwirizane ndi chochitika chomwe chimayambitsa maganizo amphamvu mwa anthu ambiri.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo akuganiza kuti kukumbukira za World Cup, yomwe inachitika m'chilimwe cha 2018: "Ndimakhala pakati pa Moscow, ndipo usana wonse tinkamva kulira kwa chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo, kenaka nyama zakutchire zimabangula," akukumbukira Alla German. malingaliro osiyanasiyana adaphatikizidwa m'malo amodzi ndi malingaliro. Mafani komanso omwe ali kutali ndi masewera adalimbana mophiphiritsa: dziko ndi dziko, timu motsutsana ndi timu, yathu motsutsana ndi yathu. Chifukwa cha izi, amatha kukhala amphamvu, kutaya zomwe adazisonkhanitsa mu moyo ndi thupi lawo, ndikuwonetsa mbali zonse za psyche yawo, kuphatikizapo mthunzi.

Mwa mfundo yomweyi, m’zaka mazana apitawo, zikondwerero za carnival zinkachitika ku Ulaya, kumene mfumu inkakhoza kuvala ngati wopemphapempha, ndi dona wopembedza ngati mfiti. Kumasula Mthunzi wanu popanda kuvulaza omwe akuzungulirani ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yomasulira chikho chanu chosefukira.

Dziko lamakono latenga liwiro lopenga. Kuthamanga, kuthamanga, kuthamanga… Kutsatsa pazikwangwani, zikwangwani, mazenera a masitolo kumatilimbikitsa kugula zinthu, kutikopa ndi zokwezedwa ndi kuchotsera, kumaika chitsenderezo cha kudziimba mlandu: kodi mwagulira makolo, ana mphatso? Vlada wazaka 38 amadziwika. - Sosaite imafuna mkangano: kuphika, kukonza tebulo, mwina kulandira alendo, kuyitana wina, kuyamika. Ndinaganiza kuti patchuthi ndibwino kuti ndipite ku hotelo yomwe ili m'mphepete mwa nyanja, kumene simungathe kuchita kalikonse, kungokhala ndi wokondedwa wanu.

Ndipo Victoria wazaka 40, nayenso, nthawi ina ankasungulumwa masiku otere: posachedwapa anasudzulana ndipo sakugwirizananso ndi makampani apabanja. "Kenako ndinayamba kupeza mwayi woti ndimve zomwe ndikufuna, kuganiza ndi kulota za momwe ndingakhalire."

Sichikale chachizolowezi kuti tifotokoze mwachidule zotsatira tsiku lobadwa lisanafike ndikukonzekera zam'tsogolo. "Koma mu dipatimenti yowerengera ndalama za kampani iliyonse, ngakhale yaying'ono, ndalama zoyendetsera ndalama zimachepetsedwa ndipo bajeti ya chaka chamawa imapangidwa," akutero Alla German. Ndiye bwanji osachita zomwezo pa moyo wanu? Mwachitsanzo, panthawi ya chikondwerero cha Chaka Chatsopano cha Chiyuda, ndi chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito "masiku achete" - kukhala nokha ndi inu nokha ndikugaya zochitika ndi malingaliro osonkhanitsa. Osati kokha kugaya, komanso kuvomereza kupambana ndi kulephera. Ndipo sizosangalatsa nthawi zonse.

Koma ili ndilo tanthauzo lopatulika la maholide, pamene otsutsana akumana. Tchuthi nthawi zonse ndi mizati iwiri, ndiko kutseka kwa siteji imodzi ndi kutsegula kwatsopano. Ndipo nthawi zambiri masiku ano tikukumana ndi zovuta, - akufotokoza Alla German. "Koma kuthekera kokhala ndi polarity kumatithandiza kukhala ndi catharsis pozindikira tanthauzo lakuya momwemo."

Chimene chidzakhala tchuthi, mokondwera kapena achisoni, ndi chisankho chathu, Denis Naumov ali wotsimikiza kuti: "Iyi ndi nthawi yosankha: amene ndikufuna kuyamba nawo gawo latsopano la moyo, ndi omwe satero. Ngati timaona kuti tikufunika kukhala tokha, tili ndi ufulu wochita zimenezi. Kapena timachita kafukufuku wowerengetsera ndalama n’kukumbukira anthu amene posachedwapa alandira chisamaliro chochepa, okondedwa, kuwaimbira foni kapena kuwachezera. Kusankha nokha ndi ena moona mtima nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, komanso kwanzeru kwambiri. ”

Mwachitsanzo, mutasankha ndikusiya kuyembekezera, monga muubwana, chozizwitsa ndi matsenga, koma pangani ndi manja anu. Momwe Daria wazaka 45 amachitira. “Kwa zaka zambiri, ndaphunzira kukhala ndi tchuthi cha mkati. Kusungulumwa? Chabwino, ndiye, ndigwira mawu ake. Zotseka? Choncho, ndidzakhala wokondwa kulankhula nawo. Kodi alipo watsopano? Chabwino, zabwino! Ndinasiya kupanga ziyembekezo. Ndipo ndizabwino kwambiri!