Mwana aliyense ndi wapadera, wosayerekezeka, aliyense ndi wosiyana ndi ena. Ndipo komabe, ana ena amafanana kwambiri kuposa ena. Amakonda masewera omwewo, amakhala ndi zokonda zofananira, malingaliro ofanana ndi kuyitanitsa, masewera, homuweki, amachitira pafupifupi chimodzimodzi kupsinjika, chisangalalo kapena mikangano. Mfundo yakuti ana ali ndi khalidwe lofanana kapena losiyana kwambiri sizidalira msinkhu kapena msinkhu wa ubale, koma pa mtundu wa umunthu.
Pali mitundu inayi ikuluikulu:
- chidwi, tcheru chikhalidwe;
- wanzeru, mwana wokakamizika;
- maganizo wofuna mtundu;
- strategic planner
Payokha, mtundu uliwonse ndi womveka ndipo ndizochitika zachilendo. Katswiri wa zamaganizo kusukulu Christina Kanial-Urban adapanga typology ya mwanayu pazaka zambiri zakuyeserera.
Nthawi yomweyo, ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti mitundu iyi sichitika mwanjira yawo yoyera. Nthawi zina izi zimakhala zosakanikirana (makamaka, zachibadwa komanso zovomerezeka za mwana), koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zodziwika bwino za mtundu umodzi. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti mwana wanu ali mu gulu liti.
Izi zidzakuthandizani kuwunika bwino mwana wanu, luso lake, zofooka zake ndikuziganizira mozama kwambiri.
Kwa mwana, chinthu choipitsitsa kwambiri ngati kulera kwake kumatsutsana ndi mtundu wa umunthu wake, chifukwa mwanjira iyi, titero, amalandira uthenga: kuti muli ngati izi si zachilendo. Izi zimasokoneza mwanayo ndipo zimatha kuyambitsa matenda. M'malo mwake, kulera mwana molingana ndi umunthu wake kudzathandiza mwana kukula bwino, kulimbitsa mphamvu zake, kukhala ndi chidaliro komanso chitetezo. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka pakakhala zovuta zazikulu ndi zazing'ono: mavuto ndi abwenzi, kusukulu, kupatukana ndi makolo, imfa ya wokondedwa.
Tidzalongosola mitundu inayi ya umunthu m'mawonekedwe awo akuluakulu ndikuwonetsa momwe tingachitire bwino ndi mwana wamtundu wofanana.
tcheru chikhalidwe
Zomwe zimapangidwira
Uyu ndi mwana wochezeka, womvera, wokhala ndi chidziwitso chokhazikika. Amafuna kukhala paubwenzi ndi anthu ena, ndi achibale, ndi anzake. Amafuna kulankhula nawo kwambiri, kusamalira ena, kuwapatsa mphatso. Ndipo dziwani zambiri za iwo. Agogo anga anali amtundu wanji? Kodi agogo anga ankakhala bwanji ali kamnyamata?
Ana amtundu uwu amasangalala ndi nthano ndi nkhani zosiyanasiyana, choncho amakhala omvera abwino komanso ofotokozera bwino. Kaŵirikaŵiri amayamba kulankhula mofulumira, ali okhoza kwambiri kuphunzitsa zinenero zakunja. M’masewero ochita masewero, amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito yawo. Zomwezo zikugwiranso ntchito kudziko longopeka. Iwo sayenera kusiyidwa okha pamaso pa TV: amadzizindikiritsa okha ndi anthu otchulidwa kwambiri kotero kuti muzochitika zochititsa chidwi zomwe zimafunikira chithandizo. Ana amtundu umenewu amafunadi kukondedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa, amafunikira kutsimikiziridwa nthaŵi zonse kuti iwo ndi chinthu chapadera, chamtengo wapatali.
