Munthu sangakhale wopanda nkhawa konse - chifukwa cha umunthu wake. Ngati chilipo, adzachipeka yekha. Osati mwachidziwitso, koma chifukwa cholephera kupanga malire aumwini. Kodi timalola bwanji ena kusokoneza moyo wathu ndi choti tichite nawo? Katswiri wa zamaganizo abanja Inna Shifanova akuyankha.
Dostoevsky analemba chinachake motsatira "ngakhale mutadzaza munthu ndi gingerbread, adzadzitsogolera yekha ku imfa." Ndi pafupi kumverera kwa "Ndili moyo."
Ngati moyo uli wodekha, wodekha, palibe zododometsa kapena kuphulika kwamalingaliro, ndiye kuti sizikudziwika kuti ndine ndani, chomwe ndili. Kupanikizika kumatsagana nafe nthawi zonse - osati nthawi zonse zosasangalatsa.
Mawu akuti "kupsyinjika" ali pafupi ndi Russian «kugwedezeka». Ndipo aliyense wamphamvu zinachitikira akhoza kukhala: msonkhano patapita kulekana kwa nthawi yaitali, mosayembekezereka Kukwezeleza ... Mwina, ambiri amadziwa paradoxical kumverera - kutopa ndi zosangalatsa kwambiri. Ngakhale kuchokera ku chisangalalo, nthawi zina mukufuna kumasuka, khalani nokha.
Ngati kupsyinjika kukuchulukana, mwamsanga kapena pambuyo pake matenda amayamba. Chomwe chimatipangitsa kukhala osatetezeka kwambiri ndikusowa malire otetezeka aumwini. Timatenga zochuluka kwambiri ndi ndalama zathu, timalola aliyense amene akufuna kupondaponda gawo lathu.
Timakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mawu aliwonse omwe aperekedwa kwa ife - ngakhale tisanafufuze momveka bwino momwe zilili zachilungamo. Timayamba kukayikira kulondola kwathu ngati wina akutitsutsa kapena udindo wathu.
Ambiri amasankha zinthu zofunika chifukwa chongofuna kusangalatsa ena.
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti kwa nthawi yayitali sitizindikira kuti ndi nthawi yoti tifotokoze zosowa zathu, ndipo timapirira. Tikukhulupirira kuti winayo anganene zomwe tikufuna. Ndipo sakudziwa za vuto lathu. Kapena, mwina, amatinyenga mwadala - koma ndife omwe timamupatsa mwayi wotero.
Choncho, anthu ambiri amapanga zisankho za moyo chifukwa cha chikhumbo chosadziŵa chofuna kukondweretsa ena, kuchita "zoyenera", kukhala "zabwino", ndipo pokhapo amawona kuti adatsutsana ndi zofuna zawo ndi zosowa zawo.
Kulephera kwathu kukhala omasuka mkati kumatipangitsa kudalira chilichonse: ndale, mwamuna, mkazi, bwana ... . Koma ichi ndi chithandizo chosadalirika. Ulamuliro uliwonse ukhoza kulephera ndi kukhumudwitsa. Tikukumana ndi zovuta izi.
Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kusokoneza munthu yemwe ali ndi pakati mkati mwake, yemwe amadziwa kufunika kwake ndi kufunikira kwake mosasamala kanthu za kuunika kwakunja, yemwe amadziwa za iye mwini kuti ndi munthu wabwino.
Mavuto a anthu ena amawonjezera kupsinjika maganizo. Munthu akakhumudwa, ndiyenera kumumvera. Ndipo timamvetsera, timamvera chisoni, osadabwa ngati tili ndi mphamvu zathu zauzimu zokwanira pa izi.
Sitikukana osati chifukwa ndife okonzeka ndipo tikufuna kuthandiza, koma chifukwa sitidziwa momwe kapena timaopa kukana nthawi yathu, chidwi, chifundo. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti mantha ali kumbuyo kwa chilolezo chathu, osati kukoma mtima konse.
Nthawi zambiri azimayi amabwera kwa ine kudzakumana ndi omwe sakhulupirira kufunikira kwawo. Amayesetsa kusonyeza kuti ndi othandiza, mwachitsanzo, m’banja. Izi zimabweretsa kukangana, kufunikira kosalekeza kwa kuunika kwakunja ndi kuyamika kwa ena.
Alibe chithandizo chamkati, kumvetsetsa bwino komwe "Ine" kumathera ndi "dziko" ndi "ena" akuyamba. Amakhudzidwa ndi kusintha kwa chilengedwe ndikuyesera kufanana nawo, akukumana ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse chifukwa cha izi. Ndimaona mmene amachitira mantha kuvomereza kwa iwo eni kuti angakhale ndi malingaliro “oipa”: “Sindimakwiya,” “Ndimakhululukira aliyense.”
Kodi zikuwoneka ngati zilibe kanthu ndi inu? Onani ngati mukuyesera kuyankha foni iliyonse? Kodi mumamva ngati simukuyenera kukagona mpaka mutawerenga makalata anu kapena kuwonera nkhani? Izinso ndi zizindikiro za kusowa kwa malire aumwini.
Ndi mphamvu yathu kuchepetsa kutuluka kwa chidziwitso, kutenga «tsiku lopuma» kapena phunzitsani aliyense kuyimba mpaka ola linalake. Gawani maudindo mu zomwe ife tasankha kukwaniritsa, ndi zomwe wina watikakamiza. Zonsezi ndizotheka, koma zimafuna kudzilemekeza kwambiri.