Zoyenera kuchita ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo muli ndi magawo osiyanasiyana ogona

Woseketsa Kumail Nanjiani komanso wolemba/wopanga Emily W. Gordon, omwe amapanga buku la Love Is a Sickness, nthawi ina adapanga chisankho chogona nthawi yomweyo usiku uliwonse, mosasamala kanthu za zochita zawo za tsiku ndi tsiku.

Zonse zidayamba motere: zaka zingapo zapitazo, ali pantchito, Gordon adadzuka ndikutuluka mnyumbamo kuposa Nanjiani, koma abwenziwo adagwirizana kuti agone nthawi yomweyo. Patapita zaka zingapo, ndandanda yawo inasintha, ndipo tsopano Nanjiani anadzuka msangamsanga, koma banjali linakakamirabe ku pulani yoyambayo, ngakhale kuti anayenera kugona XNUMX koloko madzulo. Othandizana nawo akuti zidawathandiza kuti azikhala olumikizana, makamaka ngati nthawi zantchito zimawalekanitsa.

Tsoka, si aliyense amene amachita bwino zomwe Nanjiani ndi Gordon adachita: kugawanika kukhala "larks" ndi "kadzidzi" sikunathe, maulendo a circadian a okondedwa nthawi zambiri samagwirizana. Komanso, zimachitika kuti m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo akudwala kusowa tulo kapena ndandanda ndizosiyana kwambiri kotero kuti mukagona limodzi, padzakhala nthawi yochepa yogona.

Mayr Kruger, katswiri wa kugona pa Yale Institute anati: “Ndipo kusagona kosatha kumawononga mkhalidwe wathu ndi mmene timamvera. "Timagona, timakwiya msanga, ndipo luntha lathu la kuzindikira limachepa." M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, kusowa tulo kungayambitse mavuto a mtima, kusokonezeka kwa kagayidwe kachakudya, ndi kulephera kwa chitetezo cha m’thupi.

Koma m’malo moimba mlandu mnzanuyo kuti sakugona mokwanira, akatswiri amalangiza kuchitira zinthu limodzi kuthetsa vutolo.

Zindikirani kuti mumafunika kugona mosiyanasiyana

Rafael Pelayo, katswiri wa kugona ku Stanford Medical Center anati: “Kuzindikira kusiyana n’kofunika kwambiri pothetsa vutoli. Mutha kukhala ndi zosowa zosiyanasiyana, ndipo zili bwino. Yesani kukambirana momasuka ndi moona mtima momwe mungathere popanda kuweruzana.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Jesse Warner-Cohen anati: “Tiyenera kukambirana zimenezi zisanachitike n’kuyamba kukangana.

Yesani kugona ndi/kapena kudzuka pamodzi

Nanjiani ndi Gordon adakwanitsa - mwina muyenera kuyesanso? Komanso, zosankha zingakhale zosiyana. "Mwachitsanzo, ngati mmodzi wa inu akusowa kugona pang'ono, mukhoza kusankha chinthu chimodzi: kugona kapena kudzuka m'mawa pamodzi," akutero Pelayo.

Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kukhala ndi zibwenzi kumapita kukagona nthawi imodzi kumakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino pa momwe amayi amaonera ubale wawo komanso kumawapatsa chitonthozo komanso kuyanjana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo. Inde, izi zidzayenera kunyengerera, koma ndizoyenera.

Gona ndi kugona ngakhale sukumva ngati kugona

Kugona nthawi yomweyo kumatanthawuza nthawi zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wabwino. Izi ndizokambirana zachinsinsi (zomwe zimatchedwa "zokambirana pansi pa zophimba"), kukumbatirana, ndi kugonana. Zonsezi zimatithandiza kukhala omasuka komanso “kudyerana” wina ndi mnzake.

Kotero ngakhale mutakhala kadzidzi usiku ndikugona mochedwa kuposa mnzako woyamba wa mbalame, mungafunebe kugona naye kuti mulimbikitse mgwirizano pakati panu. Ndipo, kawirikawiri, palibe chomwe chimakulepheretsani kubwerera ku bizinesi yanu wokondedwa wanu atagona.

Pangani mpweya wabwino m'chipinda chogona

Ngati simukuyenera kudzuka m'mawa, wotchi ya alamu ya mnzanuyo imatha kukuchititsani misala. Chifukwa chake, Pelayo akulangizani kuti mukambirane mozama zomwe zingakudzutseni. Sankhani zomwe zimakuyenererani: wotchi ya "alaliki", mawonekedwe opanda phokoso pafoni yanu, kapena nyimbo yomwe nonse mumakonda. Chinachake chomwe sichidzakusokonezani inu kapena mnzanu wogona - ndipo mulimonse, zotsekera m'makutu ndi chophimba chakugona sizikusokonezani.

Ngati inu kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mukugubuduzika kosalekeza, yesani kusintha matiresi anu-akulu ndi olimba, ndibwino.

Lumikizanani ndi katswiri

Zochita zosiyanasiyana za tsiku ndi tsiku zili kutali ndi vuto lalikulu: zimachitika kuti mmodzi wa okondedwa akudwala kusowa tulo, amawombera kapena akuyenda mu tulo. Izi sizimangomuvulaza, komanso zimalepheretsa wokondedwa wake kugona mokwanira. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kukaonana ndi katswiri. “Vuto lako ndi vuto la mnzakonso,” akukumbutsa motero Mayr Kruger.

Gona m'mabedi kapena zipinda zosiyanasiyana

Chiyembekezochi chimasokoneza ambiri, koma nthawi zina ndi njira yokhayo yotulukira. "Nthawi ndi nthawi kupita kuzipinda zogona zosiyanasiyana sikwabwino," akutero Jesse Warner-Cohen. Ngati nthawi yomweyo nonse mukumva kupumula m'maŵa, zikhala bwino pachibwenzi.

Mutha kuyesa kusinthana: khalani limodzi usiku wina, wina muzipinda zosiyanasiyana. Yesani, yesani, yang'anani njira yomwe ikugwirizana ndi zonsezi. “Mukamagona limodzi koma osagona mokwanira, m’mawa mumamva kuti mwathyoka moti miyendo yanu imalephera kusuntha, amafunikira ndani? katswiri wa zamaganizo akufunsa. "Ndikofunikira kuti nonse mukhale omasuka momwe mungathere wina ndi mzake - osati pa nthawi yodzuka, komanso pogona."