Zikavuta
Ndizovuta kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri ajambule mzere pakati pa ine ndi INU. Iwo "akuphatikizana", kwenikweni akuyenda mwa wokondedwa. Izi zimawaika pachiwopsezo chodzisiya okha ndi kusungunula mu umunthu wa wina - chifukwa amaona zabwino zomwe munthu amene amamukonda amaziona kukhala zabwino. Chifukwa cha ichi, amaiwala mosavuta za zosowa zawo. M’mabanja amene amaona kuti masewera ndi zochitika zina zofunika kwambiri, mwana womvera chisoni nthawi zambiri amakhala wopanda thandizo. Zikatere, amafunikira munthu wachikulire wamaganizo ofanana ndi ake.
Kodi amatani akakumana ndi vuto?
Iye amafunafuna kwambiri ubale wapamtima ndi ena, kumamatira kwenikweni kwa iwo. Ena amachita ndi kukwiya, kulira ndi kulira. Ena amadzipatula, amavutika mwakachetechete. Ambiri akhazikika kwambiri m'dziko la zongopeka zawo.
Makhalidwe abwino olerera
Patsiku la sabata komanso pamavuto: chikhalidwe chovuta chimafunikira munthu (m'modzi wa makolo, agogo kapena agogo) omwe angapatse malo ndi chakudya m'malingaliro ake, mawonekedwe ake. Ndinkamuuza nthano, kujambula, kufotokoza mbiri ya banja.
Mwana wotero amafunikira kuzindikira maluso ake, malingaliro ake okongola (zovala zokongola!) ndi nthawi yolota. Kunyoza munthu wamasomphenya kumatanthauza kumukhumudwitsa kwambiri.
Kawirikawiri ana oterewa amamva bwino m'masukulu omwe amapereka chidwi chapadera pa chitukuko cha luso la kulenga la ophunzira. Amafuna chitonthozo, chilimbikitso, ndi ubwenzi wapamtima monga momwe kungathekere. Makamaka pamavuto.
Ngati kufunikira kokulirapo kwaubwenzi sikukwaniritsidwa, vuto limakula. Kuyamikiridwa kwamunthu payekha ndikofunikiranso ("Mwachita bwino bwanji!"). Nkhani zothetsera mavuto zomwe mwana wa msinkhu womwewo akulimbana ndi vuto lofananalo zimathandizanso.
mwana wodabwitsa
Zomwe zimapangidwira
Nthawi zambiri alibe nthawi yokwanira, chifukwa dziko ndi losangalatsa kwambiri, lodzaza ndi zochitika, mayesero olimba mtima. Ana okonda kuchita zinthu amafunikira ntchito - pafupifupi usana ndi usiku.
Ndi anthu okonda, okonda kucheza, odziwa dziko lapansi ndi malingaliro awo onse. Iwo amalimbana ndi mavuto, saopa kuyika moyo pachiswe, ndipo amalolera kuyesa. Chimene chinasiya kuwasangalatsa, anangosiya.
Nzosadabwitsa kuti chipinda cha ana awo nthawi zambiri chimakhala chachisokonezo. Kumeneko, pafupi ndi masewera apakompyuta, zinyalala zilizonse zimatha kugona.
Amakhala ndi kusowa kwakukulu kwa kayendetsedwe kake, amadya ndi chilakolako, amasonyeza poyera maganizo awo. Mavuto awo ndi: nthawi (nthawi zambiri mochedwa), ndalama (sakudziwa momwe angachitire) ndi sukulu. Amakhala otopa kusukulu, motero amasokoneza makalasi ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ngati zidole za m’kalasi. Ntchito yakunyumba mwina siichitidwa kapena mwachiphamaso.
Zikavuta
M’banja limene limaona kuti dongosolo ndi kulamulira n’kofunika kwambiri, mwana wongofuna kuchita zinthu movutikira amavutika chifukwa nthawi zonse amayambitsa kusasangalala. Choncho, mwana woteroyo amavutika kwambiri ndi dongosolo lathu la sukulu.
