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Abambo atsopano, abambo enieni a nkhuku!
Kodi kukhala bambo masiku ano kumatanthauza chiyani?
Mu kafukufuku waposachedwapa wakuti "Kukhala bambo lero", lofalitsidwa ndi UNAF mu June 2016, pafupifupi theka la abambo omwe adafunsidwa adanena kuti amachita "mosiyana" ndi amayi a ana awo. Komanso atate awo omwe. "Amanena kuti amakhala otcheru kwambiri, amakambitsirana kwambiri, kukhala pafupi ndi ana awo, okhudzidwa kwambiri, komanso kukhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi maphunziro awo kuposa momwe abambo awo adachitira nawo," akutero kafukufuku. Ku funso "Kodi bambo wabwino ndi chiyani?" ”, Amuna amadzutsa njira yokhala tate mwa “kukhalapo, kumvetsera, popereka malo otetezeka momwe ana angakulire ”, kapena kukhala tate” wosamala komanso wosamala. Kafukufukuyu akuwonetsa njira yokhalira bambo motsutsana ndi zomwe zidachitika muzaka za m'ma 70, m'malo mwaulamuliro. Phunziro lina: Abambo adati amatengera makamaka amayi awo (43%)! Inde, makamaka ndi amayi awo omwe akasonkhezeredwa kuphunzitsa ana awo. Phunziro lina: 56% ya "abambo atsopano" amakhulupirira kuti anthu amawona udindo wawo kukhala "wochepa kwambiri kuposa wa amayi". Ngakhale zili zenizeni, zenizeni ndizovuta kwambiri.
Abambo ankaika ndalama tsiku lililonse
Kafukufukuyu akusonyeza bwino lomwe chikhumbo “champhamvu” cha atate chofuna kuloŵereramo, ngakhale kuti kwenikweni ali akazi amene amathera nthaŵi yoŵirikiza kaŵiri ndi ana kuposa amuna. Chifukwa chachikulu chimene atate amene anafunsidwawo anapereka ndicho nthaŵi imene amathera kuntchito. Ena amachitira umboni kuti: "Ndimakhala maola opitilira khumi patsiku kuntchito, osawerengera misewu ndi kuchuluka kwa magalimoto", kapenanso: "Sindikhala pa nthawi ya nkhomaliro, ndipo chifukwa chaukadaulo kumapeto kwa sabata imodzi mwa awiri", amachitira umboni. -iwo. Umboni wina, wa Mathieu, bambo wa Helios wamng'ono, wa miyezi 10. “Ndine mkulu mu dipatimenti yolumikizirana pachipatalapo, choncho ndili ndi maola ambiri ogwirira ntchito. Cholinga changa ndi kukhalapo kwa mwana wanga momwe ndingathere, m'mawa ndi madzulo. Kuyambira 7am mpaka 7:30 am, ndi amayi amene amasamalira Helios, ndiye ndimatenga ndikumusiya 8:30 am ku creche. Ndimakhala naye pafupi ola limodzi m’mawa. Iyi ndi mphindi yofunika. Madzulo, ndimabwera kunyumba cha m'ma 18 koloko usiku ndikumusamaliranso bwino. Ndimamusambitsa mosinthana ndi amayi, kuti agawane zambiri momwe ndingathere, ”akufotokoza motero.
