Kodi kutsekeredwa m’ndende kwakhudza bwanji ana athu?

Katswiri wathu: Sophie Marinopoulos ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, psychoanalyst, katswiri wa ubwana, woyambitsa bungwe la PPSP (Prévention Promotion de la Santé Psychique) komanso malo ake olandirira "Butter pasta", wolemba "Un virus à deux tête, la famille au nthawi ya Covid - 19" (LLL ed.).

Makolo: Kodi mavuto azaumoyo, makamaka nthawi yotsekeredwa, akhudza bwanji ana aang'ono kwambiri?

Sophie Marinopoulos: Ana ang’onoang’ono anatenga vuto limeneli. Chomwe chimalola khanda kukhazikika padziko lapansi ndi mphamvu ya munthu wamkulu yemwe amamusamalira. Komabe, pamene mantha pakati pathu anasanduka chisoni, kulimba kumeneku kunalibe. Makanda akumanapo ndi kuonetsa thupi. Kuyambira pamenepo, pa "Pasta ndi batala" muyezo, tinalandira mafoni angapo kuchokera kwa makolo osokonezeka ndi mawonetseredwe a ana awo, omwe anali osokonezeka, omwe ali ndi maganizo, kugona komanso kudya. makanda omwe chidwi chawo amavutika nacho. Kuwonjezera apo, m’kati mwa kutsekeredwa m’ndende, khanda lirilonse linadzipeza kukhala lodzilekanitsa m’dziko lachikulire, lomanidwa kukhala ndi anzake amene anazoloŵera kukumana nawo m’mbuyomo, ku nazale, kwa olera, m’paki kapena m’khwalala. Sitikuyesabe mmene kulandidwa maulaloku kwawakhudzira, koma tikadziwa kuchuluka kwa makanda omwe amawonera, kumvetserana ndi kudyana wina ndi mzake ndi maso, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.

Mabanja ena akumana ndi mavuto enieni. Kodi anawo ali bwanji?

SM : Kunena kuti anawo sanakhudzidwe kungakhale kukana kotheratu. Iwo angapitirize kumwetulira, koma zimenezo sizikusonyeza kuti akuchita bwino! Ngati wamkuluyo asokonekera, amasokoneza banja lonse, motero kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa zochitika za nkhanza za m'banja ndi m'banja. Pama foni athu ochezera, nthawi zambiri tinkatenga ana pa intaneti kuti tiyese kuwasangalatsa, ndipo timalankhula ndi akuluakulu kuti ayesetse kuthana ndi chiwawacho, kuti zisawonongeke. Aliyense ankafunikira malo ake, chinsinsi pang'ono, ndipo adatha "kukhala pamodzi" kwambiri. Tawonanso milandu yambiri yopatukana pambuyo pa kutsekeredwa m'ndende. Kuti tibwererenso pamlingo wabwino, vuto ndi lalikulu.

Kodi ana athu adzafunika chiyani kuti apindule kwambiri ndi zimene akumana nazo?

SM : Lerolino kuposa ndi kale lonse, makanda afunikira kunenedwa kwa iwo, kuti azindikiridwe mu mkhalidwe wawo monga anthu. Ayenera kupatsidwa malo ofunikira kuti akule, kusewera, kugwiritsa ntchito luso lawo, kuganizira zomwe angodutsamo. Ndi anzeru, amakonda kuphunzira, tiyeni tipewe kuwononga chilichonse powayika pamikhalidwe yomwe sangayime. Amafunika kulolerana kwambiri. Zomwe adakumana nazo zinali zachiwawa chachikulu: kupangitsa aliyense kusewera m'bokosi lolembedwa pansi, lomwe sangadutse malire, zomwe zimapanga kuwukira chifukwa zimasemphana ndi zosowa zake. Kwa iwo omwe akupita kukabwerera koyamba, muyenera kupita patsogolo pa sukulu, kuwawonetsa. Iwo alibe kuzindikira kulikonse, palibe kukonzekera. Tinalumpha masitepe, kudumpha mphindi zofunika izi. Tidzafunika kusintha mmene amaloŵera kusukulu, kuwathandiza kusintha, kuwachirikiza monga momwe tingathere, mololera, mwa kuwathandiza, mwa kuvomereza zimene amanena za mmene amachitira ndi mkhalidwewo.

Ndipo kwa akulu?

SM : Ana azaka 8-10 adakhumudwa kwambiri ndi zomwe zikuchitika kusukulu. Anayenera kukhala ndi chisokonezo pakati pa malo apamtima a banja ndi malo asukulu ophunzirira. Zinali zovuta kuvomereza, makamaka popeza panali chiwopsezo champhamvu: kupambana kwamaphunziro kwa mwana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pazachibwanawe cha makolo. Kumeneko kunali kugundana kwa mutu, makolo anakhumudwa kuti nthawi zonse sankatha kupeza mwana wawo ntchito. Ntchito yophunzitsa ndi yovuta kwambiri ... Kuti makolo apeze malo oti azitha kuchita zinthu mwanzeru, kupanga masewera. Mwachitsanzo, posewera pamene tikufuna kugulitsa nyumba yathu kwa anthu a Chingerezi, timachita masamu ndi Chingerezi… Banja limafuna malo omasuka. Tiyenera kudzilola kuti tidzipangire tokha njira yochitira zinthu, ya moyo. Banja silingavomereze kunyamukanso pa liwiro lomwelo, adzafuna kusintha ndondomeko.

Kodi pali mabanja amene kutsekeredwa m'ndende kwawayendera bwino?

SM : Kutsekeredwa kwapindula kwa makolo pakutopa, komanso makolo achichepere: pambuyo pa kubadwa, banja limakhala losakanikirana, limadzitembenukira palokha, limafuna chinsinsi. Nkhani yake inakwaniritsa zofunika zimenezi. Izi zikuwonetsa kufunikira kowunikanso dongosolo la tchuthi la makolo, kotero kuti makolo onse awiri azikhala ndi nthawi yobwera pamodzi mozungulira mwanayo, mumphukira, popanda kukakamizidwa kulikonse. Ndi chosowa chenicheni.