Kodi amatani akakumana ndi vuto?
kuda nkhawa kwambiri. Chilakolako cha kusuntha chimasanduka ntchito yosalekeza, kufunikira kosonkhezera kukhala kutengeka kwambiri, kusiyanasiyana kwa zokonda kukhala mopupuluma. M’mikhalidwe yovuta, ana oterowo kaŵirikaŵiri amataya malingaliro awo odzitetezera, omwe ali ofunika kwambiri kwa iwo, ndipo pokhumudwa pang’ono amagwera muukali wachiwawa. Pamapeto pake, mwana woteroyo angakhale ndi vuto polankhulana ndi ana).
Makhalidwe abwino olerera
Kupereka ufulu ku malire ena ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pokhudzana ndi mtundu wamwayi. Malamulo omangiriza ndi chitsogozo cholimba ndizofunikira, monganso kulumikizana ndi anzanu (ngakhale mwana wodziyimira pawokha atafuna kudziimira payekha). Pakachitika mavuto kusukulu, munthu sayenera kuletsa, mwachitsanzo, masewera a masewera, koma samalani kwambiri ndi ulamuliro ndi dongosolo. Ana oterowo amafunikira wina yemwe angatsutse nawo chipindacho, kukonza malo ogwira ntchito, kuwawonetsa. momwe mungatulutsire ukali wovomerezeka - mwachitsanzo, kugwiritsa ntchito chikwama chokhomerera pophunzitsa osewera wankhonya, masewera olimbitsa thupi
mwana wanzeru
Zomwe zimapangidwira
Nthawi zambiri wanzeru kwambiri ndipo nthawi zonse amachita moganizira - mtundu wa luntha mwana. Nthawi zonse amafunsa mafunso owonjezera, amafuna kudziwa zonse bwino, amafuna kumvetsetsa dziko lapansi kuti akhale ndi chidaliro.
Zochita zilizonse zamagulu ndi masewera achiwawa monga gawo la gulu nthawi zambiri sizikhala zowoneka bwino kwa iye, amakonda kulankhulana ndi mnzake, chibwenzi. Kapena ndi kompyuta. Chipinda chake chimakhala chosokonekera poyang'ana koyamba, koma mosiyana ndi mtundu wokonda kuchita zinthu, nthawi yomweyo amapeza zomwe akufuna chifukwa ali ndi dongosolo lake.
Ana ochenjera amayamba kuchita zinthu ngati akuluakulu, nthawi zina amakhala anzeru kuposa zaka zawo. Amakonda kutenga nawo mbali pazokambirana zoyezera ndipo amalolera kulowa nawo akuluakulu. Amatsata zotsatira ndipo amatsata zolinga zawo. Amadzifunira okha zofuna zapamwamba, amayesetsa kukwaniritsa zambiri.
Zikavuta
Mwana wanzeru sadziwa luso lokondweretsa, choncho nthawi zambiri amawoneka wodzikuza, wozizira, amakhala wakunja mosavuta. Kwa zonsezi, uyu ndi mwana wosatetezeka kwambiri.
Kodi amatani akakumana ndi vuto?
Kawirikawiri lamulo lapamwamba kwambiri mwa ana amtunduwu ndi kukhala chete. Munthawi zovuta, amakhala ololera kwambiri, osatulutsa malingaliro. Kuli kochititsa chidwi kuti, mwachitsanzo, pambuyo pa kusudzulana kwa makolo awo, ana oterowo amakhalabe ndi makhalidwe abwino, koma kudekha kwawo kumangokhala kwachiphamaso, koma m’maganizo amadzisauka. Zotsatira zake n’zakuti amasiya kuonana ndi iwo eni komanso okondedwa awo. Ana anzeru amadzimva kuti ali pachiwopsezo, amachichita - mosayembekezereka kwa ena - mokhudzidwa kwambiri, mpaka kufika paukali. Ndi zolephera, mwachitsanzo kusukulu, amatayika mosavuta, kuyesera kuti akwaniritse ungwiro wokulirapo, womwe ungasinthe kukhala wovuta kwambiri.
