Mu chikhalidwe chamakono Western, ndi mwambo kuulutsa maganizo abwino. Kuvutika ndi malingaliro oipa kumaonedwa ngati kochititsa manyazi, kuvomereza kufooka m’mikhalidwe. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Tori Rodriguez ndi wotsimikiza kuti sitiyenera kuletsa ndi kubisa zowawa zowawa chifukwa cha thanzi lathu lamaganizo ndi thupi.
Wokondedwa wanga akuyesera kuthetsa ubale wovuta ndi mkazi wake. Monga psychotherapist, ndimayesetsa kumuchirikiza osalola mawu otsutsa. Koma nthawi zambiri, mkati mwa kufotokoza zowawazo, wofuna chithandizo amayamba kupepesa: "Pepani, ndikumva chisoni kwambiri ..."
Cholinga chachikulu cha psychotherapy ndikuphunzira kuzindikira ndi kufotokoza malingaliro onse. Koma ndi zomwe kasitomala akupepesa. Odwala anga ambiri amavutika maganizo kwambiri, kaya ndi mkwiyo wosalamulirika kapena maganizo ofuna kudzipha. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo kudziimba mlandu kapena manyazi chifukwa cha iwo. Izi ndi zotsatira za kutengeka kwa chikhalidwe chathu ndi malingaliro abwino.
Ngakhale ndizothandiza kukulitsa malingaliro abwino, izi siziyenera kukhala chiphunzitso ndi lamulo la moyo.
Mkwiyo ndi chisoni ndizofunikira kwambiri m'moyo, ndipo kafukufuku watsopano wopangidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Jonathan Adler akuwonetsa kuti kukhala ndi moyo ndi kuvomereza maganizo olakwika n'kofunika kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino. "Kumbukirani, timafunikira malingaliro makamaka kuti tiyese zomwe takumana nazo," Adler akugogomezera. Kuyesera kupondereza malingaliro "oipa" kungayambitse kukhutitsidwa ndi moyo. Kuphatikiza apo, ndizosavuta kuphonya zoopsa zomwe zili mu "magalasi amtundu wa rose".
M’malo mobisala ku malingaliro oipa, akumbatireni. Dzilowetseni muzochitika zanu ndipo musayese kusintha
Ngakhale mutapewa kuganiza za mutu wosasangalatsa, malingaliro ocheperako amatha kupitiliza kugwira ntchito motere. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Richard Bryant wa pa yunivesite ya New South Wales ku Sydney anapempha ena mwa omwe anachita nawo kuyesera kuti atseke maganizo osafunika asanagone. Iwo omwe akulimbana ndi iwo eni amatha kuwona fanizo la kusamvetsetsa kwawo m'maloto awo. Chodabwitsa ichi chimatchedwa "kusiya kugona."
M’malo mobisala ku malingaliro oipa, akumbatireni. Dzilowetseni muzochitika zanu ndipo musayese kusintha. Mukakumana ndi zosayenera, kupuma mozama ndi njira zosinkhasinkha zidzathandiza. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kulingalira zomverera ngati mitambo yoyandama - monga chikumbutso kuti simuyaya. Nthawi zambiri ndimauza makasitomala kuti lingaliro ndi lingaliro chabe ndipo kumverera ndikungomva, palibenso china, chocheperapo.
Mutha kuwafotokozera mu diary kapena kuwafotokozeranso kwa wina yemwe ali pafupi nanu. Ngati kusapeza sikuchoka, musapirire - yambani kuchita, kuyankha mwachangu. Uzani mnzanu momasuka kuti mikwingwirima yake idzakupwetekani. Yesani kusintha ntchito zomwe mumadana nazo.
Sizingatheke kukhala ndi moyo osachepera sabata popanda maganizo oipa. M’malo monyalanyaza zinthu zoipa, phunzirani kulimbana nazo.
Tori Rodriguez ndi psychotherapist komanso katswiri wamankhwala a Ayurvedic.