Kuyanjanitsa ntchito ndi moyo wabanja
M’buku lake lakuti “The Big Book of New Fathers”, Eric Saban, dokotala wa ana, anandandalika mafunso 100 amene abambo achichepere amadzifunsa. Zina mwa izo, pali zomwe zimakhudza chiyanjano pakati pa moyo waukatswiri ndi moyo watsopano ndi mwana. Abambo achichepere amafunitsitsa kupeza kulinganiza koyenera pakati pa zopinga zawo zamaluso ndi bungwe ndi mwana wawo. Malangizo oyamba kuchokera kwa dokotala wa ana: kufunikira kokhazikitsa malire omveka bwino pantchito. Palibe ntchito mwachidule kunyumba, kudula akatswiri laputopu kumapeto kwa sabata, osafunsa maimelo anu akatswiri mwina, mwachidule kudula kwenikweni n'kofunika kwambiri kuti banja lanu kunja kwa maola ntchito. Langizo lina: pangani mindandanda kuntchito kuti muziyika patsogolo zadzidzidzi, zofunika kwambiri komanso zomwe zingadikire. Monga momwe Eric Saban akulongosolera: “Potsirizira pake, zimenezi zimalola nthaŵi ya akatswiri kusamaliridwa bwino monga momwe kungathekere kotero kuti zisaloŵerere moyo waumwini. Osazengereza kupatsa ena ntchito. Nthawi zambiri timayiwala kuti kukhala olemedwa nthawi zonse kumabweretsa kupsinjika kwazomwe tiyenera kuchita tsiku lililonse, ndipo makamaka kumabweretsa kubweretsa ntchito kunyumba. Kukhala manejala kumatanthauza kudziwa kudalira anthu ena pagulu lanu. Zili ndi inu kugawira ntchito kwa anzanu. Pomaliza, timasiya ntchito pa nthawi zoikika. Inde, ngakhale zitakhala zovuta pachiyambi, timadzikakamiza kukhala kunyumba kwa mwana wathu panthaŵi yoyenera kuti timupezerepo mwayi,” akufotokoza motero.
Pangani ubale wapamtima ndi mwana wanu
Bambo ake a Helios ananena kuti m’kupita kwa nthawi ankagwirizana kwambiri ndi mwana wawo wamwamuna. osati kuwoloka. Polankhula naye, ndimayesetsa kukhala wotsimikiza, ndimamulimbikitsa, kumufotokozera zinthu, kumuyamikira. Ndimagwirizana kwathunthu ndi kayendetsedwe ka maphunziro abwino, "akuwonjezera. Monga nthawi yake yaulere, abambo awa ali ndi gawo lonse: "Mapeto a sabata athu adakonzedwa mozungulira mwana wathu Helios. Ndi mayi, atatufe timapita kwa ana osambira, ndi bwino! Kenako, titatha kugona ndi kudya, timapita kokacheza naye, kapena kukachezera achibale kapena anzathu. Timayesetsa kuti apeze zinthu zosiyanasiyana momwe tingathere, ”akutero.
Kugawana kwakukulu kwa ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku
Kafukufuku wa UNAF akuwonetsanso kuti abambowa amagwira nawo ntchito zatsiku ndi tsiku, makamaka masiku omwe sakugwira ntchito. Kawirikawiri, ntchitozo zimagawidwabe bwino: abambo amatenga nawo mbali pa nthawi yopuma kapena kutsagana ndi ana awo kuntchito, pamene amayi amasamalira chakudya, nthawi yogona komanso kutsata zachipatala. Palibe zosintha zazikulu pamenepo. Ambiri a iwo (84%), komabe, adanena kuti analibe vuto logwira ntchito zolerera ana. Kumbali ina, kuyang'anira maphunziro a mwanayo, kugona ndi kulamulira kugona ndizomwe zimawabweretsera mavuto ambiri. "Nthawi yotalikirapo yosakhala panyumba, m'pamenenso kuchuluka kwa abambo omwe amalengeza kuti akazi awo amakhala omasuka ndi ana kuposa momwe iwo amakulira," akutero kafukufukuyu. Koma mosiyana ndi akazi, iwo kaŵirikaŵiri amalingalira zocheperapo kuti adzipezeke. Ofufuzawo apeza kuti funsoli silinayankhidwebe kwa mabanja ambiri: “Kodi ichi ndi cholowa cha kugawikana kwachikhalidwe kwa maudindo, kumene abambo amakhala ndi udindo waukulu wopezera ndalama? Kapenanso cholakwa cha kukana kwa olemba ntchito kulola abambo kusintha maola awo ogwirira ntchito, kapenanso kachitidwe kawo chifukwa cha kusiyana kwa malipiro komwe kumakhalabe kochuluka pakati pa amuna ndi akazi,” inafunsa motero kafukufukuyu. Funso likadali lotseguka.
* UNAF: National Union of Family Associations