Makhalidwe abwino olerera
Akamakula, m'pamenenso mungadalire maulamuliro ochepa, chifukwa amadziona kuti ndi olamulira. Amene akufuna kuti achite chinachake ayenera kuwatsimikizira. Iwo akuongoka ndi kuzindikira. Ngati walephera kusukulu, mwana woteroyo amafunikira thandizo mwamsanga.
Ndikofunika kutsindika luso lake mobwerezabwereza, kulimbikitsa kudzidalira kwake - ndikumufotokozera kuti zolakwa ndizofunikanso, kuti popanda iwo sikutheka kupita patsogolo. Makolo akamavutika maganizo, angachirikize mwanayo modekha mwa kuyambitsa kukambirana zakukhosi kwawo. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndakhumudwa kwambiri ndi izi ndipo ndikuganiza kuti mukukumana ndi zomwezo." Mwachidziwikire, adzayang'ana kumbali, akupotoza pakamwa pake. koma ndi zokwanira. Palibe chiwonetsero chokulirapo chachisoni chomwe chiyenera kuyembekezedwa kwa iye.
Mwana wovomerezeka
Zomwe zimapangidwira
Waphunzira luso lothandiza. Kudzimva kukhala wa m’banja kulinso chinthu chofunika koposa. Ana oterowo amayesetsa kuti akwaniritse unansi wokulirapo mwa kuchita (mosiyana ndi mtundu wa tcheru) chinthu chatanthauzo, chothandiza, chothandizira mofunitsitsa kuzungulira nyumba, kutenga maudindo ena (mwachitsanzo, kuyika tebulo), koma amakonda kuchita zina. ndi amayi kapena abambo.
Nkhawa kwambiri ngati iwo kutamandidwa. Amagwirizana bwino ndi dongosolo la sukulu ndi malamulo ake, chifukwa alibe mavuto ndi chilango, khama, dongosolo. Zovuta zimadza pamene, mu nthawi yawo yaulere, ayenera kusankha okha ntchito. Awa ndi ana oganiza bwino omwe amatha kupeza zotsatira zabwino. Amakonda maholide abanja, amakondwera ndi momwe achibale amachitira.
Zikavuta
Mwana woteroyo amakhala wokonda kutengera malamulo ndi malingaliro a anthu mopanda kuganiza molakwika, mosaganizira bwino. Aliyense amene amayembekeza kudziyimira pawokha kwa iye molawirira kwambiri, potero amamuyikira ntchito yosatheka. M'mabanja opanda chizoloŵezi chodziwika bwino cha tsiku ndi tsiku, popanda nthawi ya chakudya chokhazikika, miyambo yokhazikika, mwana woteroyo amamva kuti alibe chithandizo, amafunikira dongosolo lomveka bwino.
Kodi amatani akakumana ndi vuto?
Amayesetsa kumvera kwambiri. Mwana wokakamizika amachita bwino kwambiri, kukwaniritsa zofuna zenizeni kapena zongopeka chifukwa cha mantha. Amamamatira ku miyambo, yomwe ingamufikitse kumadera ovuta, koma akhozanso kuopseza kuti: "Ngati sindingathe kuyatsa kompyuta, ndipita kwa abambo anga!"
Makhalidwe abwino olerera
Mwana wokakamizika amafunikira makamaka mayankho, kuyamikiridwa, kutsimikizika kwa luso lake - ndi mafunso okhazikika pa zomwe angafune. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka panthawi zovuta. Ndi bwino kumupatsa zosankha zosiyanasiyana - kusankha. Makolo ayenera kumupatsa malangizo owonjezereka a mmene angachitire zinthu m’moyo. Musamukakamize kuchita zinthu monyanyira pa nkhani ya ufulu wodzilamulira. N’zomveka ngati amachita homuweki m’zigawo zina ndiponso m’njira imene mphunzitsiyo anafotokozera. Kumene kuli mbali yaikulu ya zochita zaulere, mwana wotero kaŵirikaŵiri amadzimva kukhala wosasungika.
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