Zamkatimu
- 1. Mumadziwa bwino zomwe mukufuna pachibwenzi.
- 2. Chisankho chanu chimachokera pa kusankha mwanzeru.
- 3. Mwaphunzira kutenga udindo
- 4. Mutha kukwanitsa kumasuka kwa wokondedwa wanu.
- 5. Mumamvetsetsa kufunikira kwa ziyembekezo zenizeni.
- 6. M'malo mokonza bwenzi lanu, mumasintha moyo wanu.
- 7. Munaphunzira kulankhula za mavuto muubwenzi.
- 8. Mumaphunzira kukhululuka tsiku lililonse.
- 9. Mumadzidalira posankha bwenzi
Ziwerengerozo ndi zokhumudwitsa: maukwati achiwiri amatha nthawi zambiri kuposa oyamba. Koma ziwerengero si sentensi. Katswiri wa zamaganizo, dzina lake Terry Gaspard, ananena kuti tikamakula ndiponso kukhala anzeru, timaphunzira zinthu zambiri pa banja limene linasokonekera. Iye anatchula zifukwa 9 zimene zimachititsa kuti banja lachiwiri liziyenda bwino.
1. Mumadziwa bwino zomwe mukufuna pachibwenzi.
Zochitika zakuphunzitsani zambiri: tsopano mukudziwa zomwe maubwenzi amakupindulitsani kwambiri. Ukwati wachiwiri umakupatsani mwayi woganizira izi kuyambira pachiyambi.
2. Chisankho chanu chimachokera pa kusankha mwanzeru.
Pamene munaloŵa m’banja kwa nthaŵi yoyamba, mungavutike ndi kukayikira: kodi mukuchita zoyenera? Koma munasankhabe kuchita zimenezi chifukwa cha udindo kapena kuopa kukhala nokha.
3. Mwaphunzira kutenga udindo
Ngati mmodzi wa okondedwa angathe kuchita izi, ubwenziwo ukhoza kukhala ndi tsogolo. Amadziwika kuti zochita za mmodzi wa okwatirana mu mikangano mikangano mwachindunji ntchito ubongo wa mnzake.
Osawopa kupepesa kwa mnzanu ngati muli ndi chochita. Mukatero mumasonyeza kuti mumalemekeza maganizo ake ndipo mungathandize nonse kukhululukirana ndi kupitiriza. Kupepesa kungathe kuchiritsa munthu amene mumam’konda, ngakhale mutamukhumudwitsa mwangozi. Ngati okondedwa amapewa kukambirana za kusakhutira ndi malingaliro chifukwa cha mikangano yosathetsedwa, udani umayamba kuwunjikana.
4. Mutha kukwanitsa kumasuka kwa wokondedwa wanu.
Muubwenzi wabwino, mutha kukhulupirira wokondedwa wanu, kugawana naye malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu. Popeza simuyeneranso kukhala tcheru nthawi zonse, moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku udzakhala wodekha.
5. Mumamvetsetsa kufunikira kwa ziyembekezo zenizeni.
Chikondi chokha sichikwanira kusintha munthu, khalidwe lake ndi mmene anakulira. Tiyerekeze kuti, kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro, ndikofunikira kuti mulandire zizindikiro kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Ngati mukondana ndi munthu woletsa, mosakayikira mudzakhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa. M’banja lachiŵiri, mungapewe zolakwa zimenezi ngati poyamba muvomereza mnzanuyo mmene alili.
6. M'malo mokonza bwenzi lanu, mumasintha moyo wanu.
Ambiri aife timayang'ana kwambiri kuyesa kusintha okondedwa athu m'malo mothetsa mavuto athu. Mphamvu zomwe mudagwiritsa ntchito pazoyesa zopanda phindu m'mbuyomu, mutha kutsogolera ntchito ndi zofooka zanu - ubale wanu udzapindula ndi izi.
7. Munaphunzira kulankhula za mavuto muubwenzi.
Kuyesa kunamizira kuti kulibe mavuto nthawi zambiri kumatha koyipa. Muukwati watsopano, mudzayesa kukambirana mwamsanga ndi mnzanuyo zokayikitsa zanu ndi nkhawa zanu, pamene mukufotokoza malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu ndi zikhumbo zanu mwaulemu. Tsopano mukulimbana ndi malingaliro ndi zikhulupiriro zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuiwala madandaulo akale.
8. Mumaphunzira kukhululuka tsiku lililonse.
Tsopano mumapepesa kwa wokondedwa wanu ngati kuli kofunikira, ndipo inu nokha ndinu okonzeka kuvomereza kupepesa kwake. Izi zimawawonetsa kuti malingaliro awo ndi oyenera kulemekezedwa, ndipo amawongolera mkhalidwe wabanja. Kukhululuka sikutanthauza kuti mumavomereza zimene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wachita zomwe zakhumudwitsa inu, koma kumakupatsani mwayi wokumbukira zakale ndikupita patsogolo.
9. Mumadzidalira posankha bwenzi
Mwazindikira kuti ukwati sudzakhala gwero lanu lokha la chisangalalo, kotero kuti simutaya maloto anu ndi zokhumba zanu, koma yesetsani mwakhama kuti zitheke. Komabe, mnzanuyo ndi wofunika kwa inu ndipo mumakhulupirira za ukwati wanu.