Kodi mukudziwa kuti nthano za m'banja ndi chiyani? Kodi m’banja mwanu muli bwanji? Kodi amayendetsa bwanji moyo wanu? Ambiri mwina ayi. Sitimaganizira kawirikawiri, koma pali machitidwe omwe amaperekedwa kuchokera ku mibadwomibadwo m'banja lililonse, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa banja Inna Khamitova ndi wotsimikiza.
Ndizovuta kwa munthu yemwe ali wa chikhalidwe chamakono ndi malingaliro ake a munthu wodzipanga yekha ndi lingaliro la kulamulira tsogolo, momwe panopa zimadalira zakale za banja lathu. Koma mmene zinthu zinalili pa moyo wa makolo athu, mavuto amene anakumana nawo komanso mmene anawagonjetsera, zimatikhudza kwambiri masiku ano.
Pali nthano ya banja m'banja lililonse, ngakhale sizidziwika nthawi zonse ndipo sizimanenedwa kawirikawiri ndikuzindikiridwa. Zimatithandizira kudzifotokozera tokha komanso banja lathu, kumanga malire ndi dziko lapansi, zimatsimikizira zomwe timachita pa zomwe zimachitika kwa ife. Zitha kutipatsa mphamvu, chidaliro ndi zida, kapena zitha kukhala zowononga ndi kutilepheretsa kudziyesa moyenera tokha komanso luso lathu.
Zitsanzo za nthano zoterezi ndi nthano za wopulumutsa, za ngwazi, za wochimwa, za kukhala munthu woyenera, za kupulumuka, za centrism ya ana. Nthanoyi imayamba pamene banja limakhala ndi moyo kwa mibadwo ingapo chifukwa cha khalidwe linalake. M'tsogolomu, moyo umasintha ndipo zikuwoneka kuti khalidwe lotere silikufunika, koma mibadwo yotsatira ya banja imabalalitsa mwadala.
Mwachitsanzo, mibadwo ingapo ya banja ankakhala movutikira: kuti apulumuke, kunali koyenera kuchita ntchito pamodzi, kupewa mikangano, ndi zina zotero. Patapita nthawi, mibadwo yotsatira ya banjali inapezeka kuti ili m'mikhalidwe yabwino kwambiri, kupulumuka kwawo sikudalira mwachindunji momwe anthu amagwirira ntchito pamodzi mogwirizana. Komabe, nthano ikupitirizabe kuyendetsa khalidwe lawo, kuwakakamiza kuti "bwenzi kuti apulumuke" ndi anthu osayenera kwathunthu.
Kapena anthu a m'banja lomwelo amazoloŵera kuvutika chifukwa moyo wawo sunakhalepo wokhazikika ndi wotetezeka (monga momwe zinalili zenizeni zakale). Koma mbadwa zomwe zikukhala m’dziko lokhazikika zingathe kudzibweretsera mavuto mwadala, ndiyeno n’kuzigonjetsa mwachipambano. Mkhalidwe wokhazikika, anthuwa amatha kukhala osamasuka. Ndipo ngati mumakumba mozama, ndikufunsa mafunso ena, zimakhala kuti mwachinsinsi amafuna kuti chilichonse chigwe. Amamva bwino mumkhalidwe wankhondo ndi kufunikira kogonjetsa dziko lino, amadziwa momwe angakhalire mumikhalidwe yoteroyo.
Nthawi zambiri nthano ya banja imawoneka ngati kukhulupirika ku malamulo a banja, koma zimachitika kuti imakhalanso ndi chikoka cha pathological.
Tiyerekeze kuti agogo aakazi anu amwa. Wakumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ali ngati nkhandwe, mosinthasintha m'njira ziwiri. Pamene iye ali woledzeretsa - chirichonse chiri bwino, pamene iye waledzera - monstrous. Madzulo aliwonse, agogo aakazi amamvetsera masitepe pa masitepe: ndi abambo otani lero? Chifukwa cha izi, adakula kukhala munthu wokhudzidwa kwambiri yemwe, ndi masitepe omwe ali mukhonde, potembenuza fungulo mu loko, amatha kumvetsetsa zomwe wokondedwa wake ali, ndipo, malingana ndi izi, amabisala kapena kukwawa. .
Pamene mkazi woteroyo akukula, zimakhala kuti alibe chidwi ndi anyamata abwino okhala ndi maluwa a maluwa ndi chibwenzi. Amagwiritsidwa ntchito kusinthika kosatha, pamene mantha amasinthidwa ndi chisangalalo. Inde, sikuti amasankha munthu wodalira kukhala bwenzi lake (ngakhale kuti mwayi ndi wochuluka kwambiri), koma amagwirizanitsa moyo wake ndi wina yemwe angamupatse kupsinjika maganizo nthawi zonse. Kungakhale munthu amene wasankha ntchito monyanyira, kapena, kunena, sociopath. Okwatirana oterowo ali ndi ana, ndipo chitsanzocho chimadutsa ku mibadwomibadwo, ndipo kuledzera kwa agogo-agogo kumakhudza khalidwe la mbadwa.
Nthawi zambiri banja nthano zimawoneka ngati kukhulupirika kwa malamulo a m'banja, kupitiriza, nthawi zina zimabwera kwa ife mwa chikhalidwe cha banja, koma zimachitika kuti zimakhalanso ndi chikoka cha pathological, ndiyeno muyenera kugwira nawo ntchito.
Koma, chofunika kwambiri, sitingachizindikire m’miyoyo yathu yonse—makamaka ngati sitiganizira zakale za banja lathu, sitiyang’ana zifukwa za zochita zathu mmenemo. Popeza mibadwo yambiri m'dziko lathu yakumana ndi nkhondo, zipolowe, kuponderezana, timanyamula zonsezi mwa ife tokha, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri sitikumvetsa kuti ndi chiyani. Chitsanzo chophweka kwambiri: ena ndi olemera kwambiri ndipo sangathe kusiya chinachake pa mbale yawo, ngakhale atadzaza, osaganiza kuti chifukwa chake ndi chakuti agogo awo aakazi anapulumuka kuzingidwa kwa Leningrad.
Choncho nthano za m’banja si nkhani yongopeka chabe, koma ndi nkhani imene imakhudza aliyense wa ife. Ndipo popeza amatitsogolera, zingakhale bwino kumumvetsa bwinoko pang’ono. Nthanoyi ili ndi gwero lazinthu zazikulu - tikangodzipezera tokha, mipata yatsopano imawonekera m'moyo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati nthano za m’banja lathu zimafuna kuti tizingokhalira kumangolankhula nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti n’zosadabwitsa kuti sitingathe kumasuka komanso kumasuka.
Izi ndizo: kukambirana za nthano zomwe zilipo komanso momwe zimapangidwira kuti pulogalamu ya "Games ndi Hedonism" idzaperekedwa monga gawo la ntchito yophunzitsa "Shatology". Ophunzira azitha kukonza nkhani za mabanja awo ndikusankha zomwe akufuna kusintha mu nthano za m'banjamo ndi zomwe akufuna kupita nazo m'chaka chatsopano.
Mukazindikira nthano za banja lanu, mutha kuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti mukhale olimba komanso moyo wanu kukhala wabwino.