Pali anthu odabwitsa omwe mwachilengedwe samapatsidwa mawonekedwe abwino, koma ngakhale izi, timawawona ngati okongola mopanda malire ngakhale akhungu, mawonekedwe, ndi malankhulidwe. Amaulutsa kudzikonda komwe kumatigonjetsa. Kodi amachita bwanji zimenezi? Kukongola ndi dziko, ndipo mutha kukulitsa mwa inu nokha: phunzirani kupeza, kuvomereza ndikugawana. Ndipo pali masewero olimbitsa thupi omwe amathandiza kuti adziwe lusoli.
Tiyeni tifotokoze nthawi yomweyo: pali miyezo ya kukongola, ndipo palibe aliyense wa ife, kunena zoona, amalephera. Chifukwa amapangidwa pogwiritsa ntchito Photoshop, kukonza mtundu wa kanema ndi zodzola zina. Zambiri zanenedwa pamiyezo iyi, wina amamenyana nazo, wina amatsutsana nazo - koma mulimonse, amakhala okhazikika m'mitu yathu.
Miyezo imeneyi imakhala ndi zotsatira zowonongeka pamalingaliro amkati a kukongola kwake, zomwe zimapindulitsa pa malonda amakono: pamene munthu akhutira ndi iyemwini, amagula zochepa. Pamene osakhutira - malonda a zodzoladzola, zipangizo zowongolera chiwerengerocho, chiwerengero cha zopempha kwa madokotala a opaleshoni apulasitiki chikukula. Koma tikhoza kutsutsa china chake ku malingaliro oyikidwamo. Chani? Kukongola kwanu kwamkati. Tiyeni tikambirane izi: momwe mungapezere ndi kuphunzira kugawana kukongola uku?
Momwe mungakhalire "wopusa"
Poyamba, ndikupempha kuti ndisiyane ndi izi: ndiyenera kuchita chiyani kuti ndikhale wosakongola, wonyansa? Ukadaulo umadziwika: nthawi zonse mukamayang'ana pagalasi, muyenera kuyang'ana zofooka zanu ndikuzifotokoza m'mawu ovuta kwambiri, onyansa amkati.
- Apa, makwinya atsopano, pimple wina watuluka, m'chiuno mulibe pachipata, pachifuwa kale - koma tsopano mmm ...
Ambiri a ife timadzilankhula tokha motere m’maŵa uliwonse, osazindikira chimene chikuchitika. Liwu lamkati limamveka bwino kwambiri moti sitilizindikira n’komwe. Ngati simuli odzichitira nkhanza, ndiye kuti ndikwanira kuzindikira zolakwika zanu pazowoneka bwino pafupifupi milungu iwiri tsiku lililonse kuti mukhumudwe kwathunthu.
Pazonse, zinthuzo ndi zomveka: timafunikira mawu omveka, ovomerezeka amkati (kwa atsikana ambiri, mwachitsanzo, muzochitika zotere, mawu a wokondedwa kapena mwamuna wina wabwino amamveka pamitu yawo) kuphatikizapo nthawi. Timayang'ana kuwonetsera pawindo ndikudziyesa tokha ndi kusakhutira, kuphatikizapo magalasi m'zipinda zosambira / zimbudzi, kuphatikizapo mazenera ndi kamera yakutsogolo pa foni - ola limodzi ndi theka la tsiku lidzatuluka. Ndipo apa pali zotsatira zomwe mukufuna.
Liwu Lamkati Limene Timafunikira
Ngati munthu wakhala akutsatira zolakwa zake moyo wake wonse, ndiye kuti kungoyimitsa ntchitoyi ndi kuyatsa si ntchito yophweka. Chifukwa chake, kuti ndisinthe zokambirana zamkati kuti zindipindulitse, ndikupangira kusewera.
Gawo loyamba ndi losavuta: sinthani liwu lalikulu lomwe limalankhula mkati ndi lachigololo. Tonse tili ndi mawu otere omwe timawakopa. Pali? Tsopano msiyeni ayese chimene chikuchitika. Zozama, zoseweretsa, zokopana.
“Ndili ndi makutu otuluka chotero,” dzineneni nokha m’mawu ameneŵa.
Kapena:
- Mwana, sungathe kudziwonetsera pagulu ndi mapazi otere!
Mukumva kupusa kwa zomwe zikuchitika? Kodi zikukuvutani kutengera zonena zanu mozama? Izi ndi zomwe tikuyesetsa.
Khwerero XNUMX: muyenera kupanga mawu awa kukhala chizolowezi. Njira yomwe ingatithandizire imatchedwa "anchoring". Kuwona chonyezimira, kuwala koyamba komweko, dziuzeni nokha: siyani! Ndipo musanatembenukire kwa iye, kumbukirani mawu anu amkati achigololo. Ndipo pokhapokha mutayang'ana chithunzicho.
kukongola kunja
Ndili ndi nkhani yabwino yokhudzana ndi momwe njirayi imagwirira ntchito, osati pamlingo wodzidziwitsa zamkati, komanso momwe zimasinthira chilichonse chozungulira. Mtsikana wina, amene anadziŵa bwino ntchito imeneyi ndi mawu a m’kati pa msonkhano, anapita kunyumba pa sitima madzulo. Ndipo tsiku lotsatira, adati: mu ola laulendo, galimoto yonse inamudziwa - zosangalatsa, zosavuta komanso zoyendetsa. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa m'masitima athu muli kusowa koopsa kwa anthu akuwulutsa mayiko okongola.
Ngati mukuyang'ana ubale watsopano, kuyankhula nokha mwachikondi ndi njira yoti mukhale wokongola komanso wokongola. Mkhalidwe wovuta womwe umadziyesa kuti ndiwe munthu wolengedwa popanda chipambano, monga chojambula chomwe chimati: "Chilichonse nchoyipa m'moyo wanga, ndimafunikira munthu amene angatseke dzenje mu mtima mwanga ndikundipulumutsa ku zoopsa zomwe ndili nazo" sichotsatsa chokopa kwambiri. , vomerezani. Ngati zigwira ntchito, mwina sizingakope maubwenzi abwino kwambiri. Monga mmene munthu wina wamkulu ananenera, kukongola ndiko lonjezo la chimwemwe. Ndipo zimayambira mkati, kuchokera ku dziko ndi iwe mwini.
Dziko la thanzi
Chifukwa chiyani ndimalankhula pafupipafupi za kufunikira kolankhula mwaulemu, mwansangala, modzudzula, osadzikakamiza ndikuwunika zophophonyazo? Ndimatchula izi mu semina iliyonse ya Achinyamata ndi Matenda a Msana, ndipo anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti ndikungofuna kupanga chikhalidwe choyenera motere. Koma sichoncho. Kukangana kosalekeza kwamkati kuli ngati nkhondo, ndipo nkhondo ndi chiwonongeko. Makamaka, kuwonongeka kwa thanzi. Ngati munthu tsiku ndi tsiku, zaka zambiri, amadzitsimikizira yekha kuti "chinachake chiri cholakwika ndi ine ndipo izi siziri choncho", posakhalitsa amakhala "osati choncho".
Kupsinjika kwamkati kumabweretsa matenda, omwe amatsimikiziridwa mwasayansi. Ndipo njira yopita ku thanzi imayamba ndi mfundo yakuti timadzivomereza tokha - makamaka, thupi lathu. Timavomereza, mokoma nthabwala ndi chikondi. Ndipotu, kunena zoona, thupi lathu ndi khalidwe lathu. Kudzudzula nthawi zonse, sitidzasangalala nazo. Ndipo izo zikuyenera.